Re: I was miserable, now I'm just upset.

[Guest guest]

Hi Kell, first of all I am really glad things went well (?). Maybe you are

showing a reaction to the anaesthetic in feeling so down. I have a friend

that is a nurse and she said they are doing studies in relation to the

" blues " after an anaesthetic. I am sure that is all it is. Just you wait,

the weeks will fly by and you will be on solid food again before you know

it, and by then the kilos will just be falling off. It is right about this

stage that you realise you will be able to give up cheese burgers for life,

if that's what you want to do. Don't be so hard on yourself. Let nature

heal. Take care and hopefully things will improve for you soon. Remember,

we are all here for you.

Esther

[Guest guest]

Dearest Kell-

The time right after surgery can be so confusing. You are uncomfortable and

you question why on earth would a sane person have wanted to go through

this. What you are feeling is completely normal. Just give your body time

to get the anesthetic out of your system and then you will be raring and

ready to go. Stick with the fluids for now, take it easy and you will be

great.

We had our Melbourne meeting last night and le was there. She was

banded the 18th of December. She has already lost 10 kgs and is looking

fabulous! I know you will be just as happy--it may take a few days though.

Please let us know if you need anything--that is what we are here for. Keep

the faith and you will feel better soon! Please take care!

Warm Regards, of the Cakes

[Guest guest]

Hi Kell,

Glad to see you back home and back at the computer. The hospital stay doesn't sound very good at all, and this heat, Yuck!

Sorry to hear that you are down in the dumps though. I think we all tend to forget just how big a change we all made in our lives when we had the band. It is a huge decision to have made but I agree with Esther that it becomes totally worth it. The minute those scales start to move downwards your spirits move upwards.

Vegemite Sandwich, burgers ---- when I got to goal with the band I was able to remove some fluid from the band and I was able to partake of the foods that I had missed for so long.

Hope you feel better soon,

Regards,

Cath - Brisbane

[Guest guest]

Hi Kell,

Sorry you're feeling so down, but don't be too hard on yourself. Sometimes

that happens, even when we know we've done something that's going to be

wonderful for ourselves..... it's hard to face the final reality of a change

in lifestyle. I remember after having my first baby, coming home and bawling

my eyes out.... my god, I thought, what have I done? how will I cope? my

life is changed forever! And all this, even though I knew I wanted and loved

the child. Of course I coped, and of course my life was changed forever.....

for the better. And I think you can look at this band thing the same way.

Yes, it's a big change, but it's going to be a good change. It's hard facing

the reality and the inevitability of it though.

And one other thing..... there is no reason for you to decide now that any

particular food has to be gone from your life forever. If you want that

cheeseburger, chances are that in time you'll be able to have it. Maybe only

a bite or two, but something. And that is the great beauty of the band.

While it's true there are *some* foods that *some* people have to give up,

the reality is that most banded people can cope with a little bit of just

about anything.

Things will look up for you very soon. Keep looking ahead to where you're

going, and don't forget where you've come from and why you're heading in a

new direction.

All the best,

.

[Guest guest]

Kell....hang in there!!!!! It's just all so new to you yet, in a few weeks

hopefully everything will settle down, and you will feel normal again :0)

Geri

I was miserable, now I'm just upset.

> My band story so far -

>

> arrived at the hills private at 12 pm and promptly shown to my room.

> I was in a room with another person being banded by the same doctor.

> The anethistist came in and explained a few things, she asked me how

> I have gone with previous gernerals to which I replied 'I throw up',

> she also asked about my allergic items (codeine & sulphure) which I

> also explained 'I throw up'. The final question, how do you go with

> pethadine? I'm sure you can guess the answer 'I throw up'.

>

> With all that said I was given my pre op at 1 pm and drifted off to

> sleep for 2 hours happy in the knowlegde my op was to be at 2.30 pm,

> mmmm. Yes I hear you say, 2 hours sleep, 1 pm, 2.30 op????????/ I

> woke up at 3, the drugs had worn off and my op was delayed till 4.30

> as the person next to me had there op first and there had been some

> delays. By the time I arrived at the operating theater I was less

> than impressed and actually quite agitated which I hear is part of

> coming down off Zofran (part of my pre op meds). I was given another

> pre op needle which worked well. Acording to the Doctor my op went

> very well with no problems at all. I think I threw up in recovery but

> I'm not sure, I might have dreamed it! LOL. I was taken back to my

> room (I hated that mask! it smelt). It was so hot! the air con wasnt'

> working properly, I had to keep putting wet towels on myself, luckily

> I will still drowsy and so drifted off to sleep only to wake at 2.30

> am to more dry reaching. I've had that many shots of zofran and

> stemiltel that my legs look like purple pin coushins! The doc came to

> see me Tuesday morning and made me stay an extra day (I was ready to

> come home yesterday) which was only agreed to when a fan was produced

> (it was so hot!)

>

> I had another restless night as I've got a slight bit of shoulder

> pain but its improving all the time. I just couldn't wait to get

> home, I was showered dressed and ready by 7am, i had to wait for them

> to get in contact with the doctor to get the all clear to go, he rang

> back at 9am. My hubby picked my up and dropped me home (he had to be

> at westmead to see his doc by 9.30). I was so happy to see my little

> girl and she to see me! yippee! but then later she fell over and

> started crying and I couldn't pick her up so I started crying!

>

> It is then that it started, I have been miserable!!!!!!!!!!

> questioning why I've done this to myself, will I ever be able to eat

> a vegimite sandwich again? How am I going to cope for 4 weeks and

> could I ever face having another op to have it fixed or out? I had

> suddenly gone from this positive, lets do it! attitude to Why, why ,

> why. Has anyone else had this? Someone told me its post op blues, is

> there such a thing? It is why I dragged myself down to the computer

> cause I know someone will be able to say something to put me back on

> track and I must say that the posts from Stussy and Geri couldn't

> have come at a better time, thank you so much, I hope I have the same

> experience.

>

> I think part of the problem is that I was so busy convincing my

> friends and family what a great thing this would be for me that I

> didn't stop to think if I really could go through life with out

> another cheese burger etc.

>

> Well I'm off to have another shower, mabye its this heat wave in

> Sydney thats contributing but I really am miserable (hope I'm

> spelling that right, oh well!) Thanks for all you messages and I hope

> to be back on a happier track soon.

[Guest guest]

Kell,

Relax, heal and as each day passes I'm sure you will feel better about your decision.

It's just so amazing how one little piece of silicon can make so many positive changes to both your physical and psychological well being.

Cheers

Amy Mac

-----Original Message-----It is then that it started, I have been miserable!!!!!!!!!! questioning why I've done this to myself, will I ever be able to eat a vegimite sandwich again? How am I going to cope for 4 weeks and could I ever face having another op to have it fixed or out? I had suddenly gone from this positive, lets do it! attitude to Why, why , why. Has anyone else had this? Someone told me its post op blues, is there such a thing? It is why I dragged myself down to the computer cause I know someone will be able to say something to put me back on track and I must say that the posts from Stussy and Geri couldn't have come at a better time, thank you so much, I hope I have the same experience.