yellowflipmountain

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group. That is quite the emailname. Is there

something shorter that we could call you? It doesn't have to be

your real name. My name is cindy and I have an almost 15 year old

daughter with depression, anxiety and BPD traits. She is a cutter

and after 6 psychiatric hospitalizations in just over a year ended

up in a residential treatment center for kids with emotional issues.

This group has literally been a God send for me. I have learned so

much through people simply sharing their stories and struggles. It

is really good to come to the realization that you are not alone and

your daughters problems are not your fault. If you have not read

Stop Walking on Eggshells I would highly recommend getting a copy

and reading it. Also Eggshells press publishes a book called Coping

with your Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing your Family

or Yourself. Another thing that has been helpful for us is that

during our daughters second mental health hospitalization we

requested a Childrens mental Health Social Worker through our

county. I can tell you more about this if you are interested.

There are two more books that I found very helpful. The first is Co-

dependent No More by Melody Beattie and the second one was Parenting

Teens with Love and Logic by Kline and . The later book was

sort of a reality check for me to verify how normal teens behave and

the appropriate response of an effective parent. My last piece of

unsolicited advice is to really take good care of your self and your

new husband and your other child. You probably have already been

hving some rough times and it may get worse. You need to find joy

in every day and joy in the things that are going well in your

life. One last thing. Faith in Jesus Christ helps a lot. Hope this

helps, cindy