Nada and the loss of a loved one

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Within the past week Nada's aunt passed away. Nada was close to her and

therefore so was I growing up. This lessened over the years due to nada's

inconsistency and overall issues. During the past two weeks we knew it was the

end for my great aunt and were grateful she went peacefully. Fortunately, I was

able to see her one last time, however no thanks to Nada. Turns out she made a

number of visits with no consideration of me joining her. I found out about my

great aunt's declining health through other family members while nada knew the

whole time. Despite her knowing, Nada had the nerve to call and ask what I knew

after telling me via text that she knew for a week it was the end for her aunt.

I am not surprised she would leave me out of the loop as this has always been

her MO.

It has always my first instinct to be the parent in the relationship, ie make

sure she is always informed and included in my plans when it should really be

the other way around. In a conversation the other day I mentioned that she

should keep me informed and I guess I should bow to her greatness since she has

being doing so. To me, I'm not impressed-it is her job as the parent to notify

me the child of any family-related events!!

Oh, and to make things worse when she does call with the little bits of info she

makes every effort to unload ALL her emotional and medical baggage on me with

little to no regard for my feelings. When I tried hanging up with her after 20

minutes of ranting about herself I mentioned that Dave (my fiancée) was waiting

for me and I feel bad to which she replied, " Oh you feel bad for Dave but not

me " - Unbelievable!!!

Just need to vent because I am really frustrated by her selfishness and

inconsistency and don't really know how I'm am supposed to be there for someone

during a time of loss when they are like this.

Would love to hear other's thoughts!

Des