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[Guest guest]

This is true. Please advise your children

dale murphy

[Guest guest]

Cheryl,

I'm glad to hear is doing well. Where does these kids get the

energy? You have done one heck of a good job holding yourself and your

family together! I had only one baby to deal with and went bezerk!! I

admire your strength.

Danna mom to , Carol and 4,13,and 10. Thank goodness no more

terrible twos. Only hormones with Carol.

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>

> Hi (and the rest of the Onelist),

>

> I've missed you all, but have been trying to keep up a little with the

postings.

> It's just been such a crazy summer. As you all know, was

diagnosed

> profoundly deaf earlier this year. We've spent the summer getting him a

special

> type of implant to aid in his hearing. It's a pretty amazing device.

Anyway, we

> got lots of work ahead of us to get him to talk, but he's coming along

slowly but

> surely. His RSS stuff has taken a back seat since this whole implant

thing came

> about. He's doing well motor wise -- he's just running around everywhere

at only

> 19 lbs. I don't know where he gets his strength. We're still using the

g-tube

> primarily for his main source of nutrition, but he does eat throughout the

day

> too. We go back to GI next week to see where we're going with all this.

I don't

> mean to downplay his RSS at all, but somehow being small doesn't seem so

bad

> compared to his deafness. He's also been seeing a chiropractor 1X/week

for his

> scoliosis in hopes we can prevent him in undergoing any type of back

surgery to

> correct that. Back surgery just scares the heck out of me. He sees

Orthopaedics

> every 3 months for x-rays of his back and we're just hoping to get him

bigger and

> stronger before he has to undergo any surgery for that. I'll tell ya,

it's been

> one tough road this year for the whole family. When do we all start

getting paid

> for this job anyway?

>

> I do welcome all the new folks to the group (sorry for no formal

introductions

> from me as you've posted). Too make a long story short, I'm the triplet

Mom of

> the group with a little guy named . Hope to touch base with you

all soon.

>

> Cheryl

> Mom to , , and - 2-1/2 (and yes, they are the

terrible

> twos)

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Sorry it took me so long to answerr, but we were at

CCMC, as we finally gave in and got the tube for

Connor. He had gotten up to 19 pounds this summer on

the periactin, but then was again not eating and

losing, so we kind of all gave in. A little

relief-although it is too new (this was this past

WEd.) to tell yet. Now my worry is the tube being

pulled out.

I am sorry to hear about 's new problem. I

hope all goes well with his next new doctor visit.

Even though I don't write much, I think of you and

micheal often, as it helps me cope.

Fondly,

Kim C

--- Slane wrote:

> To: thetoppis@...

>

> My had an US down on his kidneys. Come to

> find out he's only got 1,

> but it's functioning well. We see a pediatric

> nephrologist (kidney doctor)

> annually to monitor it.

>

> Cheryl

> Mom to , , and - all 2-1/2

> years old

> PS I also noticed in the recent posts comparisons

> on weights between

> siblings. My triplets are 37 lbs. (), 42

> lbs. (), and

> 's only 19.3 lbs. They are only a minute

> apart and as you can see

> the boys are 23 lbs. apart.

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Cheryl- I wonder the same thing myself some days. When I can't get either boy

to eat anything and we're late for school, and the baby is crying.... When I

think of what I went thru to get pregnant and then want to rip my hair out, I

wonder. I remind myself to just get thru one day at a time and hope that Nate

especially will eat better the next day, luckily he usually does. Hope you

have the same luck with and that his appetite comes back quickly. I

don't know if you agree, but I have found the twos to be especially trying

when it comes to feeding the boys. They are so independent and particular!

Hope that the 3's are better,

[Guest guest]

oops forgot to sign for a change-

Liz-Mom of Nate(?RSS)and Sam-27 month old twins and Arianna-8 months

[Guest guest]

YES!

As adults a BP can hold it together for years! Once entangled with someone

intimately they take off thier mask and show the other side. So it stands to

reason this would be true for young adults as well!

Hugs

Kelley

(no subject)

Can a person with BPD appear (behave and function) normally for months at a

time and then go back to BPD behavior for months and then go back to " normal "

for months again. This cycle has gone on with my daughter for years. So, is

the abnormal behavior BPD or just spoiled brat? Right now she is pregnant and

thru most of the pregnancy (about 6 months) she has acted normal. However, I

fear that once the baby is born she will revert to her old, self destructive

behaviors. This is her third child and last year she really went off the deep

end for about 5 months.

[Guest guest]

Thanks for responding. When you say entangled with someone, do you

mean in a relationship as in with the opposite sex? Because that is when my

daughter seems to get

crazy. She hooked up with a loser, dead beat last spring (actually in March

of last year). Let him live off her, blew all her money on him for three

months. Took off to Las Vegas in May with no forewarning. I had her 2 little

boys

with me for the week end, but she had the boyfriend call me as they were

heading west to tell me they would be gone for a couple of weeks and the boys

were

now my responsibility. She never asked, just left them. She proceeded to

marry him in Las Vegas. When they got back in June, she had a fight with him,

said he was using drugs (if he was, she had to be supplying him with the

money---since he had just gotten out of jail for drug abuse and possession in

February and had no job). So, he ticked her off and she called the police and

had

him arrested for domestic assault and since he was already on probation, the

court was happy to throw him back in jail for a year. But, now she was pregnant

and sick and stopped working herself. So my grandsons would not be homeless,

I helped her with babysitting and lent her money which she has paid back when

she refinanced her house.

All this time that he has been in jail, she has once again acted in a

responsible manner. Worked many hours once the morning sickness let up and paid

her

bills, was thoughful and seemingly grateful for my help. Now my fear is that

once he gets out of jail in June, will she revert back to supporting the loser

and lose everything as she almost did last summer. My 2 grandsons are the

product of a relationship with another loser who doesn't work and leached off

her when she was pregnant with the boys. It seems she just can't get it thru

her thick head that these guys just use her. She is a very attractive young

woman, graduated from an excellent college, used to show common sense when she

was in high school. But once she graduated from high school, every guy she has

dated, she has paid their bills, bought them things-----basically KEPT them.

She has really been off the wall SINCE she was 18, when she announced to me

during a fight that she was 18 and no longer had to listen to me and she hasn't

in years.

Jean

[Guest guest]

Entangled as in sexually and intimately is a whole new set of problems with a

BPD. At first they mirror whatever the other person likes! Snare them in,

then once really entangled as in living together or married, they cant hold

thier mask up any longer and all the old bpd problems come out. the jealousy

the insecurity the blaming and projection for anything and everything. There is

a pretty good book called Sirens Song, based on a mans story of his life with

his BPD wife from meeting to ending the relationship that might help you

understand what is happening in the adult daughters bpd. Sounds like she needs

DBT! Sounds like her choice in partners sucks as well!

Why BPD's are attracted to those who themselves are ill is beyond me. My DH

just happens to want to change at age 39 and is working on it , he says because

of me, but I think maybe it has to do with his sons showing the same signs as

him and he doesnt like what he sees.

Feel free to ask more questions. I seem to live surrounded by BPD people

What is really funny is my hindsight is telling me a lot of other people in my

life have been BPD or something similar

Hugs

Kelley

Re: (no subject)

Thanks for responding. When you say entangled with someone, do you

mean in a relationship as in with the opposite sex? Because that is when my

daughter seems to get

crazy. She hooked up with a loser, dead beat last spring (actually in March

of last year). Let him live off her, blew all her money on him for three

months. Took off to Las Vegas in May with no forewarning. I had her 2 little

boys

with me for the week end, but she had the boyfriend call me as they were

heading west to tell me they would be gone for a couple of weeks and the boys

were

now my responsibility. She never asked, just left them. She proceeded to

marry him in Las Vegas. When they got back in June, she had a fight with him,

said he was using drugs (if he was, she had to be supplying him with the

money---since he had just gotten out of jail for drug abuse and possession in

February and had no job). So, he ticked her off and she called the police and

had

him arrested for domestic assault and since he was already on probation, the

court was happy to throw him back in jail for a year. But, now she was

pregnant

and sick and stopped working herself. So my grandsons would not be homeless,

I helped her with babysitting and lent her money which she has paid back when

she refinanced her house.

All this time that he has been in jail, she has once again acted in a

responsible manner. Worked many hours once the morning sickness let up and

paid her

bills, was thoughful and seemingly grateful for my help. Now my fear is that

once he gets out of jail in June, will she revert back to supporting the loser

and lose everything as she almost did last summer. My 2 grandsons are the

product of a relationship with another loser who doesn't work and leached off

her when she was pregnant with the boys. It seems she just can't get it thru

her thick head that these guys just use her. She is a very attractive young

woman, graduated from an excellent college, used to show common sense when she

was in high school. But once she graduated from high school, every guy she

has

dated, she has paid their bills, bought them things-----basically KEPT them.

She has really been off the wall SINCE she was 18, when she announced to me

during a fight that she was 18 and no longer had to listen to me and she

hasn't

in years.

Jean

[Guest guest]

Jean

hopefully her anxiety will lead her to therapy!

As for your grandsons symptoms that is exactly why I am on this group. That

sounds like some of the same behavior my DH's son exhibits. How do we know when

he says his Grandmother hates him he isnt making it up, who knows what this

child is telling them about us. It is scary!

Hugs

Kelley

Re: (no subject)

Kelley,

You'll think I need therapy too, but in this particular relationship, if she

does show her true colors as I think she began to last summer when she had

" husband " arrested, then she may scare him off and that will indeed be a

blessing, because I have no intention of trying to rescue both of them. She

is a

good mother and a responsible person when she is not with these guys and then

she

becomes a camellion and starts to act like them instead of her trying to get

them to improve. I really don't want my grandsons to have to continuously go

thru this nonsense.

Speaking of grandsons, I don't know if I am overreacting, but my 5 year old

grandson who is very bright seems to have a problem with trying to stir up a

hornets' nests frequently. He has been caught numerous times telling lies to

me

and his mother about his teacher whom he doesn't like and it appears he wants

to get us angry with her. He has also told his mother things about me that

are also untrue, like " Nana hates me. She told me she does. " And, I never

said any such thing, but he equates discipline with not liking him. Could he

be

showing traits??

I doubt she will ever go to therapy. She says she has anxiety problems, but

she doesn't see any problems with the rest of her behaviors.

Jean

[Guest guest]

September 15, 2009

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