Re: Body Carrying the Tension

[Guest guest]

Oh yes - I can totally relate! Yes, having a nada will do this to your body!

At one point, I had shooting pains from my neck down my arm, and I couldn't open

my mouth because my jaw was clamped shut from clenching my teeth. Any time I

get stressed, it goes right to my neck and shoulders.

What helps me: 1) ice packs (a bag of frozen peas works great) on the tense

muscles. 10 minutes on, 10 minutes off & repeat. This helps the blood flow and

circulation to the area. 2) physical therapy - strength training my back and

core muscles helps relieve some of the stress on my neck and shoulders. 3)

massage! Yes, it can make you cry as you release the emotional wounds that cause

the stress. That's okay - its part of healing. If you can take a hot shower,

or sauna or steam bath before to warm up your muscles before a massage you will

have extra benefits. 4) acupuncture helps me tremendously, but if you haven't

tried it before it might take several treatments to start feeling sustained pain

relief. 5) pain meds, anything anti-inflammatory (there are even herbs like

turmeric that have natural anti-inflammatory properties), muscle relaxants -

talk to your doctor or an herbalist if you are so inclined to find out what you

can take to reduce inflammation.

In general, take good care of yourself. Eating well, getting enough sleep,

spending time with nice people, doing things you enjoy - will all reduce the

stress that is causing those muscles to tense up. Deep breathing, yoga and

relaxation techniques can also work well (can you tell, I've tried everything

;-).

Take care & ((((hugs))))

-

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> My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten to

the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over my

head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really hurts.

I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and otherwise

in pretty good shape.

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> Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst out

into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any sense

of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness from

the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or anything

- it was relaxing!

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> I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

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[Guest guest]

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you're the best. thanks so much for all the tips. Can't wait to try them out.

And, I have to say that it is so nice to know that I am not the only one.

(however, I am sorry to hear that it happens to you too!)

--Lara

[Guest guest]

Hello Remember, I have had the same problem ever since I can remember. Many of

us have had a lifetime of steeling ourselves for the emotional blows of our

Nadas. I'm 57 years old and often, all I have to do to bring on the pain is

think about Nada's face.

If you deal with it now while you are young, you will thank yourself for the

rest of your life! You have received some good advice -- but I would like to

add Chirpractic care (research it carefully by talking to friends and find a

really good one) and meditation or " centering prayer. " Also, if you have a job

where you must sit a lot, force yourself to get up and walk around every hour

for at least 5 minutes (restroom, tea, supply runs, or just stand next to your

desk). You will actually get more work done if you take breaks. Also, if you

are not married yet, add " good back-rub giver " to the list of requirements for a

husband!

Blessings to you -

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> My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten to

the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over my

head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really hurts.

I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and otherwise

in pretty good shape.

>

> Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst out

into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any sense

of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness from

the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or anything

- it was relaxing!

>

> I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

>

[Guest guest]

You can google " somatic therapy " . Also, I have heard great things about Dr.

Sarno. He has a few books: Healing Back Pain, The Mindbody Prescription,

and The Divided Mind (which I just got from the library).

The basic thought, I believe, is that when we have continuous emotions that we

can't release (like, by speaking our minds), our body holds onto the feelings,

and develops a defensive posture. My chiropractor has told me to " breathe into

this spot on your back " and when I do, I burst into tears. I've also heard it

is not uncommon to cry at the end of a yoga session.

Deanna

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> My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten to

the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over my

head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really hurts.

I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and otherwise

in pretty good shape.

>

> Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst out

into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any sense

of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness from

the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or anything

- it was relaxing!

>

> I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Remember, I have not experienced a bodily reaction to the stress in the same

way, but I do believe that when we are so entrenched in emotions and negativity

from what's going on around us, it will take a physical toll. For me, I have

always had a very bad complexion due to having PCOS and I can pretty much chart

the breakouts to my emotional state. Although my hormones are the main problem,

I believe my emotions cause major flare ups and when I am angry, stressed and my

self-esteem is really low it is worse.

I know what it's like to feel emotions take a toll, I am 29 and sometimes get

ance like a 13 year old. I think its the body's way of trying to release

toxins-whether emotional or chemical.

Good Luck

Des

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> My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten to

the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over my

head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really hurts.

I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and otherwise

in pretty good shape.

>

> Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst out

into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any sense

of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness from

the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or anything

- it was relaxing!

>

> I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

>

[Guest guest]

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> > My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten to

the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over my

head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really hurts.

I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and otherwise

in pretty good shape.

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> > Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst out

into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any sense

of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness from

the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or anything

- it was relaxing!

> >

> > I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

> >

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[Guest guest]

A nada is the word we use to refer to a not-a-mother. There is a whole list of

words we use on here, I think when you join the group they send an email to you

that lists those terms; maybe you still have that email and can refer to it?

Hugs,

Walking to Happiness

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> > > My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has gotten

to the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off over

my head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really

hurts. I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and

otherwise in pretty good shape.

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> > > Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst

out into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any

sense of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness

from the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or

anything - it was relaxing!

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> > > I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness, and

that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

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[Guest guest]

If you go to the Welcome To Oz Yahoo Group site, you'll find the list of

frequently-used abbreviations in the Files section.

Here's a link:

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/WTOAdultChildren1/files/

-Annie

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> > > > My neck, shoulders and upper back are all extremely tense. It has

gotten to the point for me that I can't lift up my left arm (to take a shirt off

over my head at night, or to put my hair up) without wincing in pain. It really

hurts. I have had no injuries to my spine, neck or back. I am only 27 - and

otherwise in pretty good shape.

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> > > > Twice now, after a relatively short back rub (10 min tops), I have burst

out into tears. I have cried for as much as an hour afterwards- without any

sense of exactly what it was I was crying about - just general life crappyness

from the past and stress. It isn't like the massage was horribly painful or

anything - it was relaxing!

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> > > > I think my body is carrying some tension from the whole nada buisness,

and that the massage is releasing that tension somehow. That is the only

explanation I can come up with! Does this happen to anybody else out there?

Does anyone have tips for how to resolve this kind of thing? More massage?

Less? Acupuncture?

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