Guest guest Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 Thanks! > > > > I need to vent... > > > > ...I'm working this weekend, two twelve-hour shifts. My husband is alone with our three kids. We haven't had contact with nada for just over two years. > > > > Yesterday, nada shows up on the doorstep while I'm at work. Hubby spies her, shuttles the kids into the basement and doesn't answer the doorbell. He shortly thereafter calls me to tell me so. > > > > Later that day, I get a page to an unfamiliar number. I'll fess up--I'm a doctor, so I can't just not respond to unfamiliar numbers that come across my pager. When I call back, it's nada. Out of curiosity, I don't hang up. > > > > Her: [writer], it's your mother. I had a very humiliating experience today. > > > > Me:.... > > > > Her: I wanted to say hi to MY grandchildren. But when I stopped by your house [husband] took them into the basement and SLAMMED the door. > > > > Me:... > > > > Her: I was with a FRIEND. I wanted to say hi to MY grandchildren... > > > > Me: I'm going to say this once. You need professional help. > > > > Her: I'm getting professional help. And my professional tells me that your husband is the problem. > > > > Me: Your professional has never met my husband. > > > > Her: [slight chuckle] [writer], you are an abused person... > > > > Me: You're right! Thanks mom! > > > > And I hang up. > > > > Okay, first, who in their right mind shows up, with a friend no less, at the doorstep of someone who has refused to speak to them in over two years and expects to be let in? > > > > And second, now my husband is abusing me? Because he wouldn't let a crazy person in the house? > > > > Classic.... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 Hi Sara, You're so right--she pages me because she knows I have to answer. And as far as " professional " help, if she is getting any, I think it's most likely a clergyman. She's uber-religious. But I seriously doubt she's working with anyone with more advanced training in psychiatry/psychology. And honestly, how would any " professional " come to the conclusion that because I won't speak to my parents that my husband is abusing me? I strongly suspect she's just making crap up. I'm in general internal medicine--on weekends I do hospitalist stuff. > > Hi writer, > First off, I think it was wrong of your nada to take advantage of the fact that you cannot let a page go unanswered. That is proof right there that she has no repect for your wishes or boundaries, as if showing up unannounced at your door wasn't enough. > I wouldn't put it past her that she was lying about getting professional help. And if she isn't lying....she might be doing a really nice job of fooling her therapist and telling lies about your husband or something. I don't believe any therapist would tell their patient that the problems are someone elses fault. The point of therapy is to help an individual deal with their own lives better. > I think it's good that you hung up on her.....it's hard for me to do. That is showing her that you aren't going to respond to that kind of crap. > You are a doctor, a wife, and a mother. You have enough anguish to worry about at your job everyday to let nada's childish antics get to you. > Also, out of pure curiosity, what kind of Doctor are you? > ~Sara Jo > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 I've thought about that in the past, and maybe someday I'll get to that point, but right now the thought of even listening to her relay her version of reality would send me into convulsions. But I like your idea about the next contact needing to be from someone like an LPC who has been working with her for more than a few sessions. And my nada lies all. the. time. > > > > I need to vent... > > > > ...I'm working this weekend, two twelve-hour shifts. My husband is > alone with our three kids. We haven't had contact with nada for just > over two years. > > > > Yesterday, nada shows up on the doorstep while I'm at work. Hubby > spies her, shuttles the kids into the basement and doesn't answer the > doorbell. He shortly thereafter calls me to tell me so. > > > > Later that day, I get a page to an unfamiliar number. I'll fess > up--I'm a doctor, so I can't just not respond to unfamiliar numbers that > come across my pager. When I call back, it's nada. Out of curiosity, I > don't hang up. > > > > Her: [writer], it's your mother. I had a very humiliating experience > today. > > > > Me:.... > > > > Her: I wanted to say hi to MY grandchildren. But when I stopped by > your house [husband] took them into the basement and SLAMMED the door. > > > > Me:... > > > > Her: I was with a FRIEND. I wanted to say hi to MY grandchildren... > > > > Me: I'm going to say this once. You need professional help. > > > > Her: I'm getting professional help. And my professional tells me that > your husband is the problem. > > > > Me: Your professional has never met my husband. > > > > Her: [slight chuckle] [writer], you are an abused person... > > > > Me: You're right! Thanks mom! > > > > And I hang up. > > > > Okay, first, who in their right mind shows up, with a friend no less, > at the doorstep of someone who has refused to speak to them in over two > years and expects to be let in? > > > > And second, now my husband is abusing me? Because he wouldn't let a > crazy person in the house? > > > > Classic.... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2010 Report Share Posted January 4, 2010 LOL LOL oh my that is a classic Big Grin > > Oh, I have a classic story with regards to nada being right about everything. > > So I'm an MD, right? Nada calls me once and starts talking about how worried she is about one of her friends who's getting chemotherapy and is receiving " plattle-let " transfusions. > > " Mom, it's pronounced 'platelets', " I politely correct her. > > Dramatic pause, and then in a huffy voice, " Well, out HERE we call them 'plattle-lets'! " > > For the record, precisely NOBODY in the medical profession pronounces it that way. But she's nada. She has to win. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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