Guest guest Posted June 12, 2005 Report Share Posted June 12, 2005 Elaine-- Glad to hear you're getting some peace and quiet! Boy, we've had our own experiences with our bp snowing the police and ANYBODY we try to have help her. I feel for you about gaining guardianship of the grandchild. I don't know how any of you ladies handle your bp's having kids. I think that would be a terrible, terrible situation and I'm so thankful I don't have to face it . . . yet. Dot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2005 Report Share Posted June 15, 2005 Elaine, You mentioned that your daughter's face is broken out and you thought she was using again. I hope you didn't mean Methamphetamine because that is a horrific drug. One of the worst...Here in rural Minnesota where I live, it's rampant. They make it in barns, in houses, wherever. God help you if she's using that! I've seen photos of people that are using and how it changes their appearance. It makes their face break out and they look like they're a hundred years old! I'm glad that you have your grandchild with you so you can keep an eye on her, if your daughter is using, she is not safe.... Prayers, Jan new day > > hi, well we, grand and I started off great, she woke up around 7 am ready to crawl into bed with me and found out I was up and getting ready for work..it was interesting to see her reactions, she is used to craling in with ehr Mom and being a 'good girl " until 10 or 11 or whnever... > > The plan was to call dgter when we left and she would be up adn ready to roll time we got there, guess what...she had gone back to sleep and we had to ring and ring to get in...I wonder if she went to work but I am not going to check... > > Anyway, I told ehr she you Friday and that will be that, sweet reprieve, too bad I am working late every night and won't have time to enjoy it. > > Thanks agian for all thea ffirmations, and I hope she can get it together and stop the drugs, her face isa ll broken out so I am sure she is using again. > > What sets them off when we offer advice...who knows...it must be the chemical imbalance or irrational fear. > > I still have no idea what she will do now that the sexual abuse is not being validated...I am quite afraid that they will eitehr disappear when court orders her to allow visits or she will go the other extreme, drop of gradn and disappear ehrslf. I sense that she is finding ehr a burden now that she can talk adna sk questions. > > I was watching an old episode of LAw and Order last night, a mother ahd given ehr 13 yr old son as collatoral to a drug dealer, the stroy line made me shiver as I could imagine it being our story. > > > > take heart, the days will roll by and you will be even stronger by going to cousnelling and able to offer grerat stability tot hose boys when that day comes > > And to newcomers...welcome...please share as much or as little as youa re comfortable with, I find this palce a great way to elt go of my overwhelming feelings of hurt, frustration, anger, fear..and to jsut vent... and we need it...these kids are really something and can really psuh us to our limits. > > > > Elaine > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2005 Report Share Posted June 16, 2005 Elaine-- Congratulations! It sounds like you've set and kept some realistic boundaries for yourself and your daughter. I hope you enjoyed your evening " off! " Dot > > Greetings all, Dot, thank you for the input, you are right, she is controlling. I talked with a friend last night and came to the conclusion I need to be more specific, eg: include you asked me to babysit on Monday and I toild you no, you will need to ask someone else and then keep a copy with me so I don't get side swipped. > > I did call children's services yestreday and report the current use of crack, the fear that she might flee the province now the abuse is not being validated and the man yesterday. About an hour alter she called in tears, she didn't amke any money and now didn't ahve any shifts until friday adn bills due 15th. Is aid, sorry but the bank is broke. OK, crying, but I just stayed silent and she hung up. > > About 5 minutes alter she calls again, could she run an ad for ehr business and charge it my my charge card. I said now, it is maxed, Oh she said and hung up. > > maybe 10 minutes later, could I be the onc all babysitter if she got any calls, I said after 8 pnm as I was working, OK fine. > > I continued to work, around 6:340 she left a message she had a call booked for 9:00 pm. > > I called at 8:00 and said I was on myw ay and then stopped to shop for a few minutes. She called back adn said that " john " ahd called and cancelled so not to come. I was delighted, went home and enjoyed the bit of evening I ahd left. > > This morning I determined to go adn start the guardianship process. I picked up the SWOE worksbook and found the exercise " I......, just becasue Is aid so " . I said the staments our loud with some good humor and felt myself regaining some strenght, which I despartely need. > > So dear friends I ahve been at work for an hour and have only done this Ir eally must do some " real work " . I did stop at the court and start the process, which is to make an appointment. it is next Thursday, 23rd at 10:00 am > > > > Please everyone, look after yourselves, we are the most important people in our own lives and our strenght lies in our wellness not our apathy. > > > > Elaine > > > > > --------------------------------- > Discover Yahoo! > Stay in touch with email, IM, photo sharing & more. Check it out! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 Hey, Elaine-- How very nice for you! Dot > Hi, so far so good, what a treat to have a couple of days of peace. And to see what " normal children " do. My son got a big promotion yesterday and I sent him " cookies " by deleivery. It works like flowers but it is giant cookies. He called and was delighted, no agenda, no whining, etc...how nice to live with 'normal' once in a while and to be able to just be a proud Mama. > > Elaine > > > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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