Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi Ya know, the first time I brought Abby out, we ran into another banded baby at the mall!! LOL What luck huh??? It was sooooo relieving for me, and for that mom as well, she hadn't seen any other banded babies til my Abby. Small world. Don't worry about it, you'll be very insecure about it at first and you'll definitley notice all the stares & whispers more than you will say 2 mos from now (and you may think someone is staring, when they really aren't!). But really, it's not all that bad. You do get stares, but I'd stare too at something that was " different " , it's just human nature. Let it all roll off your back and pay NO attention to it. I know,easy for me to say now, but really, pay no attention to it You're doing the best for your baby - be proud! Debbie > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi , My best piece advice for taking your son out for the first time is to simply love him as much as normal, smile at him, kiss him whenever you can, generally speaking don't treat him any differnet. Then....Smile at everyone who looks at you both (and they will look), know what you will say when they ask why he is wearing a helmet/band (and sooner or later someone will ask) and lastly, and I know this sounds goofy, but make sure that you are looking good/presentable. I have a tendency to run errands looking like a bum, and I was so much more self conscious of everything when my hair wasn't done, and I was in ripped stained sweat pants with spit up on my shoulder. LOL The days that I actually pulled myself together, I felt much better about the people staring and the questions. - mom to Aidan > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 , The first few times are a bit scary. You do see people stare and galk, but I'm sure it's just stares of curiousity. To date nobody has yet ask me what his helmet is for. You hear other members saying complete strangers come up to them and are totally rude. Again, we haven't experienced anything negative. Actually, you may even see more smiles. People automatically think there is something wrong (handicapp?)so they want to be extra nice. At least this is what I've surmised when people smile at . He seems to get more attention now then before. Maybe it's a Midwest thing(we're outside of Chicago)though. Good luck, Crista Mom to -9 mo old-DOCbanded 5/13 brachy > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 I wasn't nervous but maybe it's because we were going to his primary peds office for a 9 month well visit. There was 1 woman in the waiting room and 2 boys (not with her) about 7 & 9 yrs. old. The adult woman stared more than the young boys! It didn't really bother me though. The boys were busy playing a video game. My husband took him to the salon when he went to get his haircut. No one was rude to him nor asked questions. One woman said, " that doesn't seem to really bother him at all! " Then he explained it to her. I'll admit, I don't really want to take him to the grocery store or mall but if I have to I will and all I will do is just smile alot. Who cares what other people think. I'm used to people staring at my cute little baby when he didn't have a helmet on so who knows what they are thinking. They might just be thinking " what a cute baby " !!! You are helping your baby. :-) GL Sue Colin F. 9 mos. brachy STARband 6/29 Buffalo, NY > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 , I was very nervous and scared the first time I took out in public banded. People were very rude and it bothered me a great deal. It bothered me the entire time she was banded. I'm in the minority though. The stares don't bother most parents. I have yet to see another banded baby in my area. > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hello When my first child had plagio we did get a few stares and a few children laughed at him, but I just gave them dirty looks. The good news is that most people are not like that and your child won't even notice what is going on. Believe me a few looks now are much better than a mis-shapped head and problems when they are a teenager. My daughter will be getting a helmet in a few weeks (yes a second child with plagio - despite all my repositioning) and I know it will be uncomfortable for me but not her. What will get me through is knowing that this will be one less drama or issue to deal with when how she looks matters to her. So please just ignore the looks and for those who ask use it as an opportunity to educate them about plagio. Good luck -Kair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi , I was a little nervous about making our first " public appearance " too. We went to Garden Ridge which is about 2-3 miles from Cranial Tech. We ended up running into another banded baby there!! It made the whole experience much easier. has been in his band for 7 weeks now and I think I have only had 3 people ask me about it. I did have an older man at Walmart follow me around (I just smiled at him and went about my business). He finally came up to me and asked me about the band. He said his grandson had been in one too. I think most people are just curious and don't mean to be rude. It does help that I put 's name on the front of his band. Most people will just say start talking to him and he LOVES all of the attention. Good luck and keep us posted! Jill and (8 mos, DOC 5/20) Dallas > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 Our 9 month old baby was banded yesterday. We weren't concerned about what people would say because we plan to educate them. Especially the pregnant moms to be. Our main concern was our 9 year old son who is very protective over his baby brother. Our first outing today was to a grocery store where we had a few looks but an elderly lady came over to us and said " He was in the newspaper right " ? I kindly responed thank you but it wasn't him but I am glad more people are becoming educated. And our whole family had smiles on their faces because we were fortunate to have a good first outing. > > > > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > > stares and whatnot. > > > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2004 Report Share Posted July 8, 2004 It's important to assume that any attention is positive attention. Folks think your baby is adorable and are a little worried that he might be sick or have had surgery, that's all. Some people are a little weird (they get in your space to have a closer look without actually talking to you) but they just have social problems and they aren't trying to be mean. People often approach us and ask about my son's band, but it's usually because their child or a friend's child had a helmet (sometimes for seizures, not plagio). The ones that kill me are the grandmas who come up and say the parents decided against a helmet, and now the child is 8 and is really funny-lookin' and gets teased at school and needs braces. So feel good about that helmet! And the more stickers you slap on that thing, the more happy the attention will be. People will use the decorations as a way to approach and ask you without asking you. You know, like going, " Oh, happy face stickers! How cute! Are you a happy little baby? What's your name... " They'll talk to the baby until you answer for him, and then once you're talking to them they ask what the helmet is for. People are really funny and cute about it. Very predictable. Don't be embarrassed or scared. My son is very social and I think the attention has been good for him. Plus all the neighborhood kids think he's a real prince (check out " parker " in the plagio kids photo section) so they've quit stealing his toys. Mostly. , 19 mos, tort, DOC Band 5/7 > > > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > > stares and whatnot. > > > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2004 Report Share Posted July 9, 2004 Hey , I have not banded Kadie (as of yet) we are working on repoing her first but if she does get banded I have thought about this alot. My thought...... I will use teh opportunity to educate ppl as much as I can. Just about everyone knows somone who has a baby and the more this gets out the more help in the professional field we will get. I have even thought of making fliers and keeping them in Kadies' diaper bag and hand them to ppl when they ask and if I have the nerve lol I will jsut hand them to ppl who stare and say " just so you know " lol Most of all..... try and remember..... WHO GIVES A _______ you are helping your baby and HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH GIRL you are the epitomy of a FANTASTIC mommie and you are taking the right steps know matter what to give your baby the best in HER life. GOODLUCK and GO GET'EM!!!!!!!!!!!! Sheri mom to Kadie ( tort/resolved plagio/repoing ) > How did you feel the first time you went out in PUBLIC with your > beautiful banded baby??? I am so scared of this. I know we will > get used to it quick but I dont know for sure how to handle the > stares and whatnot. > > & Christian G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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