Guest guest Posted May 13, 2005 Report Share Posted May 13, 2005 Dot My heart goes out to you. It is truely like our daughters are dead and some alien life form has inhabited their bodies. I don't even know my daughter anymore at all and only 3 1/2 months ago I was in a relationship with her and she seemed relatively normal. Since I had dirtbag arrested, I am nothing but an enemy to her. To have your own daughter whom you have given all you can give to now treat you like you are her foremost enemy is very difficult. I had to pick up the latest police report for the lawyer who is defending me in this restraining order. I read it yesterday (it is the one from when she was threatening to kill herself and the boys to the daycare director last week). The whole thing when on and on about how it is all related to ME and how she just wants ME out of her life and I put her under all this stress and how I won't leave her alone and on and on about how terrible I am. Yet, in reality, I haven't seen her in a month or talked to her. She also mentioned that she's stressed because her husband is not around and how much my grandsons miss him and he is " the only father they have ever known " . Since a year ago March (when she first hooked up with him) he has only been in any type of contact with the boys for 3 months. He's either been in jail or in Las Vegas for the rest of that time. My son says she is so out of touch with reality that it is scary. My son was their only male role model for most of their lives and she ripped that away from them too. I can definitely appreciate what you are going thru, but we have few choices. You need to mourn and try to be strong. I still cry daily, but there are no alternatives. I have no patience for prayer. For me, God is deaf. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2005 Report Share Posted June 15, 2005 Dot So sorry for your husband's loss. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2005 Report Share Posted July 11, 2005 Thanks for your kind words, . I don't know that we do anything different than anyone else - we use what we know and hope that it works! We began to deal with the overt signs of bp when my daughter was 14, and struggled through that. It wasn't until I was talking with a counselor that she said, " Oh, she's bp! " Then came education time, and sure enough, she fit most of the criteria. What a relief that was to know! And yes, this group is great, isn't it, for we can lean on each other, learn from each other and hopefully grow as people and bring our families into healthy, vital relationships. Dot > I just wanted to thank you for your posts. (I just read your response > to ). My daughter is just 15 but it is very interesting to hear > about older girls and the struggles their parents have had and how > they have dealt with them. I really appreciate you and Jan and > Carolyn and and your transparency in sharing the issues that you > all struggle with in parenting these very difficult girls. It is oddly > reassuring to know that I am not alone and that though my daughter may > continue to dish out crazy behavior I can cope and it is not my > fault. Have a nice Sunday. cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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