and his spoiled versus borderline daughter

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Dear , I just read your post concerning your almost 12 year old

daughter. As the mother of 5 kids ages 13,15,16,18 and 20 I have a

few thoughts. (my 15 year old has borderline traits and this support

group has helped my tremendously) First of all, from listening to

many of my friends and co-workers, it seems to be really difficult

to raise an only child, especially a female. I'm not sure why this

is but only daughters seems to be really high maintainence,

especially as young teens. They can be very demanding and have a

hard time understanding that other people have needs and rights too.

They simply have a hard time learning the give and take part of

living with other people and seem to have a harder time maintaining

friendships. There are a few books that have helped me a lot in

parenting, I just posted about them yesterday. The first is

parenting Teens With Love and Logic, by Cline and . The

reason I love this book so much is that it differentiates and

defines Drill Sargent parenting and Helicopter parenting and

explains why neither of these strategies are effective.(we were

doing both). The book explains what it is to be a consultant parent

and why this is a more effective strategy. The second half of this

book contains " pearls of wisdom " addressing common dilemas. cindy