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In my haste in finding out why I broke out in hives I

forgot to ask. Thanks for reminding me I will write myself

a note and call her tuesday since she is only in the office

on tuesdays and thursdays. Thanks. Hugs and Love Dee R

--- anzavic@... wrote:

>

> Hi Dee.....just wanted to find out if you saw your doctor

> again? I

> think you were going to ask about the pills instead of

> the

> injections...hope your feeling better today.

>

> Take care,

> Vicki

>

>

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Love always Dee

Hugs and Love

Dee R

O'Fallon, MO

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Vicki,

Some of our Sisters still wear the full habit--but for us, full means a

mid-calf length dress with matching solid color vest (black, blue, or gray)

and a black veil--hair showing--plus the crucifix and ring....

Ann-Marie

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Ann-Marie... the mid calf dress is what I've seen out here. I've never

seen the blue or grey though. Things sure have changed....for the best.

Hope you're feeling better today.

Vicki

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Thanks Caroline.

Arlene

> well...it took me an hour....but just finished reading all the

posts

> i've missed since sat......lots to catch up on...

>

> Gail - i'm so sorry about the difficulties you're having with the

> ex.....i'm a child of divorce....and the battles really stink.....

be

> a good mom to the girls......if their father doesn't want to be a

> father.....well....it stinks for you...but just move on.....he

sounds

> like a deadbeat.....do you REALLY want your kids even exposed to

> someone who is so irresponsible???? i don't think i would....they

> need POSITIVE role models.....i think the therapy idea is

> great.....you need to cut the string......you are very tied to

> him....i know with kids the string can never be cut....but....maybe

> you can shred it a little ...anyway.....great job on all the

> exercise you're doing!!!!

>

> Peg - get some earplugs and keep eating your points LOL!!! he

sounds

> like quite a prize!!! must be hard to be so perfect like him!!

>

> Sorry to the men on the board in advance....but sometimes

> husbands/boyfriends...etc...can be a real pain.....it's the whole

> venus and mars thing....both sexes react differently, think

> differently....and in general men (now men, i said in

general....not

> ALL) aren't always as sensitive as most women are (again men, i

said

> MOST women...not all )....i know my husband adores me...but his

> nickname is filterless joe....he's really earned that one....he'll

> say things like.....i just love your face....which of course

> translates to me that he is sickened by the other parts of my

> body....which when asked, is not what he meant....but it's all in

the

> delivery.....so....i just always try to remember that many men, my

dh

> included...just can't help it....now of course that doesn't excuse

> downright verbal abuse, which, peg, i think is what your husband is

> doing....that is absolutely inexcusable....i'm talking more about

the

> odd comments...the lack of appreciation....etc.....

>

> gena - sweetie...i hope things are better there.....again...the

> unappreicated role we all play as women is very taxing at

times.....i

> work as many or more hours as my husband, generate close to 50% of

> the household income...but am still expected to run the

house....and

> with little verbal appreciation for it.....every once in a

while...i

> have a fit....usually after he points out something i've missed in

my

> household duties....at which point i volunteer to quit my job and

> stay at home full time to do nothing but clean and fix meals....i

> usually get some flowers and lots of apologies after that !!!

>

> welcome to all the new members!!! you will love this group, as i

> do!!! congrats to everyone on the exercise and weight loss!!! and

> getting thru difficult situations this weekend!!!!

>

> my weekend was hectic...ran errands all day saturday....cooked nice

> dinner sat night and watched a movie...only to be awakened by phone

> call at 1:30am by brother in law (in jail...dui)...i was

> horrified.....thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone with his

stupidity

> and irresponsibility...but we did have to drive an hour to bail his

> sorry butt out of jail......got home around 5am.....then hosted our

> building's holiday party sunday night for 40 people.....i was

> exhausted by mon am....did ok foodwise (and drinking wise) all

> weekend...did have a glass of wine on sun....but ate well...and

drank

> water...yest had to go to a meeting in wisc.....and the rest of the

> week is going to be extremely hectic work wise....i'll check in

when

> i can.....sorry to make this such a generic post....wish i had

> another 2 hours to reply to every email personally!!!!

>

> i'll talk to you all soon!!! have a wonderful day and everyone

stay

> motivated and positive, and no matter what anyone says to

you....you

> are doing the right thing by getting healthier!!! there is no

quick

> fix!! we are all doing it the right way!!!

>

> caroline

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Caroline,

I do the generic posts from time to time too. I had a bit of snag in my

schedule today. Cassie called, she forgot her art homework and needed

it today or wont get as many points. So I had to run that in, 13 miles

one way! While in town decided to treat myself to a nice breakfast,

went to the post office, gas station and got a latte'. :-)

Things are fine here. I just get irritated with them once in awhile ya

know? Cassie really is a sweetheart and hardly ever gives me any grief,

unlike her sister Niki. Her and I were always fighting! I was not for

her joining the Army so was not happy about where she was going but at

that point was glad she was going. That sounds terrible but that is how

it was. I'm a little apprehensive about her coming back on the 21st. I

don't want all the stress to start again. Nothing was resolved before

she left and nothing she has said in letters or phone calls makes me

feel she has thought about it at all. Mike is a sweetie, most of the

time. I just don't get why he doesn't seem excited or anything about my

weight loss. Like others have said, most husbands are very critical

when their wives get heavy and yes I'm glad he didn't but it's like

just because it didn't bother you doesn't mean you can't show a little

excitement for what I've done! Is that too much to ask? As far as

housework and stuff, I do all of it. He works very hard, long, physical

hours and I am home so I don't ask him to do it. I just would like it

acknowledged once in awhile.

Gail, I agree with Caroline. Your ex sounds like a real loser as well

as his new wife. Sounds like they both got what they deserved. Now as

Dr Phil would say, there is nothing you can do to make him be the

father he should be. Just be there for them and try not to talk

negatively about him to them. They will find out soon enough and then

it will be his loss. Don't try to bare too much on your shoulders hon.

>

> " " " ..only to be awakened by phone

> call at 1:30am by brother in law (in jail...dui)...i was

> horrified.....thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone with his stupidity

> and irresponsibility. " " "

Like you said, thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone. I have no

tolerance for drunk drivers. it is the most avoidable thing. I mean

c'mon, you know how much you have had to drink! It is simple math. If

anyone has had any more than 2 drinks an hour they have no business

driving, period! It is totally inexcusable! Sorry to get on a soap box

and preach but that really ticks me off. My mom was hit by a drunk

before I was born and still suffers from the aftermath. As a result,

she has had 4 neck and back surgeries, any of which could have killed

her. For 2 weeks she didn't even know she was married and had 2 kids.

She still has limited mobility and back pain and the drunk got off

scott free with not a scratch on him! If these idiots could actually

" SEE " what they do! Ok, I'll stop now. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Keep up the great work! You are doing wonderfully!

Hugs,

Gena

>

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gena,

i wish i had the answers to why husbands aren't always the most

acknowledging people.....lots of time i have to 'fish' for

compliments...which to me don't seem like compliments if you have to

ask for them.....

i am sure that mike is incredibly proud of you (as he should

be!)...but maybe like you said earlier...he doesn't want to say

anything because he doesn't want you to think he didn't love

the 'old' you too....i don't know.....don't give up trying to get him

to change his ways and be more appreciative, though!!!

As for the tumultuous relationship with Niki.....gosh i can

relate....i was a nightmare at her age....i KNEW everything...and was

bound and determined to do things MY way.....which of course led to

PILES of mistakes.....and i'm quite sure plenty of frustration for my

mom.....of course now, 18 years later, i feel guilty for being such a

jerk.....but of course i wouldn't listen to anyone, most of all my

mom, at 18......from what i remember about being 18......very

selfish....every event in my life was of critical importance....while

the rest of the family's events were of no importance to

me.....always felt like my mom was 'against' me.....

so i don't know what advice to give.....i know she's home for a short

break and you want to make it pleasant for all....maybe she's grown

up some in the army.....she will likely still only see 'her'

world....and unfortunately will probably not give you the 'way to

go's' you deserve about your new lifestyle.....sad but

true....but....it is still your home....and she should have certain

responsibilities about her behavior.....

wish there was an easy answer.....i guess...try to keep in the back

of your mind that she might just outgrow it someday and treasure you

the way i treasure my mom...

have a great day!!

caroline

ps - NEVER get off your soapbox about drunk drivers......you are so

right...there is absolutely NO reason to ever do such a thing......in

my mind keeping taxi fare in your wallet for 'just in case' is a lot

easier than potentially destroying innocent life and the cost

involved with dealing with legal costs of dui.....i'm just sick about

it.....it is such a selfish decision to make (driving drunk)....and

so incredibly avoidable....i'm sorry about your mom....it is just

sickening.....a big part of me wanted to leave him in jail.....he is

(of course) still drinking...because he's an alcoholic.....i'm trying

to show my husband that he has a problem and needs to be

confronted.....i don't know how far i'll get.....but i certainly will

not make alcohol available for him if he visits our home.....ugh.....

> Caroline,

> I do the generic posts from time to time too. I had a bit of snag

in my

> schedule today. Cassie called, she forgot her art homework and

needed

> it today or wont get as many points. So I had to run that in, 13

miles

> one way! While in town decided to treat myself to a nice breakfast,

> went to the post office, gas station and got a latte'. :-)

> Things are fine here. I just get irritated with them once in

awhile ya

> know? Cassie really is a sweetheart and hardly ever gives me any

grief,

> unlike her sister Niki. Her and I were always fighting! I was not

for

> her joining the Army so was not happy about where she was going but

at

> that point was glad she was going. That sounds terrible but that is

how

> it was. I'm a little apprehensive about her coming back on the

21st. I

> don't want all the stress to start again. Nothing was resolved

before

> she left and nothing she has said in letters or phone calls makes

me

> feel she has thought about it at all. Mike is a sweetie, most of

the

> time. I just don't get why he doesn't seem excited or anything

about my

> weight loss. Like others have said, most husbands are very critical

> when their wives get heavy and yes I'm glad he didn't but it's like

> just because it didn't bother you doesn't mean you can't show a

little

> excitement for what I've done! Is that too much to ask? As far as

> housework and stuff, I do all of it. He works very hard, long,

physical

> hours and I am home so I don't ask him to do it. I just would like

it

> acknowledged once in awhile.

> Gail, I agree with Caroline. Your ex sounds like a real loser as

well

> as his new wife. Sounds like they both got what they deserved. Now

as

> Dr Phil would say, there is nothing you can do to make him be the

> father he should be. Just be there for them and try not to talk

> negatively about him to them. They will find out soon enough and

then

> it will be his loss. Don't try to bare too much on your shoulders

hon.

> >

> > " " " ..only to be awakened by phone

> > call at 1:30am by brother in law (in jail...dui)...i was

> > horrified.....thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone with his

stupidity

> > and irresponsibility. " " "

> Like you said, thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone. I have no

> tolerance for drunk drivers. it is the most avoidable thing. I mean

> c'mon, you know how much you have had to drink! It is simple math.

If

> anyone has had any more than 2 drinks an hour they have no business

> driving, period! It is totally inexcusable! Sorry to get on a soap

box

> and preach but that really ticks me off. My mom was hit by a drunk

> before I was born and still suffers from the aftermath. As a

result,

> she has had 4 neck and back surgeries, any of which could have

killed

> her. For 2 weeks she didn't even know she was married and had 2

kids.

> She still has limited mobility and back pain and the drunk got off

> scott free with not a scratch on him! If these idiots could

actually

> " SEE " what they do! Ok, I'll stop now. Sorry you had to deal with

that.

> Keep up the great work! You are doing wonderfully!

> Hugs,

> Gena

> >

>

>

>

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i am sooooo sorry about your great grandmother.....it is

heartbreaking to hear those stories......

all i can do is not enable him by offering him alcohol while he's in

my presence...and encourage him to seek help.....

caroline

> > > Caroline,

> > > I do the generic posts from time to time too. I had a bit of

snag

> > in my

> > > schedule today. Cassie called, she forgot her art homework and

> > needed

> > > it today or wont get as many points. So I had to run that in,

13

> > miles

> > > one way! While in town decided to treat myself to a nice

> breakfast,

> > > went to the post office, gas station and got a latte'. :-)

> > > Things are fine here. I just get irritated with them once in

> > awhile ya

> > > know? Cassie really is a sweetheart and hardly ever gives me

any

> > grief,

> > > unlike her sister Niki. Her and I were always fighting! I was

not

> > for

> > > her joining the Army so was not happy about where she was going

> but

> > at

> > > that point was glad she was going. That sounds terrible but

that

> is

> > how

> > > it was. I'm a little apprehensive about her coming back on the

> > 21st. I

> > > don't want all the stress to start again. Nothing was resolved

> > before

> > > she left and nothing she has said in letters or phone calls

makes

> > me

> > > feel she has thought about it at all. Mike is a sweetie, most

of

> > the

> > > time. I just don't get why he doesn't seem excited or anything

> > about my

> > > weight loss. Like others have said, most husbands are very

> critical

> > > when their wives get heavy and yes I'm glad he didn't but it's

> like

> > > just because it didn't bother you doesn't mean you can't show a

> > little

> > > excitement for what I've done! Is that too much to ask? As far

as

> > > housework and stuff, I do all of it. He works very hard, long,

> > physical

> > > hours and I am home so I don't ask him to do it. I just would

like

> > it

> > > acknowledged once in awhile.

> > > Gail, I agree with Caroline. Your ex sounds like a real loser

as

> > well

> > > as his new wife. Sounds like they both got what they deserved.

Now

> > as

> > > Dr Phil would say, there is nothing you can do to make him be

the

> > > father he should be. Just be there for them and try not to talk

> > > negatively about him to them. They will find out soon enough

and

> > then

> > > it will be his loss. Don't try to bare too much on your

shoulders

> > hon.

> > > >

> > > > " " " ..only to be awakened by phone

> > > > call at 1:30am by brother in law (in jail...dui)...i was

> > > > horrified.....thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone with his

> > stupidity

> > > > and irresponsibility. " " "

> > > Like you said, thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone. I have

no

> > > tolerance for drunk drivers. it is the most avoidable thing. I

> mean

> > > c'mon, you know how much you have had to drink! It is simple

math.

> > If

> > > anyone has had any more than 2 drinks an hour they have no

> business

> > > driving, period! It is totally inexcusable! Sorry to get on a

soap

> > box

> > > and preach but that really ticks me off. My mom was hit by a

drunk

> > > before I was born and still suffers from the aftermath. As a

> > result,

> > > she has had 4 neck and back surgeries, any of which could have

> > killed

> > > her. For 2 weeks she didn't even know she was married and had 2

> > kids.

> > > She still has limited mobility and back pain and the drunk got

off

> > > scott free with not a scratch on him! If these idiots could

> > actually

> > > " SEE " what they do! Ok, I'll stop now. Sorry you had to deal

with

> > that.

> > > Keep up the great work! You are doing wonderfully!

> > > Hugs,

> > > Gena

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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<<If you figure them out let me know, lol>>

oh, i'll let you know all right!!!

Caroline

> > > Caroline,

> > > I do the generic posts from time to time too. I had a bit of

snag

> > in my

> > > schedule today. Cassie called, she forgot her art homework and

> > needed

> > > it today or wont get as many points. So I had to run that in, 13

> > miles

> > > one way! While in town decided to treat myself to a nice

breakfast,

> > > went to the post office, gas station and got a latte'. :-)

> > >   Things are fine here. I just get irritated with them once in

> > awhile ya

> > > know? Cassie really is a sweetheart and hardly ever gives me any

> > grief,

> > > unlike her sister Niki. Her and I were always fighting! I was

not

> > for

> > > her joining the Army so was not happy about where she was going

but

> > at

> > > that point was glad she was going. That sounds terrible but

that is

> > how

> > > it was. I'm a little apprehensive about her coming back on the

> > 21st. I

> > > don't want all the stress to start again. Nothing was resolved

> > before

> > > she left and nothing she has said in letters or phone calls

makes

> > me

> > > feel she has thought about it at all. Mike is a sweetie, most of

> > the

> > > time. I just don't get why he doesn't seem excited or anything

> > about my

> > > weight loss. Like others have said, most husbands are very

critical

> > > when their wives get heavy and yes I'm glad he didn't but it's

like

> > > just because it didn't bother you doesn't mean you can't show a

> > little

> > > excitement for what I've done! Is that too much to ask? As far

as

> > > housework and stuff, I do all of it. He works very hard, long,

> > physical

> > > hours and I am home so I don't ask him to do it. I just would

like

> > it

> > > acknowledged once in awhile.

> > >   Gail, I agree with Caroline. Your ex sounds like a real loser

as

> > well

> > > as his new wife. Sounds like they both got what they deserved.

Now

> > as

> > > Dr Phil would say, there is nothing you can do to make him be

the

> > > father he should be. Just be there for them and try not to talk

> > > negatively about him to them. They will find out soon enough and

> > then

> > > it will be his loss. Don't try to bare too much on your

shoulders

> > hon.

> > > >

> > > > " " " ..only to be awakened by phone

> > > > call at 1:30am by brother in law (in jail...dui)...i was

> > > > horrified.....thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone with his

> > stupidity

> > > > and irresponsibility. " " "

> > >   Like you said, thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone. I have no

> > > tolerance for drunk drivers. it is the most avoidable thing. I

mean

> > > c'mon, you know how much you have had to drink! It is simple

math.

> > If

> > > anyone has had any more than 2 drinks an hour they have no

business

> > > driving, period! It is totally inexcusable! Sorry to get on a

soap

> > box

> > > and preach but that really ticks me off. My mom was hit by a

drunk

> > > before I was born and still suffers from the aftermath. As a

> > result,

> > > she has had 4 neck and back surgeries, any of which could have

> > killed

> > > her. For 2 weeks she didn't even know she was married and had 2

> > kids.

> > > She still has limited mobility and back pain and the drunk got

off

> > > scott free with not a scratch on him! If these idiots could

> > actually

> > > " SEE " what they do! Ok, I'll stop now. Sorry you had to deal

with

> > that.

> > >   Keep up the great work! You are doing wonderfully!

> > > Hugs,

> > > Gena

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Its a beautiful day!I woke up to 4 " of snow and the sun was so bright.I

opened the drapes and my bogenvillas ( ?spell) any way one of my plants is

arrayed in gorgeous pink flowers.Such a contrast with the snow.

I carefully measured out 1/2 cup of grapenuts for breakfast.The box says

that's a serving size.I beg to differ but I am in a great mood so I let the

box win.I'm am still drinking my coffee another bad habit and am going to

start on my water soon.

Hubby works all night 12 hrs so it is my job to keep the house quiet.With

4 boys 8 yrs and younger that is an exercise in futility but hey I am

getting a workout lol.

I am making a exercise schedule.and since hubby does have a screwed up

work schedule I am planning my Walk videos for 5am I`ll have to get up early

a few days a week,then do my crunchers and floor exercise on the days when

he is sleeping .Thats pretty quiet except for my occasional screams of pain

I try to keep those to a minimum.One of my news Years resolutions.

I have 3 snail mail pen pals.Two of you should have recieved something by

now.The third ..well yours is in the mail.Im looking for 1 more, are

you interested???I only planning on writing about once a month or so keeping

it light.

I have joined enough challenges.In order to keep up with the ones Im in I

have to weigh myself 3 times a day and then email it out to 1000`s of people

Quite frankly my scale cant handle it.

I took my photos for BFL and it took 2 days to recover well now I have

seen them.I printed them off my PC in high gloss and blooming colors. I am

scarred for life.It is a semi nude.It wasnt supposed to be but holy moly I

am busting out all over.

So for all the weigh ins today I weigh 210 wont say it again cause next

time Im doing fine at 209

Later