Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks Georgia. I know it sure bothers me, but I know that too will pass right? Have a great night. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 I was just reading in the AARP magazine the laughter is the best medicine. Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 it's on breastcancer2@..., it's the last one and titled ren and friend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2004 Report Share Posted November 29, 2004 Same way I always have just went along with him, it's hard to break away. I sent him an email last week and told him I thought it was best that we not communicate any more and he wrote me one back and said he would honor that for now, but maybe not later and that he hoped that I would call he would like that. So the next day I gave it some thought and decided that I could at least talk to him and not send an email, so we have talked a couple of times. I was able to tell him how I felt about him being standoffish with me, he said he was sorry, but that's an easy word to say and not have to do anything about it. I need to let it go, we live 2 hours from one another, but we have always made time for each other just about every week 2 and 3 days at a time. But it's not that way now. I have not seen him in 3 weeks going on 4. He says he has been really busy at work. I just want God's will in my life and who ever needs to be in my life. All of a sudden I don't have time for stupid stuff or games. You know what I mean? ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Ren I know exactly what you mean. I think that was the hardest part for people who knew me--I no longer have time for stupid games. My tolerance for deceit has decreased a whole bunch. I'm no longer good friends with some people who just take too much energy and I have found new friends who understand. My husband of 16 years decided that he didn't like the new me--well, he says he doesn't feel a spark anymore. Funny thing, neither do I. I've come to realize that I have more important things to do (like raising our 13 year old son) than stroking his huge ego and trying to make him feel like a "man". It's his problem, not mine. I don't have the time or the energy. My best friends of 26 years told me to get on with my life, I had cancer and now I was cured! She also said her other friend was sicker than I was. I told her it wasn't a contest. She didn't live near me when I was pregnant and on Chemo. She has no idea what my "odds" were or those of my son's. And I am very happy that her other friend has beaten the beast and survived too. But we are no longer close. I don't have the time or the energy. My cousin had breast cancer a few years ago. She decided it wouldn't define her life. She had her mastectomy, her treatments, her "cure" and went on with her life. I was instructed to never bring the subject up to her. Well, she had a recurrence and is now talking about it. She gives talks at schools and public groups about the importance of early detection. And she was so surprised to find out that the ACS has programs to help you with wigs, protethesis, etc. She wishes she had known the first time, well, she didn't want to hear and I had to respect her wishes. Again, I didn't have the time or the energy to help educate her if she didn't want to learn. I now use the time and energy I have for the things that matter to me. And I feel sure that the Lord will give me the time I need and the energy to get it all done. hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2004 Report Share Posted December 13, 2004 No I am not, I need to start. I have a multi-vitamin so I should take it. Thanks, Ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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