Acting out versus acting in

[Guest guest]

Yesterday when we had the intake for our daughter Anika to go into

Childrens residential treatment center (CRTC) one of the staff

differentiated between behavioral issues and emotional issues. If

you have behavioral issues it affects other people and you tend to

violate the rights of other people by your actions. If you have

emotional issues (my daughter has extreme emotional issues, mainly

anxiety and self mulilation) you do not directly violate the rights

of others. Kids with emotional issues do not do well if thrown into

an environment with kids that are acting out and violating the

rights of others. Hearing this was like being slapped in the face.

Duh, Duh, Duh!!! Our daughter has been going to school with a bunch

of out of control male thugs with huge self control and behavioral

issues. I am so angry at myself for not making this connection. We

have never been allowed into her alternative school to observe what

goes on and yet my daughter has had 5 psychiatric hospitalizations

since being enrolled in this school. At the end of the summer she

wanted desparately to go to this school because she was " recruited "

by one of the program aides named Chad. I do not blame him because

he probably thought that he could help her and watch out for her.

She is not a discipline problem but she also does not do well in

group therapy. He took her out to Dairy Queen and she swears that he

is the only person who she has ever been able to talk to. Her day

treatment therapist and in-home family therapist advised against

this setting. We finally had to back down and let her go here

because she threatened to just cut if we did not let her go to this

alternative day treatment/school. Please keep Anika in your

prayers. I pray to God that this program is able to help her. I

love my daughter but am so weary. I am gald that she is living

somewhere else for an extended period of time and my 13 and 16 year

old daughters are doing very well with Anika elsewhere.

[Guest guest]

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How is it they don't think the ACT of self-mutilation isn't a behavioral

issue? Seems rather strange to me; but, there are obvious emotional

components to it as well. I guess they must be saying it is mostly an

emotional issue. Still . . .

I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. We all feel stupid when someone points

out something that seems obvious after we know about it.

I don't know. I have a hard time differentiating between this emotional and

behavioral issue thing. I don't know that kids don't act out because of

emotional issues, so I don't know how you can separate them from each other.

We will keep your family AND Anika in our prayers! Don't be surprised if

guilt tries to creep in when you find out how lovely it is that she is

somewhere else. Remember, you have to take care of yourself first;

otherwise, you don't have anything left for anyone else!

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[Guest guest]

Teh difference in acting out and acting

in is not as simple as classifying one

as behavior and teh other as emotional.

They are both emotional problems. BPD

has both those who act out and those who

act in. Both sets of behaviors are

caused by processing emotions

incorectly.

Dont feel bad because one intake person

said this, there are not two kinds of

alternative schools, one for acting in

and one for acting out. You could not

possibly be to blame for that. YOur

daughter would probably have had those

hospitalizations no matter what school

she attended. She is getting help now.

Hugs

Kelley

RE: Acting

out versus acting in

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> How is it they don't think the ACT of

self-mutilation isn't a behavioral

> issue? Seems rather strange to me;

but, there are obvious emotional

> components to it as well. I guess

they must be saying it is mostly an

> emotional issue. Still . . .

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> I wouldn't be too hard on yourself.

We all feel stupid when someone points

> out something that seems obvious after

we know about it.

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> I don't know. I have a hard time

differentiating between this emotional

and

> behavioral issue thing. I don't know

that kids don't act out because of

> emotional issues, so I don't know how

you can separate them from each other.

>

> We will keep your family AND Anika in

our prayers! Don't be surprised if

> guilt tries to creep in when you find

out how lovely it is that she is

> somewhere else. Remember, you have to

take care of yourself first;

> otherwise, you don't have anything

left for anyone else!

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