Re: just back from lawyer

[Guest guest]

Hey Mandi

That does sound like a horrible experience, and I can't blame you for being upset. You've asked for some thoughts, so let me share some of mine.

At this point, it sounds like you really have to be careful of whom you trust. It appears that some of those you SHOULD be able to trust, you can't. Including your Dr. and some family members. Next, make sure that you have those "in control" confirm whatever they say to in WRITING.

If they won't prescribe meds, make them put in writing WHY they won't. Your Dr. is obligated to take care of you, and if he won't, you should have it in writing why he won't. Same thing for the lawyer.

It's nice everyone is so concerned for your well being, but on the other hand, they seem to be conspiring against you.

I know when my family was overly concerned about my meds they spoke to ME, not my Dr or lawyer. Your Dr. should not be discussing your medical history with an Attorney without your permission, either.

Get a copy of ALL of your medical records as soon as you can. Make sure that you follow up with letters on any discrepancies you find within them. If you feel the Dr. has misstated or misrepresented something you said, tell him that IN WRITING.

I emphasize the in writing part because it is the only legal way you can protect yourself. He said, she said means nothing to anyone in authority, believe me.

Lastly (I Promise) is to go to the ER if you are worried about your Blood Pressure. Your health too important to worry about what they'll think if you show up at the ER.

Hope this helps,

Jo

just back from lawyer

the most horrible experience, that b@#$h was so condesending she said she had talked to my dr and he is very concerned about my well being so he wont write anything else . concerned????? if he is so concerned why not give me something to keep me from stroking out with my bp from withdrawals, HELLO. but i was very enlightened however, but i have to digress so you understand so forgive the lengthtyness but it will be well worth it i promise. ok in feb i went on a trip my grandmother (whom i am very close to ) sugested. she and i plus two of my cousins wives took our kids to dallas to see disney on ice and the plan was to rent a van and take turns driving so we could all ride together. well for some reason or another, every time i was supposed to drive someone ended up taking my turn and other things seemed kind of hinky but i couldnt figure out why. especially since i had to sleep in a closet the 2nd night becausei "snored too loud" well when we stopped for food on the way home i was supposed to drive from there home but one cousin jumped in the driver seat and refused to budge. this pissed my granny off so she asked what the prob was but got no answer which made her upset and she said so and said that they had really upset me. well about 15 minuteds from where are cars were something made the driver mad who then slammed on the brakeds throwing my g.m. into the front seat and when i asked what the prob was she said it was me so i got out and refused to ride anymore with them so i called my other grandparents to come get me. while waiting one of the cousins came to me and said "honey youu have a problem with the pain meds and we just cant trust you"boy was i mad and so was my gm so a few days later i learned they had planned not to let me drive but didnt say so for fear i wouldnt go(damn right) and my gm wouldnt pay for the trip. so needless to say i havent spoken to either of them and my grandmother set all the other relatives straight who had been told all sorts of lies. ok now back to today in the meeting the lady kept asking me about my family dynamics and i had no idea why unitll she told me the doc told her he had gotten a calll from a family member saying they had disowned me because i had a drug problem and refused to get help! now how is that for family love. and dont u think the dr would have told me about this so i dont know if this happened or if he made it up . Im more CONFUSED thn ever. but i am meeting with him and my lawyer next week to discuss wheer to go from here wether i need detox or not . But he has lied so many timedsin the past and even in some things he sais to the lawyer i dont kow what to do. but i am requesting a copy of my chart!any thoughts,keep on keeping on ,mandi

[Guest guest]

Hi Mandi,

It is so sad to hear of your many problems, and to have some of your

family members turn against you in this way is hard to understand. I

am sure it is very difficult for you at this time. May I offer my

love and support to you in any way I can. I have not had to deal

with the types of things you are facing, so cannot completely

understand, but I do have tender feelings and know when someone is

reaching out for help. I can and will keep you in my prayers and

also your family that they may grow to have more tolerance, kindness

and understanding.

May the Lord Bless,

Betsy

> the most horrible experience, that b@#$h was so condesending she

said

> she had talked to my dr and he is very concerned about my well

being

> so he wont write anything else . concerned????? if he is so

> concerned why not give me something to keep me from stroking out

with

> my bp from withdrawals, HELLO. but i was very enlightened however,

> but i have to digress so you understand so forgive the lengthtyness

> but it will be well worth it i promise. ok in feb i went on a trip

> my grandmother (whom i am very close to ) sugested. she and i plus

> two of my cousins wives took our kids to dallas to see disney on

ice

> and the plan was to rent a van and take turns driving so we could

> all ride together. well for some reason or another, every time i

was

> supposed to drive someone ended up taking my turn and other things

> seemed kind of hinky but i couldnt figure out why. especially since

i

> had to sleep in a closet the 2nd night becausei " snored too loud "

> well when we stopped for food on the way home i was supposed to

drive

> from there home but one cousin jumped in the driver seat and

refused

> to budge. this pissed my granny off so she asked what the prob was

> but got no answer which made her upset and she said so and said

that

> they had really upset me. well about 15 minuteds from where are

cars

> were something made the driver mad who then slammed on the brakeds

> throwing my g.m. into the front seat and when i asked what the prob

> was she said it was me so i got out and refused to ride anymore

with

> them so i called my other grandparents to come get me. while

waiting

> one of the cousins came to me and said " honey youu have a problem

> with the pain meds and we just cant trust you " boy was i mad and so

> was my gm so a few days later i learned they had planned not to let

> me drive but didnt say so for fear i wouldnt go(damn right) and my

gm

> wouldnt pay for the trip. so needless to say i havent spoken to

> either of them and my grandmother set all the other relatives

> straight who had been told all sorts of lies. ok now back to today

in

> the meeting the lady kept asking me about my family dynamics and i

> had no idea why unitll she told me the doc told her he had gotten a

> calll from a family member saying they had disowned me because i

had

> a drug problem and refused to get help! now how is that for family

> love. and dont u think the dr would have told me about this so i

> dont know if this happened or if he made it up . Im more CONFUSED

> thn ever. but i am meeting with him and my lawyer next week to

> discuss wheer to go from here wether i need detox or not . But he

> has lied so many timedsin the past and even in some things he sais

to

> the lawyer i dont kow what to do. but i am requesting a copy of my

> chart!

>

> any thoughts,

> keep on keeping on ,

> mandi