hugging

[Guest guest]

It's funny, Jackie, because my ex-husband was someone I got those invasive

feelings from and

we never had a sex life; there was no affection (even though I craved it) I

think it was his intense

neediness. I am needy too, but I couldn't do it.

My boyfriend now...we are completely in synch physically. He is not invasive,

but we have great

affection. He has given me a lot of healing; but I feel it is never enough....I

could lay in his arms

every night forever.

~patricia

Re: Re: Abusive E-mails

that's creepy LOL nada never hugged us, and never kissed us...WE had to

kiss her on the cheek, but she never kissed us, not even when we were sick

or hurt...I never saw nada and fada hug either..and fada only gave nada a

peck on the cheek as well.....my mother-in-law is a hugger..and it took a

LONG time to feel OK with being hugged by her...how odd, but with my

husband it didn't take long at all to feel comfortable with him hugging

me...

I've worked on my abandonment issues for a long time...and I've gotten

almost normal about them..

Jackie

> Jackie~ I have horrible abandonment issues! Plus issues around people

> getting too close;

> my mother was/is the kind of person who was invasive and would hug too

> long sort of thing,

> psyche-invasion.

> ~patricia

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