Re: Re: stalking bpd-ers

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I remember this case, ; it is hard to imagine a grown woman doing

something like this.

I think the whole social structure of how we leave kids vulnerable to other kids

(and in

this case an adult posing as a kid) is wrong.

~p

Re: stalking bpd-ers

This topic reminds me of a case a couple of years ago from the Midwest where

an adult woman posed online as a teenaged boy in order to psychologically

torture a thirteen year old girl who lived in her neighborhood.She was angry at

the girl because she thought she'd spread some rumor about her daughter--she

went on the thirteen year old's Myspace or Facebook pretending to be a boy who

was the thirteen year old's " secret admirer " and she intended all along to reel

the girl in and then cruelly reject her.

Apparently the thirteen year old had problems with her peers at school

and was thrilled to have some boy interested in her.Over a few weeks,the woman

posing as the boy flattered the girl and flirted with her then slowly began to

criticize her building it up to " the boy " telling her something like he'd

decided she was so disgusting,he wasn't interested anymore.

This vulnerable girl was so devastated by this,she hanged herself.

The case went to court but the woman wasn't charged with any wrongdoing

on a " free speech " technicality.Obviously,she has some kind of serious PD--her

behavior was malicious and deliberate and intended solely to cause harm.Her

attitude was, " Hey,it's not my fault she killed herself... "

The whole issue of her having a PD was never part of the case--that

these people can be dangerous and intentionally vicious.I couldn't believe it

when I heard the woman just got away with it.To me,the whole thing had very

little to do with " free speech " and everything to do with the fact that the

perp--and she *was* a perp--had a personality disorder.

>

> I wondered if you all feel stalked by your bpd parents. I know I did by my

> mother as she couldn't go more than 5 hours without calling me and if I

> didn't answer she literally hunted me down. Then some of you said that you

> feared for your lives sometimes from your bpd parents. Did you know ted

bundy

> was dx as bpd? Just thought that was interesting.

>

> I wonder if some of you can ask your therapists their experiences with

> bpd's because I asked mine.

>

> One therapist told me she had a bpd client she eventually had to get a

> restraining order against. The woman cut herself and wrote in blood on her

car

> door (the therapist's car door). She called her house and harrassed her

> children (who were teens at the time).

>

> My current therapist told me a more terrifying experience.

>

> She had a bpd client find out where she lived. She lived in a gated

> community and the woman couldn't get in. I don't know how she caught her

but the

> woman admitted it-- freaky. Scares me FOR HER.

>

> The same client broke into her email. I don't know how it all came about

> either, but supposedly she got suspicious someone was deleting her emails

and

> somehow figured it out. I have her email address too and she said she

> actually has an email she set up just for clients, separate from her

personal

> email. This woman somehow got the password and was deleting emails from

> other clients....oh.my.heavens!!! She also got her personal email and broke

> into it too. This was way before I was a client...thank God. I would freak

out

> if I thought anyone read my emails to my therapist!!!

> She made a fake name on myspace (or facebook or some similar thing like

> that) and befriended her (the therapist's) adult daughter, pretending to be

> someone else.

> She would refuse to leave when her appointments ended, always finding

> reasons to stay longer, acting out or whatever she had to do to make the

> appointments last and then would take 20 minutes trying to apologize for her

> behavior.

> Joined an online group my therapist was a member of as a fake person.

> Would spiral out of control if she went on vacation, cancelled the appt.,

> or was even 5 minutes late.

> Would sit in the parking lot after her appointments watching her clients

> go in and out and then accuse her of seeing some clients longer than her.

> OMG...just weird and kinda makes me paranoid to see who's watching me when

I

> go in and out.

> And she said she'd ride by the office on days she didn't have appts... we

> did laugh about that because I thought it was so pathetic and sad....I also

> commented that that in and of itself would never prove I didn't have bpd,

> because I already drive 1.5 hours to go see her and I certainly was not

> driving over on days I didn't see her just to ride by and see her car in

front

> of building. LOL

>

> I asked her how she got away from the woman and ended it and she said...we

> moved across the country. LOL....she didn't move for that reason, but it

> was a perk, I guess.

>

> There was more, but this was the jist of it. Now, I couldn't see my mother

> doing things like this. I could see her getting jealous of other people,

> but I never knew of her to do things like this to anyone except my sister,

me

> or my dad.

>

> This is just messed up!!!

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