My Nada is in Total Witch Mode

[Guest guest]

What is up with my nada this morning??????

She started complaining because I wasn't home yesterday to take her call. Nada,

I DO have a life and it doesn't include YOU 99% of the time if I can help it I

wanted to say. Of course I can't because she is dying an agonizingly slow death

and it is taking forever, but anyway even though I don't like her; detest how

she behaved; treated everyoe else in her life for most of it; abhor her

immorality and dishonesty and really wish she would just pass over NOW, she's

still my mother like it or not. 99.9% of the time I don't like it.

Anyway she went on to say the ONLY friend I have is the $ in my pocket, but then

started ragging on me about how - oh yes you have a few real friends - Reggie

was the best and YOU ruined that. No, Reggie was not the 'best' and no I didn't

ruin it. Reggie (short for Regina) was a bipolar woman who never took her

meds, stood me up on her birthday after I went to the trouble of making her a

gourmet homemade cake festooned with pink icing roses; arranged to take her out

to dinner with a few friends etc. - never called - never answered MY call - just

stood me up with the excuse after a few days later " My daughter didn't call me

to wish me a happy birthday so I didn't want to be bothered with anyone

including you! I do what I want when I want. I am a Pisces and that's how we

are! " It wasn't the first time she had acted that way, but I was 100% sure it

was going to be the last with me anyway. She had also went on to say after that

I 'hadn't done anything for her birthday' and what kind of a best friend was I.

(I had a party for her before her birthday along with two other friends who are

Aquarians since she did not want a birthday party by herself she said at the

time. I gave her two gifts at that party also. I reminded her I did that, but

she said that wasn't HER party it was for and ! No, she was included

in that and our mutual friends all gave her gifts too. Duh!

Nada also brought up another woman who is nobody's friend named Sue who angrily

told me after insisting that I dump my then boyfriend and 'go down to Jersey to

see your mother every weekend - he's ONLY a man - no big deal' that 'if I could

find my way down there without you to your mother's, I would put a wedge between

you and your mother. I would inherit everything she owns. " I told her she was

no friend and threw her out of my apartment. That was over two years ago now.

I don't miss her!

Nada went on to say I was 'never there for her' and that she was never in my

'house' when I was married to my ex hardly at all. Actually the truth is my

stepfather who was very much alive at the time was the supreme manipulator,

control freak extraordinare of her and did not want me to be a part of nada's

life. ly I was just as happy he did that back then in his own sneaky way,

but my ex was also not a fan of nada and he didn't want her around which was

also a part of the problem if you view it as that. When I told nada that my ex

was the problem, she said I was 'half of that marriage' and therefore half

responsible. I told her it was ancient history and didn't mean anything now.

She said oh yes it does.

Then she brought up my father's wife and how 'you didn't like her either so

something is wrong with YOU! She was a lovely person. " No she was not a lovely

person. She abused my ailing father who couldn't take care of himself,

neglected him and told me outright a month after she met him the first time I

met her that if I thought I was going to get everything after he died, I was

wrong. She was. This to a 16 year old girl! So no she was not a 'lovely

woman'. Nada never met her!

Nada went on to say that I was stupid; childish; can't get along with anyone and

any relationship that is over between me and the other person is 'all your fault

since you can't get along with anyone'. Not true since my friends up here have

been friends of mine for years now since I moved up here in 1993 and we never

fight. I tried to tell nada that but she said they aren't friends.

Then nada accused me of being 'off with your LOVER for the day' when in fact I

don't even HAVE a boyfriend and if I did it is none of her business. I am not

underage. I am a 59 year old woman! She told me she doesn't want me to have

anyone in my life or she will disinherit me. (I am meeting a man shortly who so

far is being very attentive with e-mails and phone calls). I met him on the net

on a singles site and he is going to meet all my friends - a group date. My one

friend is meeting a guy there she met on the net as well the same way. I have

never done that before but he is meeting us all at a restaurant which is safer

and should be a lot of fun. I am not telling nada of course. None of her

business.

I know I shouldn't care what a demented, nasty old witch with BPD thinks. She

sounds awful with that wet cough she has; her voice shaky; her breathing was

labored today as she spoke to me etc. but anyway with her coughing up blood now,

she can't have long.

Part of me does not want a nasty phone call from her to be the last one I ever

get. A friend told me that anger is a part of the dying process and they lash

out before the end. She is not holding food down and my only friend left down

in Jersey since the rest all moved away to other states went to see nada between

Christmas and New Years and said she was very bloated from above the waist

through her torso suggesting congestive heart failure. The cough etc would

indicate that as well as does the labored breathing. She is also passing out

once a week now. Two neighbors keep an eye on her and see her almost daily

(God bless THEM) but she isn't nasty to them - she needs them to run all her

errands as she can hardly walk and has trouble standing for more than a few

minutes without keeling over.

I ended the conversation with " I have talked long enough to you " with a half

sarcastic " I love you too " just to stay in her good graces.

God I want this over!

This is mostly venting, but apparently ignoring nada is not a good thing to do

either or is it.

[Guest guest]

You go, girl.

>

> What is up with my nada this morning??????

>

> She started complaining because I wasn't home yesterday to take her call.

Nada, I DO have a life and it doesn't include YOU 99% of the time if I can help

it I wanted to say. Of course I can't because she is dying an agonizingly slow

death and it is taking forever, but anyway even though I don't like her; detest

how she behaved; treated everyoe else in her life for most of it; abhor her

immorality and dishonesty and really wish she would just pass over NOW, she's

still my mother like it or not. 99.9% of the time I don't like it.

>

> Anyway she went on to say the ONLY friend I have is the $ in my pocket, but

then started ragging on me about how - oh yes you have a few real friends -

Reggie was the best and YOU ruined that. No, Reggie was not the 'best' and no I

didn't ruin it. Reggie (short for Regina) was a bipolar woman who never took

her meds, stood me up on her birthday after I went to the trouble of making her

a gourmet homemade cake festooned with pink icing roses; arranged to take her

out to dinner with a few friends etc. - never called - never answered MY call -

just stood me up with the excuse after a few days later " My daughter didn't call

me to wish me a happy birthday so I didn't want to be bothered with anyone

including you! I do what I want when I want. I am a Pisces and that's how we

are! " It wasn't the first time she had acted that way, but I was 100% sure it

was going to be the last with me anyway. She had also went on to say after that

I 'hadn't done anything for her birthday' and what kind of a best friend was I.

(I had a party for her before her birthday along with two other friends who are

Aquarians since she did not want a birthday party by herself she said at the

time. I gave her two gifts at that party also. I reminded her I did that, but

she said that wasn't HER party it was for and ! No, she was included

in that and our mutual friends all gave her gifts too. Duh!

>

> Nada also brought up another woman who is nobody's friend named Sue who

angrily told me after insisting that I dump my then boyfriend and 'go down to

Jersey to see your mother every weekend - he's ONLY a man - no big deal' that

'if I could find my way down there without you to your mother's, I would put a

wedge between you and your mother. I would inherit everything she owns. " I

told her she was no friend and threw her out of my apartment. That was over two

years ago now. I don't miss her!

>

> Nada went on to say I was 'never there for her' and that she was never in my

'house' when I was married to my ex hardly at all. Actually the truth is my

stepfather who was very much alive at the time was the supreme manipulator,

control freak extraordinare of her and did not want me to be a part of nada's

life. ly I was just as happy he did that back then in his own sneaky way,

but my ex was also not a fan of nada and he didn't want her around which was

also a part of the problem if you view it as that. When I told nada that my ex

was the problem, she said I was 'half of that marriage' and therefore half

responsible. I told her it was ancient history and didn't mean anything now.

She said oh yes it does.

>

> Then she brought up my father's wife and how 'you didn't like her either so

something is wrong with YOU! She was a lovely person. " No she was not a lovely

person. She abused my ailing father who couldn't take care of himself,

neglected him and told me outright a month after she met him the first time I

met her that if I thought I was going to get everything after he died, I was

wrong. She was. This to a 16 year old girl! So no she was not a 'lovely

woman'. Nada never met her!

>

> Nada went on to say that I was stupid; childish; can't get along with anyone

and any relationship that is over between me and the other person is 'all your

fault since you can't get along with anyone'. Not true since my friends up here

have been friends of mine for years now since I moved up here in 1993 and we

never fight. I tried to tell nada that but she said they aren't friends.

>

> Then nada accused me of being 'off with your LOVER for the day' when in fact I

don't even HAVE a boyfriend and if I did it is none of her business. I am not

underage. I am a 59 year old woman! She told me she doesn't want me to have

anyone in my life or she will disinherit me. (I am meeting a man shortly who so

far is being very attentive with e-mails and phone calls). I met him on the net

on a singles site and he is going to meet all my friends - a group date. My one

friend is meeting a guy there she met on the net as well the same way. I have

never done that before but he is meeting us all at a restaurant which is safer

and should be a lot of fun. I am not telling nada of course. None of her

business.

>

> I know I shouldn't care what a demented, nasty old witch with BPD thinks. She

sounds awful with that wet cough she has; her voice shaky; her breathing was

labored today as she spoke to me etc. but anyway with her coughing up blood now,

she can't have long.

>

> Part of me does not want a nasty phone call from her to be the last one I ever

get. A friend told me that anger is a part of the dying process and they lash

out before the end. She is not holding food down and my only friend left down

in Jersey since the rest all moved away to other states went to see nada between

Christmas and New Years and said she was very bloated from above the waist

through her torso suggesting congestive heart failure. The cough etc would

indicate that as well as does the labored breathing. She is also passing out

once a week now. Two neighbors keep an eye on her and see her almost daily

(God bless THEM) but she isn't nasty to them - she needs them to run all her

errands as she can hardly walk and has trouble standing for more than a few

minutes without keeling over.

>

> I ended the conversation with " I have talked long enough to you " with a half

sarcastic " I love you too " just to stay in her good graces.

>

> God I want this over!

>

> This is mostly venting, but apparently ignoring nada is not a good thing to do

either or is it.

>