What really is normal when you grew up with a BP parent??

February 25, 2010

I just wanted to say a horrible outcome of being raised by a person who is a

BP/NP is a sense of what is acceptable and normal in my life.

I must continually questioned is this treatment or behavior I find

acceptable- maybe really abusive? I have taken so much crap from Nada- and made

to feel so quilty when I wanted to have a voice and a life for myself- that I

trully have such a difficult time recognizing and walking away from unhealthy

behaviors. I also let my boundaries be trampled on- and really am not always

even aware it is happening- because my boundaries have always been exploited and

the rationale has been because she loves me....or needs me. This pattern is

following in my marriage too...now maybe work.

I have a very delicate situation with a parent at school. I know we talk on

the board about crazy and uncaring teachers- unfortunately- they do exist- but

some parents fall into that category too. This parent is definitely obesessive

and I am not this child's teacher- their case manager.

We recently had an incident - where I was supporting the student- and my boss

felt like this parent was bullying us and me in particular because since the

beginning of this year I received 92 emails from this parent. Some are

complaints- some her just venting- some sharing of articles to read. Yes, I know

92 emails is excessive- but never thought of it in terms of abusive. I don't and

also thought maybe I am too easy- but then what do I fall back on to say this

behavior is normal- and this isn't.

Just neede to vent......I hate at times being a bp's grown daughter.

malinda

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