Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 < I don't think that we as parents can hate our children, just hate what they have become and the situation. Hillman wrote: I honestly believe, even though my mom won't admit it, that she came to a point where she hated me......but i made her life hell, I don't blame her for that. You should try and get all the documentation you can and get custody of the boys...a lot of grandparents do that now days cascorsam@... wrote: I might also add that sitting across from her wathing her with that baby (she seemed very loving toward her which is a good thing), I realized she NEVER acted lovingly toward the boys. They ere always a big inconvenience toi her. And she was smug today, just chattering away to his mother like she couldn't lose. I just hope she doesn't do anything to the boys. I hope she doesn't take out her nager toward me on them. One of the officers who was in court to testify said he got a call from a neighbor yesterday saying she was screaming all day at the boys, but by the time he got there all was quiet. Quite honestly, looking at her today, I felt nothing for her. I felt nothing for the baby. I wish I could get custody of the boys. I honestly don't think she wants them anyway. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Kelley Thanks for all your support.The counselor spoke with me today for about a 1/2 hr. She said it sounds like both and I have some boundary issues. Me, with the way I have let her walk all over me for years and her with the way she lets guys walk all over her and use and waste her resources. It's peculiar, but she is doing the same thing with people she cares about that I have done with her. I am looking forward to starting these sesions. Maybe for once I can find me and stop rescuing everyone else. The counselor said, even though I love my grandsons, I don't have to sacrifice my life for them too. That I am not getting any younger and that God had a plan for my life and most likely being everyone else's savior wasn't His plan for me. Food for thought. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Whoooooooooo Hooooooooooo!!!!!!!! You go girl! This is great news. Don't worry about the reaction from your daughter. If the prosecutor could get wind of her intention of lying, then anybody could. Won't matter anyway, she may blame you as well, because that's what they do, and well I might add. This is great step in the right direction. Now maybe the system will realize what's been going on, hear your plea, maybe even get those boys to you. Wouldn't that be great? I'm praying for you. Even if not, she will at least be under the scrutiny of the system w/the children, and then your grandparents' rights can be further enforced. Keep us posted. Hugs, Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 this is a good thing too, that someone else called the police on her. Was the judge made aware of that? I hope so. Maybe this is what she wants, she knows you want the boys, and being that the daughter belongs to the dirtbag, this is why she is more maternal towards her. Who knows. Hugs again, Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Jean That is terrific! I know it will help you to be the best you can be again! And the best gran the boys could ever have! Hugs kelley Re: Digest Number 1051 Kelley I am seeing a counselor on Monday. She has some sort of degree, but more importantly she is a spiritual counselor and I really think God is the only one who can help right now. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Jean sounds like very good food for thought! Hugs Kelley Re: Digest Number 1051 Kelley Thanks for all your support.The counselor spoke with me today for about a 1/2 hr. She said it sounds like both and I have some boundary issues. Me, with the way I have let her walk all over me for years and her with the way she lets guys walk all over her and use and waste her resources. It's peculiar, but she is doing the same thing with people she cares about that I have done with her. I am looking forward to starting these sesions. Maybe for once I can find me and stop rescuing everyone else. The counselor said, even though I love my grandsons, I don't have to sacrifice my life for them too. That I am not getting any younger and that God had a plan for my life and most likely being everyone else's savior wasn't His plan for me. Food for thought. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Very good food for thought....you have done your job in raising her....you need to go on with your life plans....My mom just got back from Mexico and she sent my daughter and I a package.... cascorsam@... wrote: Kelley Thanks for all your support.The counselor spoke with me today for about a 1/2 hr. She said it sounds like both and I have some boundary issues. Me, with the way I have let her walk all over me for years and her with the way she lets guys walk all over her and use and waste her resources. It's peculiar, but she is doing the same thing with people she cares about that I have done with her. I am looking forward to starting these sesions. Maybe for once I can find me and stop rescuing everyone else. The counselor said, even though I love my grandsons, I don't have to sacrifice my life for them too. That I am not getting any younger and that God had a plan for my life and most likely being everyone else's savior wasn't His plan for me. Food for thought. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2005 Report Share Posted April 20, 2005 Good going because God is the only way to go! cascorsam@... wrote: Kelley I am seeing a counselor on Monday. She has some sort of degree, but more importantly she is a spiritual counselor and I really think God is the only one who can help right now. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2005 Report Share Posted April 21, 2005 Well I never could understand, until my own daughter, how my mom could watch me stay on the streets...I would be so mad, and say, " How can a mother let her child live like this " Little did I realize, I wasn't a child anymore, I was an adult, and she had done all she could do for me, and she was letting me fall so I could see I had problems...now seeing it from the eyes of a mother of my own BPD child, I understand completely... Fla wrote: < I don't think that we as parents can hate our children, just hate what they have become and the situation. Hillman wrote: I honestly believe, even though my mom won't admit it, that she came to a point where she hated me......but i made her life hell, I don't blame her for that. You should try and get all the documentation you can and get custody of the boys...a lot of grandparents do that now days cascorsam@... wrote: I might also add that sitting across from her wathing her with that baby (she seemed very loving toward her which is a good thing), I realized she NEVER acted lovingly toward the boys. They ere always a big inconvenience toi her. And she was smug today, just chattering away to his mother like she couldn't lose. I just hope she doesn't do anything to the boys. I hope she doesn't take out her nager toward me on them. One of the officers who was in court to testify said he got a call from a neighbor yesterday saying she was screaming all day at the boys, but by the time he got there all was quiet. Quite honestly, looking at her today, I felt nothing for her. I felt nothing for the baby. I wish I could get custody of the boys. I honestly don't think she wants them anyway. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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