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Kate its a decision only you can make. You remain in my prayers.

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Good Morning to my dear friends at MSersLife; you all are awesome! My friends, my family!

I am probably a good part of the problem with my husband; I think I provoke him a good deal, though I don't really wish to. I hear each one of you, in terms of 'getting out', or getting away. I've planned it all out, on many,many occasions. It just wouldn't work. When people meet Lloyd, they see him as charming, dynamic, funny. If they 'know' about the 'challenge' I face with him; they kinda have a hard time believing it. Aww...I'm just exagerrating. It's not that bad. You know when you have a bad habit, and you don't think you are capable of stopping. Well, that is sorta how I feel. The unknown is scarier than what I live with. My kids have begged me NOT to leave, or take them with me. They have pleaded with me NOT to separate or divorce also. This is about them also. We just all have this attitude that Lloyd is kinda nuts; he goes overboard in his reactions to things...Here's a bizarre example: when we were out for dinner last night--Italian rest., they didn't bring bread. So Lloyd says to the waitress, who already announced to us she is new, and bear with her; do you bring bread to the table? Then, instead of just waiting for an answer--he keeps at it, saying over and over--this IS an Italian restaurant, I think it is typical to get bread on the table--he wouldn't stop--we all had to tell him--stop--she gets it!

I just don't think I can do it. This trapped feeling is real, not imagined. I DO dream of being with a man besides my hub. A strong one. A godly one. A predictable one. I just know it will never happen. And God hates divorce. That is all I hear about at church, from my pastor, from my friends. I so appreciate everyone's feedback, loving kindness and advice. I just don't think I can do it. Being stuck-sucks; but the alternative is way scarier. love to you all ,kate

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Kate,we are all here for you and love you no-matter what.This is your decision and I support you on whatever you do.But remember if you ever do leave life will go on and you and your children will be ok,and god loves you un-conditionally,with or without a diivorce.Only you know what you go through,and only you can decide on what to do.I am scared of the un-known too,i guess thats what scared me the most when me and my fiance split,it wasnt that long but seemed forever with all the things goin through my head.I hope and pray things for you,hang in there.luv ya,cassyKate Rothschild wrote: Good Morning to my dear friends at MSersLife; you all are awesome! My friends, my family! I am probably a good part of the problem with my husband; I think I provoke him a good deal, though I don't really wish to. I hear each one of you, in terms of 'getting out', or getting away. I've planned it all out, on many,many occasions. It just wouldn't work. When people meet Lloyd, they see him as charming, dynamic, funny. If they 'know' about the 'challenge' I face with him; they kinda have a hard time believing

it. Aww...I'm just exagerrating. It's not that bad. You know when you have a bad habit, and you don't think you are capable of stopping. Well, that is sorta how I feel. The unknown is scarier than what I live with. My kids have begged me NOT to leave, or take them with me. They have pleaded with me NOT to separate or divorce also. This is about them also. We just all have this attitude that Lloyd is kinda nuts; he goes overboard in his reactions to things...Here's a bizarre example: when we were out for dinner last night--Italian rest., they didn't bring bread. So Lloyd says to the waitress, who already announced to us she is new, and bear with her; do you bring bread to the table? Then, instead of just waiting for an answer--he keeps at it, saying over and over--this IS an Italian restaurant, I think it is typical to get bread on the table--he wouldn't stop--we all had to tell him--stop--she gets it! I

just don't think I can do it. This trapped feeling is real, not imagined. I DO dream of being with a man besides my hub. A strong one. A godly one. A predictable one. I just know it will never happen. And God hates divorce. That is all I hear about at church, from my pastor, from my friends. I so appreciate everyone's feedback, loving kindness and advice. I just don't think I can do it. Being stuck-sucks; but the alternative is way scarier. love to you all ,kate

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Kate,

I must have missed the post about your hubby. I don't like to hear

women " blaming " themselves for their husbands problems. It's just not

so. I shouldered alot of blame for my husband until I finally had a

breakdown. My daughter was 6 at the time. I threw him out. It took

that good hard slap in the face to make him realize that there was

more than just HIM in the relationship.

I don't know how old your kids are, but divorce or separation is

scary for kids of any age. My daughter was terrified when he left and

she was ticked at me. We eventually did get back together, but after

I got some help and made him see exactly what I needed from him,

emotionally!!!!

As for your friends, don't be too sure what you think they see. You

might be very surprised what they think of him. People see through

acts.

I know the thought of starting over and being on your own seems

terrifying but women do it everyday. Life is so short as it is don't

stay somewhere where you are miserable or don't feel loved or where

you feel trapped. It's not healthy for your body or your spirit.

I'm not very religious, lost my faith, still trying to find it again,

but I do believe that God would not want anyone to stay in a loveless

relationship and that knowing the way the world is today he would

never hold a divorce against a person who was only trying to make

their life and the lives of their children better. Kids learn what

they see. You as a mother would never want your children to be with a

man/woman who behaved in such a manner in a public place. How

demeaning and embarassing to you all and to the waitress. I hope she

didn't let it deter her from returning to her job.

I hope things get better for you and your kids. I'll be thinking good

thoughts and sending many hugs your way.

Hugs,

Peggy

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> Good Morning to my dear friends at MSersLife; you all are awesome!

My friends, my family!

> I am probably a good part of the problem with my husband; I think I

provoke him a good deal, though I don't really wish to. I hear each

one of you, in terms of 'getting out', or getting away. I've planned

it all out, on many,many occasions. It just wouldn't work. When

people meet Lloyd, they see him as charming, dynamic, funny. If

they 'know' about the 'challenge' I face with him; they kinda have a

hard time believing it. Aww...I'm just exagerrating. It's not that

bad. You know when you have a bad habit, and you don't think you are

capable of stopping. Well, that is sorta how I feel. The unknown is

scarier than what I live with. My kids have begged me NOT to leave,

or take them with me. They have pleaded with me NOT to separate or

divorce also. This is about them also. We just all have this attitude

that Lloyd is kinda nuts; he goes overboard in his reactions to

things...Here's a bizarre example: when we were out for dinner last

night--Italian rest., they didn't bring bread. So Lloyd says to the

waitress, who already announced to us she is new, and bear with her;

do you bring bread to the table? Then, instead of just waiting for an

answer--he keeps at it, saying over and over--this IS an Italian

restaurant, I think it is typical to get bread on the table--he

wouldn't stop--we all had to tell him--stop--she gets it!

> I just don't think I can do it. This trapped feeling is real, not

imagined. I DO dream of being with a man besides my hub. A strong

one. A godly one. A predictable one. I just know it will never

happen. And God hates divorce. That is all I hear about at church,

from my pastor, from my friends. I so appreciate everyone's feedback,

loving kindness and advice. I just don't think I can do it. Being

stuck-sucks; but the alternative is way scarier. love to you all ,kate

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