Guest guest Posted November 4, 2004 Report Share Posted November 4, 2004 http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story & u=/ap/20041104/ap_on_re_us/elizabeth_edwards_cancer it si invasive ductal carcinoma. the link above has the story about it. hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 I think every lady here can say the same thing...we are all here for one another and it is a blessing to come in and read the post and know that we are not alone....I don't want anyone to go through anything like this but we all pull together and try our best to help the next one going through what we have done. some a lot more and some a little less but we are going to fight this thing and Ronda bless her heart has had so much more.... but God has a plan for her Angel Huggs and Prayers...Ronda is in surgery and I have my candle lit and have been praying for her as I know that everyone else is.... ssist@... wrote: Last nite was so wonderful!!! I think you are a great group of ladies and am so blessed to have you in my life right now...each of you are embedded in my heart in that "special" place...each of you give me courage and uplift my soul to a place I haven't seen since diagnosis in April...I love you all so... Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you are all in my prayers. Best, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 , my condolences to you and your family. So sorry this happened. Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my prayers tonight and in the coming days. hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 , I am so sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my prayers. Hugs nne > I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but > had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a > shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis > in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us > as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I > know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's > with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. > > I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be > Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you > are all in my prayers. > > Best, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. When my mother passed away back in '95 it was sad, but at least I had my health. I'm so glad that you have family around you now. I think it takes around a year to get over it. These days, except for my health problems, life moves along just fine. Yours will, too. Take care, , Love and Very Special Hugs, Janie > I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but > had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a > shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis > in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us > as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I > know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's > with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. > > I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be > Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you > are all in my prayers. > > Best, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 I am so sorry to hear about your mother...you are right she is happy where she is and with your dad and brother....It is tough to lose your mom and you never get over it....but just remember you are not responsible for it. I am sure she is very proud of you....and God has another rose in heaven...Angel Huggs and Prayers ssist@... wrote: I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you are all in my prayers. Best, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 Dear , I am sorry about the loss of your mother. You and your family will be in my thoughts and in my prayers. Take care, God Bless, Love, Sharon F. > I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but > had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a > shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis > in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us > as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I > know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's > with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. > > I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be > Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you > are all in my prayers. > > Best, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 : My prayers are with you and your family. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2004 Report Share Posted November 13, 2004 This is Ren, I just want to vent about my first chemo. I know that I am not anywhere near where Ronda is feeling right now, but I am so tired. I just feel yuky. I go from the bed to the couch. I did finally turn the washing machine on. I was constipated for 3 days, but that is ok now. I have very little nausea, but don't have a taste for anything to eat. I know that I need to eat. Seems like I want to eat apples (peeled) and bananas. I tried to eat a tv dinner last night and the smell was not appealing. I feel bad even talking about this with Ronda going through so much. I keep touching my head to see if I can feel my hair coming out, I guess that is normal? I live alone so it's like I have someone to turn to and talk to. My guy friend has put me on the back burner, and I guess I can see why. Who would want to come over here and just watch me rest? Sounds like I am having a pity party huh? I am so thankful so very thankful. God is so good to me. I just needed to talk. I would appreciate any advice on what to try to eat. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks. I will try whatever is on my mind and see what happens. Have a great Sunday. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks for the kind words I needed them today. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 I have no great ideas on what to eat. It is really what you can stand to even look at. I drank a lot of tomato juice. My hair didnt fall out till the week before I was to go for the next dose. Just do what you feel like and let the rest wait, there will be better days soon. Hugs Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 thanks Jeana. I went to the store and got me some food I thought I could eat. I was glad to be back home and I am thinking I can go to work tomorrow? Maybe. I hope and pray that Ronda is coming around and doing better. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Dear Ren I know how you feel and I know it isn't easy being alone during all of this. I found that meat was not something I wanted to eat during chemo. The smell of TV dinners make me puke. You do need to get lots of water and fluids, that is probably the most important thing right now. Things that were cold tasted better, fruit, raw veggies, snack foods. I did loose weight on chemo although I know that some women gain. (I was pregnant at the time, so I had more nausea than most I think) I lived on Ensure, very cold! I liked the vanilla best. Ice cream, popsicles, ice cream bars. My nuitritionist told me that there are no BAD foods during chemo. Eat whatever you want to and whatever tastes best. I also had mouth ulcers (they didn't have much for them back then) so liquids went down better. Soups were good too. My hair fell out before my second chemo. I had it cut very short because I couldn't deal with shaving my head and since it was past shoulder length it was a mess falling out. But my head was very sore during the process, this does go away quickly. I wore scarves and those knit hats most of the time as I found my wig to be uncomfortable. I only wore it when I left the house and not even all the time then. Ren, hang in there, it does get better. The tiredness is just part of it. You need to be taking a mulitvitamin right now if you aren't already. Ask your onc. about which is best because some vitamins hender the chemo. Big hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Thanks Pam, I was wondering about a vitamin, so I will ask my onc. My hair is past my shoulders as well. I am getting it cut or shaved this week. Thanks so so much Pam. love and hugs ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 You're very welcome. Wish there was more I could do to help you! hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Hi Ren, Sorry you are having a rough time. You are in my prayers. As far as what to eat, I ate what ever was appealing to me. Believe it or not pizza and spaghetti plus any dairy products were pretty much what I ate. Hugs nne > This is Ren, I just want to vent about my first chemo. I know that I am not > anywhere near where Ronda is feeling right now, but I am so tired. I just > feel yuky. I go from the bed to the couch. I did finally turn the washing > machine on. I was constipated for 3 days, but that is ok now. I have very little > nausea, but don't have a taste for anything to eat. I know that I need to > eat. Seems like I want to eat apples (peeled) and bananas. I tried to eat a tv > dinner last night and the smell was not appealing. I feel bad even talking > about this with Ronda going through so much. I keep touching my head to see if > I can feel my hair coming out, I guess that is normal? I live alone so it's > like I have someone to turn to and talk to. My guy friend has put me on the > back burner, and I guess I can see why. Who would want to come over here and > just watch me rest? Sounds like I am having a pity party huh? I am so thankful > so very thankful. God is so good to me. I just needed to talk. I would > appreciate any advice on what to try to eat. > > ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Good morning Ren....what you are feeling is normal...and the boyfriend....he has a hard time....I had one that stuck with me like glue through my five by-pass surgery and then before I fully recovered I had BC and he stuck with me through 90% of that but then he comes in one morning when I am in the hospital and tells me he has to go....have not seen him since and that was a year ago last Oct.... but he had taken care of his wife through cancer and was so good to her and I guess he just couldn't face going through cancer again..... when my hair started coming out I shaved my head and it was so much easier that seeing it fall out in clumps....and as for eating I ate anything I could hold down...I was never throwing up sick but was so weak and shaky and I cried a lot the doc gave me a mild anti-depressant pill and that helped and I only took them on days that I felt I just couldn't face the world....its ok to have a pity party but make it last only a day and then pick yourself up dust yourself off and go buy something or go out and eat with a friend or just go walk around the store even if you have to have a cart to hang onto....you are in my prayers...and yes God is so good...He will never leave us.....Angel Huggs and prayers rendurall@... wrote: This is Ren, I just want to vent about my first chemo. I know that I am not anywhere near where Ronda is feeling right now, but I am so tired. I just feel yuky. I go from the bed to the couch. I did finally turn the washing machine on. I was constipated for 3 days, but that is ok now. I have very little nausea, but don't have a taste for anything to eat. I know that I need to eat. Seems like I want to eat apples (peeled) and bananas. I tried to eat a tv dinner last night and the smell was not appealing. I feel bad even talking about this with Ronda going through so much. I keep touching my head to see if I can feel my hair coming out, I guess that is normal? I live alone so it's like I have someone to turn to and talk to. My guy friend has put me on the back burner, and I guess I can see why. Who would want to come over here and just watch me rest? Sounds like I am having a pity party huh? I am so thankful so very thankful. God is so good to me. I just needed to talk. I would appreciate any advice on what to try to eat. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 I am so sorry for your loss.. Evassist@... wrote: I found out this morning that my Mom passed away. She was 88 years old, but had the spirit of someone in their seventies. She wasn't sick so this was a shock to all of us. I had some guilt this morning that since my diagnosis in April, it really took a toll on her, but I had her spend weekends with us as often as possible. I was never anything but upbeat in front of her and I know she was proud of me...so my guilt has been replaced with knowing she's with my Dad and Brother and she must be so happy right now. I probably won't be in touch for the next couple of days - wake will be Tuesday with burial on Wednesday. I will still think of you all daily and you are all in my prayers. Best, God Bless You All Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Marik You should call your onc. They have meds they can give you to help with the nausea. They don't know that you are suffering unless you tell them and we tend to think we are supposed to suffer. Try drinking fluids, jello, get some Ensure, rest, sleep. Hope you are feeling better soon, hugs Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Marik, you just keep on complaining, we are ok with it. Hope you can get some relief. Jeana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 Marik, I kept a small supply of those chocolate mint pattys on hand when I had my chemo; the peppermint helped settle my stomach. I also had peppermint tea on hand; the warmth was soothing as well. Good luck....definitely call your Onc and let them know what is going on. They may just need to give you a different kind of med to make it easier to deal with it. My worst day was 2 days after my chemo, but by the 3rd day, I was better. Hang in there. Fellows Anchorage, AK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 14, 2004 Report Share Posted November 14, 2004 your welcome anytime I can help a fellow bc sister...Huggs rendurall@... wrote: Thanks for the kind words I needed them today. ren Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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