Another OT ?...This one's innocent...LOL

July 13, 2004

Hi Everyone (Again),

I just couldn't see putting these 2 questions together...LOL I need some advice on some issues, and I know the people to ask are the ones who have kiddos and experience!!! My younger sis (she has 2 kiddos..3yr old girl and a 9 mth old boy) whom I love very much has totally ticked me off !! She is constantly comparing our babies on everything, from how much they weigh to who talks more. Now normally I just blow it off, but we went to the Zoo last week and she went over the line. I was making sure was not getting too hot and was giving her plenty of fluids and keeping a portable fan on her, when my sis basically said I was just over-prtecting my child!!! She was heard telling my brother, who I hadn't seen in 2 years (he's in the Air force) that I used the band to get attention!!! I had stopped to take her band off and wipe her head down when a couple stopped and asked us some questions about

the band (their niece is getting one). I of course took the time to answer all their questions and by the time we were through we had about 4 families listening. So was I wrong to take the time to help them??? My sis says we were there as a family and I should have just given them the handout I made and gone on walking!! She has me second-guessing myself on educating others about tort and plagio.

Now we have another problem...she has told my mom I am not feeding right, my mom told her she was full of it(Love My Momma!!). is 10 months and weighs nearly 22 lbs. She does not eat a lot of jar baby food, she will spit it back out at you if it is not seasoned. So I now season, just a little, all her jar food and put it in a bowl. My sister says that by now should be eating 4 jars a day. I thought babies could stay mainly forumla fed for the first year?? Am I wrong?? Also when can a baby start eating eggs??? loves to eat what I am eating at the time and I ate eggs this morning, but didn't know whether she could or not.

Ok I know this is all boring you to death...but I am just frustrated. How do I get her to stop comparing our kids? How do I get her to understand that 's delays are because of her tort?? Sometimes she talks to my daughter like she is mentally delayed, those are the times when I really use self control. Any Advice would be greatly appreciated.

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July 13, 2004

Hi ,

Yeah this just doens't fit in the same category as your last post.

Ugh to your sil. First, if possible continue to ignore her. You're

a first time mom and she should remember how protective she was with

her first. My twin sister (mom of two, 4 and 21 months) makes fun of

me at times but I know I am doing what's best for my daughter when it

comes to keeping her cool and what I feed her.

Good for you on educating some folks. Taking the time to talk to

them probably made more of an impact than just your handout. They

were obviously very interested. We know you did not get a band for

the attention. Nobody wants that much hassle, frustration or anxiety

for a couple of minutes extra attention.

At 10 months can be eating some table foods if she is ready.

Up until one year the AAP says babies get the majority of their

nutrition from formula. Now it would be wise to start to prepare her

for 1 year when you wean her off the formula. Have you tried the

gerber pick-ups (little raviolis) or little entrees? Cut them in

half or quarters - much tastier than baby food. Can she eat

cheerios? If so how about kix? Nurtigrain frozen waffles broken

into bite size pieces with mushed banana on top? Soft fruits? Dole

light fruit cups? My dd still took 28 oz of formula at her 1st

birthday via bottle. At 13 months she is down to one bottle of whole

milk (4 oz) and then other milk or dairy products to suplement. She

also eats very little jar baby food (we sneak one in every now and

then to get rid of the supply). She eats a lot of gerber graduates

little entrees. If we are having food which is soft enough and can

be broken into little pieces she gets some of it too. I do not salt

any of her food, other spices are ok, but try to avoid salt. Typical

foods include:

dairy: yogurt (whole milk with fat kind), cheese cubes (cut in half

or quarters), cheese slices

Grains: bread, rolls, waffles, pancakes, cheerios, kix, other cereal

occasionally, baby oatmeal (for nutritional value)

fruits (cut into little pieces): berries, banana, peaches, plums,

kiwi, apple (thin little pieces), fruit cups (light syrup) great for

on the go but messy (drain as much of the syrup as possibly first)

meat (litte pieces, soft melt in your mouth type): ribs, baby meat

sticks (cut length wise and then in little pieces, otherwise can be a

choking hazard), pot roast, ground hamburger

cooked veggies (carrots, squash, brocolli, cauliflower, green beans,

peas)

BTW DD has 7 teeth.

Sorry this was long.

HTH

mom to na (13 months)

DOC Grad 2/20/04

--- In Plagiocephaly , kelly <docbandbabies@s...>

wrote:

> Hi Everyone (Again),

>

> I just couldn't see putting these 2 questions

together...LOL I need some advice on some issues, and I know the

people to ask are the ones who have kiddos and experience!!! My

younger sis (she has 2 kiddos..3yr old girl and a 9 mth old boy) whom

I love very much has totally ticked me off !! She is constantly

comparing our babies on everything, from how much they weigh to who

talks more. Now normally I just blow it off, but we went to the Zoo

last week and she went over the line. I was making sure was

not getting too hot and was giving her plenty of fluids and keeping a

portable fan on her, when my sis basically said I was just over-

prtecting my child!!! She was heard telling my brother, who I hadn't

seen in 2 years (he's in the Air force) that I used the band to get

attention!!! I had stopped to take her band off and wipe her head

down when a couple stopped and asked us some questions about the band

(their niece is getting one). I of course took the time to answer

> all their questions and by the time we were through we had about 4

families listening. So was I wrong to take the time to help them???

My sis says we were there as a family and I should have just given

them the handout I made and gone on walking!! She has me second-

guessing myself on educating others about tort and plagio.

> Now we have another problem...she has told my mom I am not

feeding right, my mom told her she was full of it(Love My

Momma!!). is 10 months and weighs nearly 22 lbs. She does not

eat a lot of jar baby food, she will spit it back out at you if it is

not seasoned. So I now season, just a little, all her jar food and

put it in a bowl. My sister says that by now should be eating

4 jars a day. I thought babies could stay mainly forumla fed for the

first year?? Am I wrong?? Also when can a baby start eating eggs???

loves to eat what I am eating at the time and I ate eggs this

morning, but didn't know whether she could or not.

> Ok I know this is all boring you to death...but I am just

frustrated. How do I get her to stop comparing our kids? How do I get

her to understand that 's delays are because of her tort??

Sometimes she talks to my daughter like she is mentally delayed,

those are the times when I really use self control. Any Advice would

be greatly appreciated.

>

> (mom to , Plagio/Brachy/Tort,Banded 5/03, Texas)

>

> Hey Everyone, Visit 's NEW Web Page at:

> www.babiesonline.com/babies/k/kathryn9703

> Make sure to Sign Her guestbook!!!

> Banded Babies Are Beautiful

July 13, 2004

You really aren't supposed to season baby food. But I've known many

babies who were breastfed/formula fed alone for the first year and

are happy healthy babies. If your child isn't taking well to solids

yet, hold off on introducing them until she is ready. My son is 8.5

months and only eats a jar and a half of solid food a day, and he's

fine n healthy. As for eggs, egg whites are fine at this age, but

the yolk isn't. Hold off on giving your child egg yolk, until at

least 12 months, preferrably a year and a half of age

As for your sister, she's probably jealous that you get the attention

from the band, and she doesn't have anything to educate people about,

so don't let it get to you. I doubt she actually doubts your

mothering capabilities, it sounds like she's just jealous that her

and her kids aren't the ones getting the attention here. Tell her

that you overheard her and if she has problems with you or the way

you parent she can tell you to your face, and let her know that it

hurt you to hear her talk like that.