Guest guest Posted July 11, 2005 Report Share Posted July 11, 2005 I truly appreciate your responses to my first email re. my daughter and executive function. I could hardly wait to get to my computer this morning to check my mail. Just knowing people are out there for me helps so much. I live most of the time in Mexico. My truly wonderful therapist told me I just had to go on with my own life several years ago. We both knew that with my daughter I could only be part of the problem and not part of the solution. But I needed her " permission " to really leave and not feel I was deserting her. So I'm very fortunate that I don't have to see the daily chaos. My heart goes out to those of you who do, and I know it must take a tremendous amount of strength. The love and caring that comes through in you posts makes it so clear that you're not " monster mothers " so maybe I'm not either. I'm at a bad place now, she's just recently been hospitalized for the 3rd time. I'm returning to the Bay area to let my 2 grandaughters know that I'd be there for them not matter where I lived. I'll only stay 6 weeks. I wrote my daughter and told her I wanted to see the kids, they're with their father, and gave her the number for where I'd be staying. I told her that if she wanted to contact me that would be fine and if not I understand. She's always loved my relationship with the kids, has never kept them from me. I'm so lucky. She's also never asked anything of me, money, babysit, etc. as she's tried for years to separate ----- that's been hard for both of us. I'm just now seeing that clearly. Her statement a few years back was, " It's not that I don't like you, I just don't like how I feel when I'm around you " . Have your kids expressed that? She apparently quit her DBT group that she was making good progress in and was excited about continuing until about 2 weeks ago. Also, she went off her meds, hence the big crisis now.Staying in the here and now, not going off into fears about the future for both her and the kids is a major challange for me. At the moment I'm not doing real well. Thanks for listening. Any advice appreciated. Louise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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