Re: Do ya' ever get over feeling stupid?

August 24, 2002

In a message dated 8/24/02 6:01:53 PM Central Daylight Time,

JETSKIDEB@... writes:

> I guess what I am trying to ask is... do you ever get over the feeling

> stupid

> part?

> For all these 46 years, I really did think I was just a klutz never knowing

>

> there was a reason I broke myself so often.... And now, even though I know

> why this happens, and my friends and family do too... I still feel like a

> stupid klutz.

>

YUP!! Deb, I'm so glad someone else is so embarrased when they do this kind

of thing! I usually ending up hurting myself even more, cuz I'm in such a

hurry to get up and assure anyone and everyone that I'm just fine, thank you,

and no, I don't need any help! LIES, all LIES!! You'd think we'd learn,

right? But Nooooo, we don't want to be embarrased! Stupid! Well, Deb,

please don't take offense, I'm talking to myself, really, not you! Just

wanted you to know that you're not alone, and as for me, I don't think I'll

ever get over that. I guess I hate to admit I need help. Supid again! Oh

well, I feel terrible, and some days, look worse, but I still have my pride!

Love Lana

August 25, 2002

Ohmygod Debbi, are you all right!!!???

Oh, I guess that was a stupid question, huh? I guess we are all human and

falling down we seem to think it is because we are the klutz. Not that our

stupid ligaments are to damn stretchy to keep our joints and body parts

together. No one thinks asking stupid questions are stupid anymore so I

declare that falling down and not wanting anyone to fret over you is not

stupid. I am just grateful you were able to get up and take care of

yourself by getting yourself to the emergency room. I think I tore

something today and I have not gone to the ER. I am waiting till tomorrow

to see if I have really done some damage. I am icing my knee also and hoping

I will wake up and all will be well. How stupid is that?? To , my

hubby, it is stupid but we have learned to deal with these things by

ourselves so I will wait and see how right or wrong I am. You are not

stupid you are a warrior and by surviving you have become a

warrior.........welcome to the tribe!!!

Love Whole Bunches of Battle Scars Of Truth,

from Little One Who Trip Toes Through The Tulips, ug!

August 25, 2002

Yes, we all feel stupid once in a while -- EDS or no EDS...

I've mentioned several times on this list that I actually have OI or brittle

bones, which affects joints the way EDS does.

I'm thinking back of a time way back in high school when my ankle decided to

dislocate while I was walking across campus -- I of course dropped everything to

catch myself before hitting the ground, which was coming up pretty fast...

Turned out besides feeling very stupid, I had managed to fracture my ankle so it

needed surgery. Kind of annoying...

Anyway, be glad for the times you only feel stupid...

(Actually, now that I think of it, breaking my ankle did take my mind off

feeling stupid -- gotta look at the bright side...

Take care! Stay safe, and don't feel stupid when stupid things happen -- in

these cases, it's the situation that's stupid annd not the person...

Hugs.

--le

August 25, 2002

In a message dated 8/25/2002 3:18:40 AM Central Daylight Time,

cehlers@... writes:

> think I tore

> something today and I have not gone to the ER. I am waiting till tomorrow

> to see if I have really done some damage. I am icing my knee also and

> hoping

> I will wake up and all will be well. How stupid is that?? To , my

> hubby, it is stupid but we have learned to deal with these things by

> ourselves so I will wait and see how right or wrong I am.

I don't think it's all that stupid. I've lost track of the number of times

I've twisted an ankle or knee, HEARD something snap, pop or whatever awful

sound it is ... gone to the ER to spend HOURS waiting, to be told ... it's a

sprain ...2 degree always ... but still a sprain, here take some meds, get

some rest, elevate it, brace it ... yada yadayada ....

Then 2 days later ... it's OK.

Yes, I've had more than my share of injuries that took the 6 to 8 weeks to

heal. But I swear I've had DOZENS that have been OK in less than a week.

I twisted my ankle so badly that it broke my canvas sandles the other day ...

my ankle felt awful! Today, it's a bit sore. If I'd gone to the ER like the

guy who saw me do it wanted me to ... I'd have been there for hours for

nothing.

Follow your gut!

Don't let your injury get worse, you know that. But waiting a day or two is

only going to prove to the ER doc that it's serious, or prove to yourself

that it's not as serious as you first felt it might have been.

Pk

August 25, 2002

Ok Debby, Sue Ginley here, remember me from the conference? I think I can

top this one. Last weekend, I was the maid of honor for my best friends

wedding. I bent over to fix the train on her dress and did something to my

hip/leg. I immediately came right back up, could not fix her dress, and

pretended nothing was wrong. When I got into the limo after the service and

slid over to let others in, I suceeded in ripping the rest of what I started.

I was in terrrible pain, but did not want to ruin my friend's wedding.

Well, could not walk for the next few days, not only due to pain, but my knee

kept buckling forwards and backwards whenever I tried to bear weight on it.

Now how stupid is that. When someone asks me what I did, I just tell them,

" In true EDS fashion, absolutely nothing! " And no, I will never get used to

it, never.

Well, anyway, you take care of yourself, hope you are not in too much pain

and healing. I am trying to do the same.

Hugs, Sue Ginley

August 25, 2002

Sue and Debby

I can relate to this. Doesn't it just rock you? I hate it when you do nothing

but hurt yourself really badly. I have been shopping. Not carrying anything

heavy. Just walking with friends and family. ~!BANG!~ Something goes

" Yup... Now is the most inconvenient time for her. " and pops, or slips.

And No.... I don't think I will ever get use to that either Sue. The worst part

of the whole thing is.... You are usually with the most insensitive person you

could be with at the time, if you aren't completely on your own..... They just

don't understand that it can (and does) all happen that fast for us.

" Oh it can't be that bad....YOU didn't slip/fall/<add in what you like here>???

"

And you know what??? I am really tired of smiling up sweetly at them and saying

" That's just the way it happens sometimes.... " I feel like cracking them in

the kneecaps and saying..... here this is what it feels like and YOU didn't FALL

either!!!! <sad smile>

Hugz.................... Helen

I think I can top this one. I bent over to fix the train on her dress

and did something to my hip/leg.....I was in terrrible pain, but did not want to

ruin my friend's wedding..... When someone asks me what I did, I just tell them,

" In true EDS fashion..... Absolutely nothing! " And no, I will never get used to

it, never........

August 26, 2002

Hi all --

Yes... Been there... I mentioned in my previous mail having broken my ankle

doing nothing (as I have OI in addition to the EDS-like problem with my joints).

This combination leads to some, well, stupid situations in the ER, which I

invariably go to whenever I do anything that causes sharp pain, as it could be a

hairline fracture. (I can usually tell if it's a major fracture.)

I tell the person I'm with " I have a problem and need to go to the ER " . My

friend, plus the ER staff, ask me what I did. I prefix my reply with,, " well, I

have a genetic disorder that makes me injure very easily " and then tell them I

did something simple like open a cupboard door...

(That was the time I tore the rotator cuff on my shoulder, which hurt

abominably, and I had fractured a shoulder once before when the muscle pulled

the bone apart, so this time I went to the ER to be safe...).

The ER staff took an xray and found nothing, and the doc said it was a torn cuff

-- then prescribed pain meds, which I'm sure they thought was the only reason I

was there...

Anyway, another time I moved and something snapped in my side, which I thought

was a fractured rib. I was in the middle of a meeting that I didn't want to be

in, by the way...

I cut out early and went to the ER, and they couldn't find anything (don't know

why it hurt) but I was embarrassed for having gone.) Had to admit later when

asked that the ER found no fracture, so of course the people thought I must've

really wanted out of that meeting...

Anyway, have to get through the rest of my email...

" Feeling stupid in NJ... "