Re: Rob's birthday -- I've got to get help

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Ack, I have it down for tomorrow! LOL

Happy birthday to Rob!! )

HUGS,

Challis

Re: I've got to get help>>>>Family counseling is exactly what you need. I hope they are open to it.

Sometimes, you have to leave the relationship. If your husband is that negative an influence on your children, something has to be done. I had to leave my ex husband when I was 5 months pg with my 2nd son. My oldest witnessed so many fights, saw me crying..... I just couldn't subject him to that environment anymore. I grew up in a very violent home. It hurts the kids, and makes them into angry, depressed adults. I still deal with past issues, and I am 37, and in a loving, stable relationship.>>I'm not saying it would be easy to separate. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, especially pg. But, it was the best decision I ever made. I wouldn't be happy today, had I stayed. I am praying for you Kate. No matter what any of us says, it's you that must make the decisions. I know that's hard. I wanted someone to tell me what I should do. To tell me it would be all right. I didn't want a divorce, because of my religious beliefs. I finally

realized that God was my father. And as a father, he did not want me to be abused. He wasn't keeping me in this loveless marriage, I was. He never expected me to put up with all of the hurt. I was just scared. What would I do? I was pg, and had quit my job 3 months before I left him. How would I survive? I made it. It was the darkest time of my life. I was broken. But good can come from being broken. That's when we need Him the most. He can rebuild a broken life. He did it for me. I would go through it all again, to be where I am today. You deserve so much better Kate. You have to respect yourself. DH isn't going to, and the kids arren't either. They will learn to respect when they see you saying No more! No more to DH, making everyone miserable. When the kids see you respecting yourself, by not allowing DH to abuse you anymore, they will learn to respect you. There's a lot of healing needed. You are in my thoughts and on my heart. Whatever decision you

make, you will have support here. But again, I have to say, you DESERVE BETTER. (((BIG HUG)))>---- Kate Rothschild <katelloydkidz@ optonline. net> wrote:>>The dysfunction in this family is just so awful! I can't take it anymore.>>The filthy language that comes out of my husband and kids' mouths is>>horrific. I rarely say any of this stuff, so more than likely it is the>>influence of my hub and the older kids. n, Sharon, Chuck and>>nne...and I know there are others of you--I don't quite know how you>>survived raising kids. The heartache I feel when my almost 16 yr old dtr.>>left the house yelling--I hate you, Mom, I hate you all! Of course this is>>not isolated. The physical fights they each have; the cursing at one>>another; the strife and conflict in this household is toxic. When I see my>>therapist today I am going to ask if I can

bring the entire family in. Or if>>not him, if he can refer me to someone that does family therapy. We can't>>continue to live in these conditions. Ok, thanks for listening. Sorry to>>keep venting on the same topic...again. ..>>Love to all, Kate>>>>>>>>We can only be said to be alive in those moments>>when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.>>~Thornton Wilder>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

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Thanks, I'll tell him hugs Akiba -- Re: Rob's birthday -- I've got to get help Ack, I have it down for tomorrow! LOL Happy birthday to Rob!! ) HUGS, Challis Re: I've got to get help>>>>Family counseling is exactly what you need. I hope they are open to it. Sometimes, you have to leave the relationship. If your husband is that negative an influence on your children, something has to be done. I had to leave my ex husband when I was 5 months pg with my 2nd son. My oldest witnessed so many fights, saw me crying..... I just couldn't subject him to that environment anymore. I grew up in a very violent home. It hurts the kids, and makes them into angry, depressed adults. I still deal with past issues, and I am 37, and in a loving, stable relationship.>>I'm not saying it would be easy to separate. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, especially pg. But, it was the best decision I ever made. I wouldn't be happy today, had I stayed. I am praying for you Kate. No matter what any of us says, it's you that must make the decisions. I know that's hard. I wanted someone to tell me what I should do. To tell me it would be all right. I didn't want a divorce, because of my religious beliefs. I finally realized that God was my father. And as a father, he did not want me to be abused. He wasn't keeping me in this loveless marriage, I was. He never expected me to put up with all of the hurt. I was just scared. What would I do? I was pg, and had quit my job 3 months before I left him. How would I survive? I made it. It was the darkest time of my life. I was broken. But good can come from being broken. That's when we need Him the most. He can rebuild a broken life. He did it for me. I would go through it all again, to be where I am today. You deserve so much better Kate. You have to respect yourself. DH isn't going to, and the kids arren't either. They will learn to respect when they see you saying No more! No more to DH, making everyone miserable. When the kids see you respecting yourself, by not allowing DH to abuse you anymore, they will learn to respect you. There's a lot of healing needed. You are in my thoughts and on my heart. Whatever decision you make, you will have support here. But again, I have to say, you DESERVE BETTER. (((BIG HUG)))>---- Kate Rothschild <katelloydkidz@ optonline. net> wrote:>>The dysfunction in this family is just so awful! I can't take it anymore.>>The filthy language that comes out of my husband and kids' mouths is>>horrific. I rarely say any of this stuff, so more than likely it is the>>influence of my hub and the older kids. n, Sharon, Chuck and>>nne...and I know there are others of you--I don't quite know how you>>survived raising kids. The heartache I feel when my almost 16 yr old dtr.>>left the house yelling--I hate you, Mom, I hate you all! Of course this is>>not isolated. The physical fights they each have; the cursing at one>>another; the strife and conflict in this household is toxic. When I see my>>therapist today I am going to ask if I can bring the entire family in. Or if>>not him, if he can refer me to someone that does family therapy. We can't>>continue to live in these conditions. Ok, thanks for listening. Sorry to>>keep venting on the same topic...again. ..>>Love to all, Kate>>>>>>>>We can only be said to be alive in those moments>>when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.>>~Thornton Wilder>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Get easy, one-click access to your favorites. Make Yahoo! your homepage.

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Happy Birthday Rob! Hope you had an awesome B-day!

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Re: Rob's birthday -- I've got to get help

#AOLMsgPart_3_151cb600-361f-4e89-a7cd-315e493759c1 Ack, I have it down

for tomorrow! LOL

Happy birthday to Rob!! )

HUGS,

Challis

Re: I've got to get help

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>Family counseling is exactly what you need. I hope they are open to it.

Sometimes, you have to leave the relationship. If your husband is that

negative an influence on your children, something has to be done. I had

to leave my ex husband when I was 5 months pg with my 2nd son. My

oldest witnessed so many fights, saw me crying..... I just couldn't

subject him to that environment anymore. I grew up in a very violent

home. It hurts the kids, and makes them into angry, depressed adults. I

still deal with past issues, and I am 37, and in a loving, stable

relationship.

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>I'm not saying it would be easy to separate. It was the hardest thing

I've ever done, especially pg. But, it was the best decision I ever

made. I wouldn't be happy today, had I stayed. I am praying for you

Kate. No matter what any of us says, it's you that must make the

decisions. I know that's hard. I wanted someone to tell me what I

should do. To tell me it would be all right. I didn't want a divorce,

because of my religious beliefs. I finally

realized that God was my father. And as a father, he did not want me

to be abused. He wasn't keeping me in this loveless marriage, I was. He

never expected me to put up with all of the hurt. I was just scared.

What would I do? I was pg, and had quit my job 3 months before I left

him. How would I survive? I made it. It was the darkest time of my

life. I was broken. But good can come from being broken. That's when we

need Him the most. He can rebuild a broken life. He did it for me. I

would go through it all again, to be where I am today. You deserve so

much better Kate. You have to respect yourself. DH isn't going to, and

the kids arren't either. They will learn to respect when they see you

saying No more! No more to DH, making everyone miserable. When the kids

see you respecting yourself, by not allowing DH to abuse you anymore,

they will learn to respect you. There's a lot of healing needed. You

are in my thoughts and on my heart. Whatever decision you

make, you will have support here. But again, I have to say, you

DESERVE BETTER. (((BIG HUG)))

>---- Kate Rothschild wrote:

>>The dysfunction in this family is just so awful! I can't take it

anymore.

>>The filthy language that comes out of my husband and kids' mouths is

>>horrific. I rarely say any of this stuff, so more than likely it is

the

>>influence of my hub and the older kids. n, Sharon, Chuck and

>>nne...and I know there are others of you--I don't quite know how

you

>>survived raising kids. The heartache I feel when my almost 16 yr old

dtr.

>>left the house yelling--I hate you, Mom, I hate you all! Of course

this is

>>not isolated. The physical fights they each have; the cursing at one

>>another; the strife and conflict in this household is toxic. When I

see my

>>therapist today I am going to ask if I can

bring the entire family in. Or if

>>not him, if he can refer me to someone that does family therapy. We

can't

>>continue to live in these conditions. Ok, thanks for listening. Sorry

to

>>keep venting on the same topic...again. ..

>>Love to all, Kate

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>>We can only be said to be alive in those moments

>>when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.

>>~Thornton Wilder

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>>Family counseling is exactly what you need. I hope they are open to it. Sometimes, you have to leave the relationship. If your husband is that negative an influence on your children, something has to be done. I had to leave my ex husband when I was 5 months pg with my 2nd son. My oldest witnessed so many fights, saw me crying..... I just couldn't subject him to that environment anymore. I grew up in a very violent home. It hurts the kids, and makes them into angry, depressed adults. I still deal with past issues, and I am 37, and in a loving, stable relationship.>>>>I'm not saying it would be easy to separate. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, especially pg. But, it was the best decision I ever made. I wouldn't be happy today, had I stayed. I am praying for you Kate. No matter what any of us says, it's you that must make the decisions. I know that's hard. I wanted someone to tell me what I should do. To tell me it would be all right. I didn't want a divorce, because of my religious beliefs. I finally realized that God was my father. And as a father, he did not want me to be abused. He wasn't keeping me in this loveless marriage, I was. He never expected me to put up with all of the hurt. I was just scared. What would I do? I was pg, and had quit my job 3 months before I left him. How would I survive? I made it. It was the darkest time of my life. I was broken. But good can come from being broken. That's when we need Him the most. He can rebuild a broken life. He did it for me. I would go through it all again, to be where I am today. You deserve so much better Kate. You have to respect yourself. DH isn't going to, and the kids arren't either. They will learn to respect when they see you saying No more! No more to DH, making everyone miserable. When the kids see you respecting yourself, by not allowing DH to abuse you anymore, they will learn to respect you. There's a lot of healing needed. You are in my thoughts and on my heart. Whatever decision you make, you will have support here. But again, I have to say, you DESERVE BETTER. (((BIG HUG)))>>---- Kate Rothschild <katelloydkidz@ optonline. net> wrote:>>>The dysfunction in this family is just so awful! I can't take it anymore.>>>The filthy language that comes out of my husband and kids' mouths is

>>>horrific. I rarely say any of this stuff, so more than likely it is the>>>influence of my hub and the older kids. n, Sharon, Chuck and>>>nne...and I know there are others of you--I don't quite know how you>>>survived raising kids. The heartache I feel when my almost 16 yr old dtr.>>>left the house yelling--I hate you, Mom, I hate you all! Of course this is>>>not isolated. The physical fights they each have; the cursing at one>>>another; the strife and conflict in this household is toxic. When I see my

>>>therapist today I am going to ask if I can bring the entire family in. Or if>>>not him, if he can refer me to someone that does family therapy. We can't>>>continue to live in these conditions. Ok, thanks for listening. Sorry to>>>keep venting on the same topic...again. ..>>>Love to all, Kate>>>

>>>>>>>>>We can only be said to be alive in those moments>>>when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.

>>>~Thornton Wilder>>>>>>>>>

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