Guest guest Posted April 14, 2005 Report Share Posted April 14, 2005 If my daughter doesn't think about what I'm doing, what the heck was she invading my computer sign on for? I assume she was reading my emails. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2005 Report Share Posted April 14, 2005 Carolyn Others have said what did was an invasion of my privacy also, however invading her privacy is exactly what she accused me of since she has been with this dirtbag. When she was with the others, I had really disengaged from her unless I heard from her. I think the big difference is this time around she has the boys and it's THEM I worry about. So, if she thinks, I invade her privacy, I guess she's right but only where my grandsons well being is concerned. Last summer I was not happy about them being around a drug and alcohol user who was a repeat and repeat offender. And I'm certainly not happy that he is now there step father. I choke even when I type the word. So, maybe she went into my email to do exactly that---invade my privacy, but then I am probably giving her too much credit. I think the medication is the answer. If only she could get on something----LEGAL. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2005 Report Share Posted April 14, 2005 Mornin' group-- I'm getting a late start this a.m. It was ten before I rolled out of bed. I have to confess, I'm a night owl, and LOVE being up late . . . of course, the down side is that you're real tired early in the morning. My latest global response: I, too, have seen that go hand-in-hand at times. But, please remember, I'd a whole lot rather deal with bipolar than BP!!! Re: the abandonment thing. I think it is a bit off base. They may temporarily abandon you, but I wouldn't think it is " forever. " There seems to be an awful lot of black and white stuff put out about bp, but I think that in reality, there are many gray areas as well. I know you ask a lot of questions about how your actions will affect your dtr--I think we all do to a certain extent. But, somehow, I think maybe that thinking is backwards. Since bp is about the bp person, they don't think in those terms. They simply react to their feelings. I think maybe you think you affect your dtr more than you really do. When I was bp, out on my own, I didn't care about my parents (per se) and what they thought about what I was doing. They occasionally did things that I was really mad about, but as a bp, I didn't spend my time obsessing about my parents . . . and as a non-bp, I don't think you should do that about your dtr, either! -- I think you've made a good point. There certainly is a " fantasy " element to being bp, although for me, personally, the " fantasy " part came in when I dealt with others--fantasy in that I perceived their actions and words in the wrong way. Perhaps it was because of the way I was raised, but I NEVER counted on anyone to take care of me. I was fiercely independent and worked hard. But, everyone is different. Now my bp dtr, yeah, she's real in to people taking care of her BUT she does have a job, an apartment, etc. It's when they don't have anything to offer her that she chunks them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2005 Report Share Posted April 14, 2005 You have a good point. This is a huge invasion of your privacy. However -- remember, There Are No Accidents!! Whether for positive or negative, if your daughter has the information from your emails, she is probably getting all the input from other people too. Who knows? Maybe if she becomes aware of BPD then it will open her up to possibly getting some help sometime. Carolyn > > > If my daughter doesn't think about what I'm doing, what the heck was she > invading my computer sign on for? I assume she was reading my emails. > > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2005 Report Share Posted April 14, 2005 I think bp's often accuse others of doing - exactly what they themselves are doing! I remember our daughter telling us once that she couldn't trust us. Who was she kidding? She was the untrustworthy one! Likewise, I think your daughter would do anything if she thought it would get her what she wanted. Meanwhile, if you " infringe " on her privacy in order to help your grandkids, she goes nuts. There is a total double standard. The most frustrating thing about the illness is that it makes no sense at all to non-bps. And common sense won't help solve anything. perhaps you are thinking of rational solutions, which don't exist in an irrational world. Carolyn > Carolyn > > Others have said what did was an invasion of my privacy also, however > invading her privacy is exactly what she accused me of since she has been > with this dirtbag. When she was with the others, I had really disengaged from > her unless I heard from her. I think the big difference is this time around she > has the boys and it's THEM I worry about. So, if she thinks, I invade her > privacy, I guess she's right but only where my grandsons well being is > concerned. > > Last summer I was not happy about them being around a drug and alcohol user > who was a repeat and repeat offender. And I'm certainly not happy that he is > now there step father. I choke even when I type the word. > > So, maybe she went into my email to do exactly that---invade my privacy, but > then I am probably giving her too much credit. > > I think the medication is the answer. If only she could get on > something----LEGAL. > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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