what my mom talks about

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<<So when they do this stuff, what is it yours are going on and on and on about?

I clocked her at three solid hours once. That was about the time I realized I

really had to do something. --.>>

Wow, : THREE hours?? I can't tell you how thankful I am for this support

group. I never, ever thought I would meet people who experience what I've

experienced with my mom. No one ever believes me and they say, " oh, she's just

lonely! "

My mom goes on and on and on about:

1) her conversations with her family back in her country. I call them HER family

b/c really, they aren't much to me. She insists they are my family, too. But

growing up, all she did was badmouth them to me and brief me on what I should

and should not say to them. It was terrifying. When I finally met them, I saw

why my mother was the way she was and am so glad I live nowhere near them. I

don't even want to give them the impression that I want a relationship. I don't

need more of this!

2) every insignificant detail of what happened at her job that day, or the day

before, or the week before. If I try to interrupt with a tale of my own or even

a small comment to reinforce something she's saying, she'll just drive right

over me and keep on going!! Of course if I tried that on her, she would be

offended.

3) why my brother hasn't called her in the last 12 hours and why she's worried

sick

4) why my brother's a jackass

5) her neighbors

6) what a great guy my father was

7) how awful my father was

8) everything SHE went through while my father was dying; to her credit, she was

incredible with him, but anyone listening would think only she was affected by

his death. Only she suffered, only she fell apart. Please.

Well, that's a smattering of what my mother talks about. How about you??

Fiona.