Guest guest Posted June 10, 2005 Report Share Posted June 10, 2005 Elaine Hang in there. You are probably just over tired. You've been handling this so well up to now. Don't lose it yet. Just stand your ground. If she wants to rage, let her. Hang up the phone. Stick to your boundaries. You know it's all about those boundaries----if not for her then at least for your mental health. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2005 Report Share Posted June 11, 2005 Elaine-- I'm sorry to hear that today has been so tough for you. It IS hard to keep strong with the constantly battering a bp does to our emotions and sense of well-being. It sounds, though, like you're reaching out to some good places, and I was glad the help line you called was supportive of you. Hopefully, some of the other contacts you made will result in some further, maybe more long-term, help in your situation. Hang in there, lady, you'll come through. Dot > Hi, since I wrote this morning I am really struggling, dgter called me just after that crying that she was dizzy and needed to go to the doctor, she couldn't get out of bed she was so dizzy. I told ehr to get up and ahve a glass of milk, rage: I ahve been eating it's not that.... " > I calmly said I can not leave work before noon, I will come about 1:00 pm to take you Rage; You sdaid noon now it is 1:00 and she hung up. > I resisted the tempatation to rescue, call back etc but somehow that was a last straw. > I called my own psychiatirst, I have chronic recurrent depression, to check in. so far no reply from him > I called the name of a psycholgist who was recommended as specializing in BPD, so far no call back. > I called our local distress center and got a great person who listend to me spill my guts, it really helped but since then I feel myself stiffening again. I am feeling overwhelmed and sicka dn tired of the whole song and dance. Drugs, prostitution, lousy othering, allegations, moving in how much can I take. > Enough is enough already > Dear friends, I just need a shoulder, please help me to maiontain my boundaries and be strong. > > Elaine > > > > > Let there be peace on earth and let it begin within each one of us > > Elaine McMurray > 701 339 13 Ave SW > Calgary, AB T2R 0K3 > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2005 Report Share Posted June 11, 2005 Elaine, Hope you made it through the day today with all that stress going on. Don't you think it is essential that you get shared guardianship of your grand? Surely your daughter knows that if she is found to be a drug addict or unfit mother, CPS will move her daughter to a foster home, which could be terrible. She should be doing this to at least keep the child with relatives if all goes wrong. A woman and her mother at my NarAnon group have custody of a three- year old (niece/grand) who had two drug addicts for parents. The parents are finally getting clean and doing well, and may get custody of her again in a few months, but meanwhile the little girl is happy and with her loving relatives. Is there an attorney or drug counselor who could explain this type of thing to your daughter in an objective way? Carolyn > Hi, since I wrote this morning I am really struggling, dgter called me just after that crying that she was dizzy and needed to go to the doctor, she couldn't get out of bed she was so dizzy. I told ehr to get up and ahve a glass of milk, rage: I ahve been eating it's not that.... " > I calmly said I can not leave work before noon, I will come about 1:00 pm to take you Rage; You sdaid noon now it is 1:00 and she hung up. > I resisted the tempatation to rescue, call back etc but somehow that was a last straw. > I called my own psychiatirst, I have chronic recurrent depression, to check in. so far no reply from him > I called the name of a psycholgist who was recommended as specializing in BPD, so far no call back. > I called our local distress center and got a great person who listend to me spill my guts, it really helped but since then I feel myself stiffening again. I am feeling overwhelmed and sicka dn tired of the whole song and dance. Drugs, prostitution, lousy othering, allegations, moving in how much can I take. > Enough is enough already > Dear friends, I just need a shoulder, please help me to maiontain my boundaries and be strong. > > Elaine > > > > > Let there be peace on earth and let it begin within each one of us > > Elaine McMurray > 701 339 13 Ave SW > Calgary, AB T2R 0K3 > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2005 Report Share Posted June 11, 2005 Hi Elaine, I'm so sorry to hear of your day. I can totally identify with that " overloaded, overwhelmed " feeling. We've had a terrible week with our son too -- on Monday he called me at work to say goodbye - said he'd cut himself up and trashed his suite. I had to call the police, and when they arrived they found him with a pocketful of pills and a knife to his throat. Believe it or not -- he talked his way out of being hospitalized, even though he was taken to the hospital by ambulance. Then last night his fiancé told him she'd had enough, and planned to move out. As of today he'd talked her into staying and giving him another chance -- after promising that he'd change. Tonight he's upset and freaking out over the phone (we're 4 hours away) and saying he doesn't know *how* to change. Says if she leaves his life is over. I know he wants to get well, but doesn't know how to even begin. I truly believe that if these children of ours could snap their fingers and feel mental/emotional peace they would. They just don't seem to know how to cope with life's struggles. And in the process of being their parents, we're being torn apart on a daily basis. I too have wondered many times in the past week how I'll survive the day. I can see I'm going to need some ongoing counseling myself to remain sane. Just know that you have the support of many, and that we're walking side by side on this pathway none of us (including our children) have chosen. You're not alone. Joan ----Original Message Follows---- Reply-To: WTOParentsOfBPs To: BPD Parents <wtoparentsofbps > Subject: please reply Date: Fri, 10 Jun 2005 12:26:20 -0700 (PDT) Hi, since I wrote this morning I am really struggling, dgter called me just after that crying that she was dizzy and needed to go to the doctor, she couldn't get out of bed she was so dizzy. I told ehr to get up and ahve a glass of milk, rage: I ahve been eating it's not that.... " I calmly said I can not leave work before noon, I will come about 1:00 pm to take you Rage; You sdaid noon now it is 1:00 and she hung up. I resisted the tempatation to rescue, call back etc but somehow that was a last straw. I called my own psychiatirst, I have chronic recurrent depression, to check in. so far no reply from him I called the name of a psycholgist who was recommended as specializing in BPD, so far no call back. I called our local distress center and got a great person who listend to me spill my guts, it really helped but since then I feel myself stiffening again. I am feeling overwhelmed and sicka dn tired of the whole song and dance. Drugs, prostitution, lousy othering, allegations, moving in how much can I take. Enough is enough already Dear friends, I just need a shoulder, please help me to maiontain my boundaries and be strong. Elaine Let there be peace on earth and let it begin within each one of us Elaine McMurray 701 339 13 Ave SW Calgary, AB T2R 0K3 __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Be strong, I don't communicate often with this group but I read your daily tribulations. You are often an inspiration for me and trying to establish boundaries with my 18 year old. Hang in there, and keep up all the good work you have been doing. I only wish my daughter was out of my house. --- Elaine wrote: > Hi, since I wrote this morning I am really > struggling, dgter called me just after that crying > that she was dizzy and needed to go to the doctor, > she couldn't get out of bed she was so dizzy. I told > ehr to get up and ahve a glass of milk, rage: I ahve > been eating it's not that.... " > I calmly said I can not leave work before noon, I > will come about 1:00 pm to take you Rage; You sdaid > noon now it is 1:00 and she hung up. > I resisted the tempatation to rescue, call back etc > but somehow that was a last straw. > I called my own psychiatirst, I have chronic > recurrent depression, to check in. so far no reply > from him > I called the name of a psycholgist who was > recommended as specializing in BPD, so far no call > back. > I called our local distress center and got a great > person who listend to me spill my guts, it really > helped but since then I feel myself stiffening > again. I am feeling overwhelmed and sicka dn tired > of the whole song and dance. Drugs, prostitution, > lousy othering, allegations, moving in how much can > I take. > Enough is enough already > Dear friends, I just need a shoulder, please help me > to maiontain my boundaries and be strong. > > Elaine > > > > > Let there be peace on earth and let it begin within > each one of us > > Elaine McMurray > 701 339 13 Ave SW > Calgary, AB T2R 0K3 > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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