Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Hey I miss you too Sara ! Why don't you get Pete to write just a few words down so you at least know the subject of conversation, the chat should not have to stop. Most times it only takes one or two words for me to understand what's going on then contribute or DOMINATE the conversation ( Im good at that hahaha ) But what you write about happens to all of us deafies, it sucks no doubt about that. You are not alone in what you feel. Can't wait to get together again my friend .. Marcus ( below left to right ) Marcus Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 30 is a beautiful age jimmy, happpppppppy big one. I sat at my pc on my 30th birthday eve reflecting and finding web sites about turning 30 :-) most said its not 30 that you have to worry about, its the big 4 0!!!!! :-) cindy 8 years away from that one! Well begeebers,I didn't think anyone could be sader then I was,on the eve o> f my 30th birthday.Oh,turning 30 is no big deal,but nf2 has really robbed m> e of the " joys of aging " .I already know what it's like to use a caine,wear> a hearing aide,or sit down when I put my underwear on.Sighhhhhhh,I guess t> he only thing to look forward to is hair loss..........I'm glad you will be> in Columbus Sara.I know how lousy it is when you don't fit in the group.Th> at's the main reason I decided to go visit jeff,and invited anyone who want> s to come.I have a plan too,to help you get out and travel more.How about I> let you wear my new birthday crown to the nudie bar!!!!!!!!.When all the g> uys start handing you money,you just put it in your pocket.With in an hour > you'll be able to buy your own private Jet. > Jimmy > > > > Tonight I'm so sad. I'm just laying awake thinking. Thinking thinking its> > driving me nuts. My hearing friends both have kids and heres noone round > here > to do anything with my age. Makes me sad my best friends were like sister> s t > me then after I lost my heraing shari didn't understand or maybe she didn> 't > try. Now everytime I try to talk to her about my problems she has to go. > She > doesn't like to hear much about good things tha happen to me either. Pete> > says it started when we built our house. My other dear friend is Nikki. S> he > tries really hard to understand and listens and laughs we have a great ti> me > when we can but she has 2 young children who keep her quite occupied. > Which brings my thoughts to the NF con and how fantastic it was to be aro> und > people who totally understod what it is like to be " me " Being in a room f> ull > of people who I finally could relax around I finally felt at home in the> > first time in years. Going to friends houses and visiting always ends up > with > me siting there while everyone laughs and has a great time around me. The> n > one of them will stop to tell me maybe one sentence in the conversation w> hile > the rest get real serious and stop and wait till the person actually gets> > " thru " to me so they can resume the fun. > I miss all of you sooo much. I guess I am having a Sara pity party tonigh> t. > LOL Wish I could drink cause tonight calls for a beer i think lol. > I get so tired on waiting on someone to drive me from here to there. I am> > actually thinking about investing in greyhound so I can do more. > I had a pretty good day though don't know why I'm sad now. So pretty out > and > all our mom's loved their flower baskets I made them it made me feel real> ly > good to see them smile. > Well the house is pretty cold guess I'll go back to bed now snuggle up to> > Pete. Maybe i'm just really tired. Been overdoing it I always get whin> ey > when I'm tired LOL! Anyhow I do really miss you all and can't wait till I> can > see you again. Looks like we'll be going to Columbus in May!!! Pete says> > sounds ok to him Poor guy broke out in hives today from his step moms> > cats. Hes really allergic! I've seen his face swell up bad from it before> but > he caught it today just as it started and took a benadryl. I was hacking> > there too lol I think they are trying to kill us. > Good night all, > Sending you all my love > Sara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Hi Sara...Been there, done that... I have lost many friends over the past 2 years, some who I thought cared more than anything. Soon as I got real sick, closed my business, most of them abandoned me. I have trained myself to look at it as though it is their loss and don't have a nice person in their life anymore. Would any of your friends be willing to take a sign language course with you? Or you might look into groups where you can find someone to do things with, things you have in common with. I also try to see their side of it...maybe they don't know how you feel or how to handle the situation, especially the first friend you mentioned. Can the two of you go to lunch by yourselves so you can have time with her??? I think we are the ones who have to take the first step sometimes. Knowing you from this board, I am glad you are in my life. Without you guys here, I don't know where I would be! I tend to have a pity-party sometimes too..LOL! But we are all allowed at some point! Hugs...Carol STUR106054@... wrote: Tonight I'm so sad. I'm just laying awake thinking. Thinking thinking its driving me nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Well begeebers,I didn't think anyone could be sader then I was,on the eve of my 30th birthday.Oh,turning 30 is no big deal,but nf2 has really robbed me of the "joys of aging".I already know what it's like to use a caine,wear a hearing aide,or sit down when I put my underwear on.Sighhhhhhh,I guess the only thing to look forward to is hair loss..........I'm glad you will be in Columbus Sara.I know how lousy it is when you don't fit in the group.That's the main reason I decided to go visit jeff,and invited anyone who wants to come.I have a plan too,to help you get out and travel more.How about I let you wear my new birthday crown to the nudie bar!!!!!!!!.When all the guys start handing you money,you just put it in your pocket.With in an hour you'll be able to buy your own private Jet. Jimmy Tonight I'm so sad. I'm just laying awake thinking. Thinking thinking its driving me nuts. My hearing friends both have kids and heres noone round here to do anything with my age. Makes me sad my best friends were like sisters t me then after I lost my heraing shari didn't understand or maybe she didn't try. Now everytime I try to talk to her about my problems she has to go. She doesn't like to hear much about good things tha happen to me either. Pete says it started when we built our house. My other dear friend is Nikki. She tries really hard to understand and listens and laughs we have a great time when we can but she has 2 young children who keep her quite occupied. Which brings my thoughts to the NF con and how fantastic it was to be around people who totally understod what it is like to be "me" Being in a room full of people who I finally could relax around I finally felt at home in the first time in years. Going to friends houses and visiting always ends up with me siting there while everyone laughs and has a great time around me. Then one of them will stop to tell me maybe one sentence in the conversation while the rest get real serious and stop and wait till the person actually gets "thru" to me so they can resume the fun. I miss all of you sooo much. I guess I am having a Sara pity party tonight. LOL Wish I could drink cause tonight calls for a beer i think lol. I get so tired on waiting on someone to drive me from here to there. I am actually thinking about investing in greyhound so I can do more. I had a pretty good day though don't know why I'm sad now. So pretty out and all our mom's loved their flower baskets I made them it made me feel really good to see them smile. Well the house is pretty cold guess I'll go back to bed now snuggle up to Pete. Maybe i'm just really tired. Been overdoing it I always get whiney when I'm tired LOL! Anyhow I do really miss you all and can't wait till I can see you again. Looks like we'll be going to Columbus in May!!! Pete says sounds ok to him Poor guy broke out in hives today from his step moms cats. Hes really allergic! I've seen his face swell up bad from it before but he caught it today just as it started and took a benadryl. I was hacking there too lol I think they are trying to kill us. Good night all, Sending you all my love Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 --- cinnyd@... wrote: > 30 is a beautiful age jimmy, Jimmy, she's lying. Her pants are literally on fire. Turning 30 sucks. Go get drunk! haha....... - 31 and wishing I was still 19. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Geez Sara, you should have cometo Mike 's! I know exactly what you mean, I think we all do; the person I thought was my best friend has totally cut me off; I saw her maybe once in the past year; and I thought she was a very compassionate, intelligent person, and never thought she would act like this; it is tough enough to have to endure the isolation, but to be rejected by someone you really went out of your way for?? When we were at Mike's, the pencils were flying! Mike's whole family was writing and so patient! Marie :(Tonight I'm so sad. I'm just laying awake thinking. Thinking thinking its driving me nuts. My hearing friends both have kids and heres noone round here to do anything with my age. Makes me sad my best friends were like sisters t me then after I lost my heraing shari didn't understand or maybe she didn't try. Now everytime I try to talk to her about my problems she has to go. She doesn't like to hear much about good things tha happen to me either. Pete says it started when we built our house. My other dear friend is Nikki. She tries really hard to understand and listens and laughs we have a great time when we can but she has 2 young children who keep her quite occupied. Which brings my thoughts to the NF con and how fantastic it was to be around people who totally understod what it is like to be "me" Being in a room full of people who I finally could relax around I finally felt at home in the first time in years. Going to friends houses and visiting always ends up with me siting there while everyone laughs and has a great time around me. Then one of them will stop to tell me maybe one sentence in the conversation while the rest get real serious and stop and wait till the person actually gets "thru" to me so they can resume the fun. I miss all of you sooo much. I guess I am having a Sara pity party tonight. LOL Wish I could drink cause tonight calls for a beer i think lol. I get so tired on waiting on someone to drive me from here to there. I am actually thinking about investing in greyhound so I can do more. I had a pretty good day though don't know why I'm sad now. So pretty out and all our mom's loved their flower baskets I made them it made me feel really good to see them smile. Well the house is pretty cold guess I'll go back to bed now snuggle up to Pete. Maybe i'm just really tired. Been overdoing it I always get whiney when I'm tired LOL! Anyhow I do really miss you all and can't wait till I can see you again. Looks like we'll be going to Columbus in May!!! Pete says sounds ok to him Poor guy broke out in hives today from his step moms cats. Hes really allergic! I've seen his face swell up bad from it before but he caught it today just as it started and took a benadryl. I was hacking there too lol I think they are trying to kill us. Good night all, Sending you all my love Sara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 nononononono You got it all wrong ! its the big 50 you have to worry about.. Marcus 8 years from that one .... > 30 is a beautiful age jimmy, happpppppppy big one. I sat at my pc on my 30th > birthday eve reflecting and finding web sites about turning 30 :-) most said > its not 30 that you have to worry about, its the big 4 0!!!!! :-) > > cindy 8 years away from that one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Take it from someone who has " been there, done that, with all of them. Marcus is right, I think it's the big 50! Marie Marcus wrote: > nononononono You got it all wrong ! its the big 50 you have to worry > about.. > Marcus 8 years from that one .... > > > 30 is a beautiful age jimmy, happpppppppy big one. I sat at my pc on my > 30th > > birthday eve reflecting and finding web sites about turning 30 :-) most > said > > its not 30 that you have to worry about, its the big 4 0!!!!! :-) > > > > cindy 8 years away from that one! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 In a message dated 5/14/01 11:12:23 AM Pacific Daylight Time, HandsomeJimmy@... writes: << Well begeebers,I didn't think anyone could be sader then I was,on the eve of my 30t >> Happy Birthday Jimmy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs and kisses from Lori Jo I remember what the big 30 felt like I dreaded it. In Sept I will be hitting the big 37! Arghhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!! Have a great birthday and all good blessings to you too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 This is so true Marie. I understand you Sara and feel "cut" off too. My two best friends I rarely see:( Con was just amazing!! People actually WANTED me to share my opinion! Write what I wanted and read what they had to say. I havent been so touched in my life. I cant wait til next years:) I just wanted you to know Im always here for you!! I wish we were closer but we can write each other!! ~~Lowi:) Re: Geez Sara, you should have cometo Mike 's! I know exactly what you mean, I think we all do; the person I thought was my best friend has totally cut me off; I saw her maybe once in the past year; and I thought she was a very compassionate, intelligent person, and never thought she would act like this; it is tough enough to have to endure the isolation, but to be rejected by someone you really went out of your way for?? When we were at Mike's, the pencils were flying! Mike's whole family was writing and so patient! Marie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 14, 2001 Report Share Posted May 14, 2001 Lori wrote : Con was just amazing!! People actually WANTED me to share my opinion! Well well well Doesn't necessarily mean I agreed with your opinion Lori ! OK ??? Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr you were wrong by the way , I was right . hahahahaha Marcus home doing work Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 15, 2001 Report Share Posted May 15, 2001 Sara How does the song go "Don't worry, be happy". I can only imagine how you must feel, as I haven't had to face a loss of hearing yet. It's amazing that some friends don't realise what they are losing by not understanding and communication with you. I have a friend, who at times over the years, could be a little shallow. But when I was suffering very bad symptoms, prior to my diagnosis, she was there for me everyday for approx 4 months. Phone calls, visits, encouragement, more giving than even she could believe of herself. She helped sustain me through that period and I will always remember that. Us Scorpions, like Elephants, don't forget good. Cuddle up to Pete, even if he is asleep, remember he's there for you. Oh' and it's only 11 months until the next CON. Regards, ine Tonight I'm so sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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