Serving up Just desserts. lol.

January 28, 2010

Oh, this is rich. Really really rich. Nada is finally the one squirming and I

find it pretty darn amusing.

So some if you know that I have been kinda freaking out about my uBPD sis

telling the extended family that I told her to terminate her pg. Way back before

the baby was born my aunt (nada's sister) called and asked me point blank, if I

said that. I told her no! and explained the situation and my aunt laughed and

said something like " I KNEW you didn't say that! " (she's married to a

psychologist-and really " gets " that nada is sick) So, fast forward 9 months.

Baby is born. No one calls to tell me. Nada calls this past weekend wanting me

to get all of my children and drive nearly 2 hours to meet the almost 3 week old

baby. Yes. The baby that I didn't want BORN.(???) In the phone call Nada

mentioned that I said " hurtful words " about the baby. I kinda freaked out, told

Nada that my aunt had called me re: those " hurtful words " and that Nada was was

crazy for listening to my LOONEY dramaqueen sister. I NEVER shared A WORD of

the actual conversation. Nada quickly got off the phone. She sent this email

today:

" I assume that you are still considering letting the kids meet (baby). I want

you to know that if what A___(aunt) asked you about contained the words " not

God's will " then she (aunt) was mistaken. Apparently, just like in the game

telephone, as messages get passed from one person to another, there are

misunderstandings. (sister) is NOT and has NOT told people that you said that-

if that matters to you in the decision making process. Please let me kinow what

you have decided on the visit. "

Does anyone SEE THE ISSUE HERE???? How does my dear sweet nada seem to KNOW

there is a misunderstanding? Only sis or Nada could have fed aunt that story.

What seems obvious to me is that Nada EMBELISHED the made-up story, passed it to

my aunt, and is now trying to THROW MY AUNT UNDER THE BUS. Nada is claiming that

MY AUNT IS AT FAULT-not my sis for her made up story, not nada for her obvious

embellishments. She is busy backtracking now that she is caught. She now knows

that my aunt DEFIED nadas orders for the extended family to stop talking to me

and called me. I think nada thought she could never get caught telling lies.

Nada just showed her CRAZY CARDS and I feel victorious.

January 28, 2010

I think your nada and ubpd sis are really just trying to get people (you, aunt,

total strangers--who does not matter) involved in meaningless dramatics to make

them feel important. From their perspective, I think they won: aunt called you,

you confronted nada about sis's crazy story, I read your post about it.

Nada is sick, but she's not crazy and neither is ubpd sis. The logic is just

very, very different.

But if it helps to see the holes in her story, by all means, see them. They are

most certainly there. It's just that the point is not the story. The point is

to distract you from what she's really doing.

Best,

Ashana

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January 29, 2010

My4 - I've been following this saga as you've posted - here's a thought:

Okay, your sister had a baby. She lives two hours away by car. Amid much

family chaos - the phone calls, the emails, the strategic timing of the

invitation to " bring the kids to meet the baby " - I hear a giant Hoovering sound

in the background.

Your sister MAY be using the situation to create drama, and your mother

certainly is doing that. Lots of calls, lots of " misunderstandings, " and then

this request (command performance??) that you haul your kids two hours each way

to " meet " a newborn.

A newborn baby doesn't care whether or not she is " meeting " anyone, unless they

have a warm bottle or a dry diaper. Your kids could look at a picture of the

baby and get the idea that there's a new cousin. In about a year or 18 months,

the baby will be big enough to interact a little. For right now, the " meeting "

would consist of you bringing your kids into a room, the kids looking at the

baby, and then everybody bugging the kids to " be gentle " and not wake the baby

up, etc. Plenty of opportunity for Nada and Sis to harangue you, with not much

real payoff for the kids OR the baby. And then you will have spent 4 hours in

the car, paid for a tank of gas, and spent what, an hour? - " meeting " someone

who is blissfully unaware of your presence and being lobbed with guilt bombs,

because you're trapped in a room with two manipulation experts and you can't

" upset " the new mother.

How about if you tell them the kids have colds, you don't want to spread germs,

please email pictures. Then send a message back saying the baby is beautiful

and you look forward to seeing her at the next holiday/reunion/unavoidable

family gathering. The baby won't care. Nada and Sis may be offended, but how

exactly will that be any different?

Sorry to be so cynical, but I think they're using the newborn as Hoover bait.

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> Oh, this is rich. Really really rich. Nada is finally the one squirming and I

find it pretty darn amusing.

> So some if you know that I have been kinda freaking out about my uBPD sis