Re: Learned something new today in therapy/.Carolyn

[Guest guest]

Carolyn

I agree with you wholeheartedly. has taken quite a " beating " on this

site which is supposed to be a support for people.

Thanks

Jean

[Guest guest]

This board has turned into nothing near a support group for PARENTS of

BP's...Most everyone here has been encouraging to , and still are

I personally had hoped to get insight on raising a child with BPD traits. How

to help him before he gets to be BPD, how to cope with the fact that his Mother

whom he lives with does nothing to help only hinder! Dealing with my husbands

bpdness I get support on other groups and in therapy. As I live with an adult

with BPD my goal is to learn how not to enable him in his behaviors and how not

to become enmeshed in it so deep that I lose me. I am not going to enable

another on a group either!

, if you ever feel the need please feel free to write to me personally via

email. And please continue to just work on you and forget the name BPD and its

stigma, put all that energy into nursing school instead!

Since this board is not about parenting, I will be unsubscribing.

Hgus

Kelley

Re: Re: Learned something new today in

therapy/.Carolyn

Carolyn

I agree with you wholeheartedly. has taken quite a " beating " on this

site which is supposed to be a support for people.

Thanks

Jean

[Guest guest]

No, this site is supposedly about PARENTS of bp loved ones. Sure,

may have a bp kid, but she's too busy talking about HERSELF and

her personal bp issues to share much about her bp kid.

This is NOT a site for bps, and IMHO, bps who are obviously still

dealing with bp issues should find a forum more suited to their needs.

[Guest guest]

Kelley--

I feel the same way as you do. This board seems to have gotten way

off track! Other than a few posts yesterday, this board hasn't

addressed parenting issues of bps in quite some time.

I have enough to do dealing with my bp dtr than to have to listen to

bp ranting and raving on this site as well.

> This board has turned into nothing near a support group for

PARENTS of BP's...Most everyone here has been encouraging to ,

and still are

>

> I personally had hoped to get insight on raising a child with BPD

traits. How to help him before he gets to be BPD, how to cope with

the fact that his Mother whom he lives with does nothing to help

only hinder! Dealing with my husbands bpdness I get support on

other groups and in therapy. As I live with an adult with BPD my

goal is to learn how not to enable him in his behaviors and how not

to become enmeshed in it so deep that I lose me. I am not going to

enable another on a group either!

>

> , if you ever feel the need please feel free to write to me

personally via email. And please continue to just work on you and

forget the name BPD and its stigma, put all that energy into nursing

school instead!

>

> Since this board is not about parenting, I will be unsubscribing.

>

> Hgus

> Kelley

>

>

>

> Re: Re: Learned something new today

in therapy/.Carolyn

>

>

> Carolyn

>

> I agree with you wholeheartedly. has taken quite

a " beating " on this

> site which is supposed to be a support for people.

>

> Thanks

> Jean

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Your posts have helped me to understand tremendously. Please keep it

up.

Jean

[Guest guest]

I am trying to give parents an insight to the BPD's mind...and that helps.

Nobody is ranting or raving, just opinions....but half of the battle is

understanding where your BPD child is coming from

katiehines57 wrote:

Kelley--

I feel the same way as you do. This board seems to have gotten way

off track! Other than a few posts yesterday, this board hasn't

addressed parenting issues of bps in quite some time.

I have enough to do dealing with my bp dtr than to have to listen to

bp ranting and raving on this site as well.

> This board has turned into nothing near a support group for

PARENTS of BP's...Most everyone here has been encouraging to ,

and still are

>

> I personally had hoped to get insight on raising a child with BPD

traits. How to help him before he gets to be BPD, how to cope with

the fact that his Mother whom he lives with does nothing to help

only hinder! Dealing with my husbands bpdness I get support on

other groups and in therapy. As I live with an adult with BPD my

goal is to learn how not to enable him in his behaviors and how not

to become enmeshed in it so deep that I lose me. I am not going to

enable another on a group either!

>

> , if you ever feel the need please feel free to write to me

personally via email. And please continue to just work on you and

forget the name BPD and its stigma, put all that energy into nursing

school instead!

>

> Since this board is not about parenting, I will be unsubscribing.

>

> Hgus

> Kelley

>

>

>

> Re: Re: Learned something new today

in therapy/.Carolyn

>

>

> Carolyn

>

> I agree with you wholeheartedly. has taken quite

a " beating " on this

> site which is supposed to be a support for people.

>

> Thanks

> Jean

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You know, I can deal with my daughter better understanding BPD and her actions,

so I was trying to give ya'll some insight...and it is not about me....I have to

watch my daughter go through every day, what I went through, and it helps me to

have to deal with her, using my experience...when she screams at me, " i hate

you " , I know what she is actually saying...she is saying love me even though I

said that....show me you love me...that is why I am giving insight to the BPD

mind and actions....

, you sound like you got a little resentment going on there.....I answer

questions that I am asked and I am honest, so to help other people with their

children and why their children to the things they do...

katiehines57 wrote:

No, this site is supposedly about PARENTS of bp loved ones. Sure,

may have a bp kid, but she's too busy talking about HERSELF and

her personal bp issues to share much about her bp kid.

This is NOT a site for bps, and IMHO, bps who are obviously still

dealing with bp issues should find a forum more suited to their needs.

People joining this list must read the guidelines and agree to them before

posting. Send questions or concerns to WelcomeToOz-owner . " Stop

Walking on Eggshells " , a primer for non-BPs, and " Hope for Parents: Helping Your

Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing Your Family Or Yourself " can be

ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For table of contents, go to

http://www.BPDCentral.com

[Guest guest]

Thank you, that is why I am so open and honest, to give parents of BPD's who

aren't BPD, an insight to a BPD's mind, it can help a parent understand a lot

that is going on in their BPD child's mind and behavior...

cascorsam@... wrote:

Your posts have helped me to understand tremendously. Please keep it

up.

Jean

[Guest guest]

Kelley,

How are you enabling me, you aren't, nobody is, I am learning and growing and

using my past experiences to give insight to a BPD's mind. That is not

encouraging my " disorder " , nobody has enabled me in years, and if you were

enabling me I would tell you to stop!

Kelley wrote:

This board has turned into nothing near a support group for PARENTS of

BP's...Most everyone here has been encouraging to , and still are

I personally had hoped to get insight on raising a child with BPD traits. How

to help him before he gets to be BPD, how to cope with the fact that his Mother

whom he lives with does nothing to help only hinder! Dealing with my husbands

bpdness I get support on other groups and in therapy. As I live with an adult

with BPD my goal is to learn how not to enable him in his behaviors and how not

to become enmeshed in it so deep that I lose me. I am not going to enable

another on a group either!

, if you ever feel the need please feel free to write to me personally via

email. And please continue to just work on you and forget the name BPD and its

stigma, put all that energy into nursing school instead!

Since this board is not about parenting, I will be unsubscribing.

Hgus

Kelley

Re: Re: Learned something new today in

therapy/.Carolyn

Carolyn

I agree with you wholeheartedly. has taken quite a " beating " on this

site which is supposed to be a support for people.

Thanks

Jean