Anyone experienced a BPD parent actually get better?

[Guest guest]

Am I fooling myself? Can a BPD parent actually " get better " ?

Four years ago I stumbled across " I Hate You Don't Leave Me " . I had never heard

of BPD before finding that book. But there I was reading a pargraph, and for the

first time in my life I knew there was nothing wrong with me -- I was normal.

Having said this, up to that point, I was a b--ch. I was an emotionally abusive

mother. And berating your child is far from " normal " .

I consider myself a fairly intelligent person, but honestly, up to that point, I

thought I was born with a short temper gene. Sounds weak, but it's the truth. I

thought I had a F-You I don't need you gene because my mom had it, too.

At the risk of writing a letter which sounds like " it's all about me " , I thought

I would ask if there is anyone out there who has ever met a mom who has really,

seriously, made a daily committment for several years to break free from the

behaviors she never should have trespassed against another living soul:

especially her children and husband.

I am in an awkward position, and I don't know where to turn. Seems there isn't a

category in a forum for someone like me: a recovered BPD (who can empathize with

so many things you very wise, brave adult children talk about -- I understand

this horrible (disorder) from both sides, and now I am stuck between my own

mother who has BPD, and a daughter who I suspect has BPD, (and a grand-daughter

due to bless this world in July whom I pray never, ever knows the wrath of BPD.)

Is there anyone out there who knows another parent that has broken free? I mean

really made a mindful committment to change their behaviors and stuck to it?

Because I would like to meet them.

Thank you for taking the time to read this lengthy letter. I'm new here.