Re: Re: Hearing Sibling Question

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On this same subject (kind of) is the fact that you can feel so guilty

sometimes because you are giving so much more time and attention to one

child, and not the other. There are some nights I go to bed and wonder if I

had even noticed our one child that is just so " un-needy " . I guess the

answer is don't put so much emphasis on the fact that the time isn't divided

equally. Just love them all.

Re: Hearing Sibling Question

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> ,

> As you can see I am way behind on my emails, but what else is new. My

> daughter le just turned 2 last weeks and has a moderate to severe

> loss. I also have a 6 year old son, (hearing). le has other

> issues besides hearing loss. In the beginning didn't understand at

> all. Why mommy was in the hospital with Danni and why she has so many

> doctor appointments. Why teachers came to the house for le and

> not him. But the biggest why was, Why do my friends mom's have babies

> and there is nothing wrong with their brothers or sisters. Why does my

> sister have to wear hearing aids and their sister and brothers don't.

> I just really tried to think about that before just answering it. He has

> severe allergies and asthma. I said nobody's perfect, you have

> allergies and asthma Danni needs helps hearing, people where glasses to

> see, people need hearing aids to hear you better. People just sometimes

> have a different way of communicating to be understood. I try to

> involve him in a lot of Danni's fun activity. Nothing seems to work in

> wasn't interested in his sister that much at all. He loves her but

> won't give her the time of day. I would constantly have to remind him

> that if le talks to him even though he didn't understand what she

> said, he had to talk back to her. I say that all day even to my

> husband. Someone one answer her please. She has some words but also

> hums a lot of words.

> However his friends are very interested in her lately and that has made

> a huge difference in . The other day we were playing out front and

> someone took a ball from her and he walk up and said Hey my sister was

> playing with that. I was shocked. He walked over and took it off the

> child and gave it back to his sister. I never thought I would see the

> day. But I never stopped reminding him that if someone says something

> or does something to his sister he should defend her because he is the

> big brother. So maybe it worked. He often ask me to have another baby

> but I just tell him mommy can't have any more. Over the last month or

> so, I have noticed a big difference in helping le and

> interacting with her more. I don't know if it's due to his friends

> being over playful with her and he realize that she can do just about

> everything we can do but sometimes it's just a little different. I

> don't know what gave him the change of heart, but I really see a big

> difference in him recently. Hang in there.

> Take Care

> Colleen

> mom to 6years (hearing) le 2years( moderate to severe

> hearing loss)

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