Guest guest Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 That's really awesome that you have found that and are comfortable with it, ! In a message dated 12/30/2009 2:47:22 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, coyotesun1@... writes: It's funny, Jackie, because my ex-husband was someone I got those invasive feelings from and we never had a sex life; there was no affection (even though I craved it) I think it was his intense neediness. I am needy too, but I couldn't do it. My boyfriend now...we are completely in synch physically. He is not invasive, but we have great affection. He has given me a lot of healing; but I feel it is never enough....I could lay in his arms every night forever. ~patricia Re: Re: Abusive E-mails that's creepy LOL nada never hugged us, and never kissed us...WE had to kiss her on the cheek, but she never kissed us, not even when we were sick or hurt...I never saw nada and fada hug either..and fada only gave nada a peck on the cheek as well.....my mother-in-law is a hugger..and it took a LONG time to feel OK with being hugged by her...how odd, but with my husband it didn't take long at all to feel comfortable with him hugging me... I've worked on my abandonment issues for a long time...and I've gotten almost normal about them.. Jackie > Jackie~ I have horrible abandonment issues! Plus issues around people > getting too close; > my mother was/is the kind of person who was invasive and would hug too > long sort of thing, > psyche-invasion. > ~patricia ------------------------------------ Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at _@..._ (mailto:@...) . SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook.Yahoo! Groups Links ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.722 / Virus Database: 270.14.123/2592 - Release Date: 12/29/09 02:47:00 [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Thank you if only it were a dream come true; he does not want to commit to anyone, live together, etc. He has major issues; grew up in Iran, experienced war (with Iraq), abuse within his home, and just living under the islamic regime there. **sigh** but this has been my life with men; only this one I actually love.. Re: Re: Abusive E-mails that's creepy LOL nada never hugged us, and never kissed us...WE had to kiss her on the cheek, but she never kissed us, not even when we were sick or hurt...I never saw nada and fada hug either..and fada only gave nada a peck on the cheek as well.....my mother-in-law is a hugger..and it took a LONG time to feel OK with being hugged by her...how odd, but with my husband it didn't take long at all to feel comfortable with him hugging me... I've worked on my abandonment issues for a long time...and I've gotten almost normal about them.. Jackie > Jackie~ I have horrible abandonment issues! Plus issues around people > getting too close; > my mother was/is the kind of person who was invasive and would hug too > long sort of thing, > psyche-invasion. > ~patricia ------------------------------------ Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at _@..._ (mailto:@...) . SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook.Yahoo! Groups Links ---------------------------------------------------------- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 9.0.722 / Virus Database: 270.14.123/2592 - Release Date: 12/29/09 02:47:00 [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 , my husband is from Iran. We do have a lot in common! ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Wed, December 30, 2009 3:00:41 PM Subject: Re: hugging  Thank you if only it were a dream come true; he does not want to commit to anyone, live together, etc. He has major issues; grew up in Iran, experienced war (with Iraq), abuse within his home, and just living under the islamic regime there. **sigh** but this has been my life with men; only this one I actually love.. Re: Re: Abusive E-mails that's creepy LOL nada never hugged us, and never kissed us...WE had to kiss her on the cheek, but she never kissed us, not even when we were sick or hurt...I never saw nada and fada hug either..and fada only gave nada a peck on the cheek as well.....my mother-in-law is a hugger..and it took a LONG time to feel OK with being hugged by her...how odd, but with my husband it didn't take long at all to feel comfortable with him hugging me... I've worked on my abandonment issues for a long time...and I've gotten almost normal about them.. Jackie > Jackie~ I have horrible abandonment issues! Plus issues around people > getting too close; > my mother was/is the kind of person who was invasive and would hug too > long sort of thing, > psyche-invasion. > ~patricia ------------ --------- --------- ------ Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at _BPDCentral (DOT) Lis_ (mailto:BPDCentral (DOT) com) . SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Wow, really? Does he have *issues* Is he disturbed by the events in Iran these days? ~p Re: Re: Abusive E-mails that's creepy LOL nada never hugged us, and never kissed us...WE had to kiss her on the cheek, but she never kissed us, not even when we were sick or hurt...I never saw nada and fada hug either..and fada only gave nada a peck on the cheek as well.....my mother-in-law is a hugger..and it took a LONG time to feel OK with being hugged by her...how odd, but with my husband it didn't take long at all to feel comfortable with him hugging me... I've worked on my abandonment issues for a long time...and I've gotten almost normal about them.. Jackie > Jackie~ I have horrible abandonment issues! Plus issues around people > getting too close; > my mother was/is the kind of person who was invasive and would hug too > long sort of thing, > psyche-invasion. > ~patricia ------------ --------- --------- ------ Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at _BPDCentral (DOT) Lis_ (mailto:BPDCentral (DOT) com) . SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON THE GROUP. To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35-SHELL () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE and the SWOE Workbook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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