Guest guest Posted January 27, 2010 Report Share Posted January 27, 2010 Yes there is a way to live much closer to a normal life and you can set boundaries to insist that she stop what she is doing to you (and you are not imagining it!!). Yes you can have greater peace when you have unmeshed from your nada. You remind me of where I have come. I went through all that you are describing when I unhinged myself from nada's grasp. It was scary and it hasn't always been easy but I no longer live in fear of her stalking me, interferring with raising my kids or interferring with my marriage. I can now focus on becoming healthier. You can do this and it will get better. (((hugs))) patinage > > God. I am so frustrated today. The last few days were awesome. Then today came along and ruined it. LOL. 1st my son was being *very* difficult about going to school. That set this whole day on the wrong foot and the conflict severely elevated my anxiety level. I ended up having a panic attack? adreneline surge? (not sure what to call it) It lasted about 10 minutes. Now all morning I jump every time the phone rings because I am expecting nada to call to solidify plans for this weekend (in her dreams. lol *roll eyes*) All of this got me to thinking....do children raised in a BPD household have much higher rates of anxiety disorders-EVEN INTO THEIR ADULT LIVES? And what about going 100% NC for long periods of time, or even after the BPD parent passes away-do we have to carry this anxiety and panic ALL OF OUR LIVES? Is there anyway to just effing LIVE a REGULAR LIFE? I had a few days of a normal life. I was happy. Nada was " in the background " and my children were well behaved and I had no anxiety. I want that most days, not just once in awhile. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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