Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 Hi B. Just to let you know that I am going though what you are so if you would like to talk off list just e-mail me and maybe I can help you. I hope things are not going to be to bad for you. tloggie@... Lori Life's Changes.... Hi again, I need to make this quick right now. I'll write details later. I just need to get some of the generalities off my chest. My husband's treatment of my two oldest kids has become intolerable lately. He was constantly screaming at them, belittling them, cursing at them, and often shoving them around and slapping them. His treatment of Nicky lately has become intolerable. I was informed last week that I would have to cut back Nicky's services and supplements because he couldn't afford them anymore. His steadily growing " Private " savings account says otherwise. His treatment of me has grown intolerable lately. Over the last 3 weeks I have been informed that reading and posting to this group was just being " nosey " , and I should stay off the computer. I signed on as " no mail " originally because he thought my family and friends send me more than enough email as it is, and any messages from listservs or groups are unnecessary and tacky. I was not to spend more than 15 minutes a day on the phone to family or friends, and not to talk to them about anything that was going on in my life. I could go on, but I won't right now. To cut to the chase, Monday I filled a restraining order and hired an attorney. Evidently, he already has an attorney too. I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. It looks like it's going to get messy, and right now, you guys and my family are the only real support system I have. Hope you don't mind if I use your shoulders and ears alot in the near future. I just got done reading a good portion of the recent posts, and I'd love to reply to them all right now, but I just don't have the energy at the moment. I'll get to it tomorrow. I know I haven't been here very long, and have not been a very regular poster, but I do want to agree with . Even when I don't post, I do my best to read your posts, and they keep me going, both the happy and the sad ones, and make me feel as if I am a part of something really meaningful. Love you all, B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 , dont you even give it a second thought! You post here about your troubles if it helps(i know it does with me). You are going through a very hard time to say the least and I am glad this c\group can provide comfort when you need it. Hang in there! Jacquie H > Hi again, > > I need to make this quick right now. I'll write details later. I just need > to get some of the generalities off my chest. > > My husband's treatment of my two oldest kids has become intolerable lately. > He was constantly screaming at them, belittling them, cursing at them, and > often shoving them around and slapping them. > > His treatment of Nicky lately has become intolerable. I was informed last > week that I would have to cut back Nicky's services and supplements because > he couldn't afford them anymore. His steadily growing " Private " savings > account says otherwise. > > His treatment of me has grown intolerable lately. Over the last 3 weeks I > have been informed that reading and posting to this group was just being > " nosey " , and I should stay off the computer. I signed on as " no mail " > originally because he thought my family and friends send me more than enough > email as it is, and any messages from listservs or groups are unnecessary > and tacky. I was not to spend more than 15 minutes a day on the phone to > family or friends, and not to talk to them about anything that was going on > in my life. I could go on, but I won't right now. > > To cut to the chase, Monday I filled a restraining order and hired an > attorney. Evidently, he already has an attorney too. I shouldn't be > surprised, but I am. It looks like it's going to get messy, and right now, > you guys and my family are the only real support system I have. Hope you > don't mind if I use your shoulders and ears alot in the near future. > > I just got done reading a good portion of the recent posts, and I'd love to > reply to them all right now, but I just don't have the energy at the moment. > I'll get to it tomorrow. I know I haven't been here very long, and have not > been a very regular poster, but I do want to agree with . Even when > I don't post, I do my best to read your posts, and they keep me going, both > the happy and the sad ones, and make me feel as if I am a part of something > really meaningful. > > Love you all, > > B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 B!! Oh my Goodness. You are right! Things sound VERY intolerable. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!! If you need anything, PLEASE .... let it out here.... {{{HUGS}}} Penny - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 > Hi again, > > I need to make this quick right now. I'll write details later. I just need > to get some of the generalities off my chest. > > My husband's treatment of my two oldest kids has become intolerable lately. > He was constantly screaming at them, belittling them, cursing at them, and > often shoving them around and slapping them. > Even when > I don't post, I do my best to read your posts, and they keep me going, both > the happy and the sad ones, and make me feel as if I am a part of something > really meaningful. > > Love you all, > > B - wishing you my very best - I'm sorry for the horrible time you are going through. Kerri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 Wow. OMG. , I am so sorry you are going through this. My ears and shoulders are here whenever you need them. How awful. My only advice is: keep a journal. Write down everything. Every conversation, every incident should be documented. Keep any recorded phone machine messages, letters, or e-mails you get from him. Get as much as you can on paper. Hang in there, hon. We're pulling for you. Tuna >>>>To cut to the chase, Monday I filled a restraining order and hired an attorney. Evidently, he already has an attorney too. I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. It looks like it's going to get messy, and right now, you guys and my family are the only real support system I have. Hope you don't mind if I use your shoulders and ears alot in the near future.<<<< ===== There are no moral absolutes in a complex world. Berke Breathed ______________________________________________________________________ Find, Connect, Date! http://personals.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 , As soon as I read that he was limiting your time with the computer, how long you're on the phone, talk to family, etc. the alarm bells went off in my head. I am so glad you filed a restraining order against him. He is trying to isolate you and control you. Aren't these the first things a wife abuser does? Run woman! Protect yourself and those kids from him. We're all here for as much support as you need! I wish we were all closer so we could do more for each other : ( Take care, be careful and check in often, even if briefly! Sue ---------------------------------------------------- Sign Up for NetZero Platinum Today Only $9.95 per month! http://my.netzero.net/s/signup?r=platinum & refcd=PT97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 B., sounds like he has some very serious control issues. Be very careful and good luck with this. It does sound like you'll be much better without him. Good luck. Janae , 9, ADD Jake, 6, autism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 (, Good luck and please talk to us anytime you need to! You and the kids are in my thoughts. I am glad your family is supportive. Hugs, Mimi --- Roland and Bedell wrote: > Hi again, > > I need to make this quick right now. I'll write > details later. I just need > to get some of the generalities off my chest. > > My husband's treatment of my two oldest kids has > become intolerable lately. > He was constantly screaming at them, belittling > them, cursing at them, and > often shoving them around and slapping them. > > His treatment of Nicky lately has become > intolerable. I was informed last > week that I would have to cut back Nicky's services > and supplements because > he couldn't afford them anymore. His steadily > growing " Private " savings > account says otherwise. > > His treatment of me has grown intolerable lately. > Over the last 3 weeks I > have been informed that reading and posting to this > group was just being > " nosey " , and I should stay off the computer. I > signed on as " no mail " > originally because he thought my family and friends > send me more than enough > email as it is, and any messages from listservs or > groups are unnecessary > and tacky. I was not to spend more than 15 minutes > a day on the phone to > family or friends, and not to talk to them about > anything that was going on > in my life. I could go on, but I won't right now. > > To cut to the chase, Monday I filled a restraining > order and hired an > attorney. Evidently, he already has an attorney > too. I shouldn't be > surprised, but I am. It looks like it's going to > get messy, and right now, > you guys and my family are the only real support > system I have. Hope you > don't mind if I use your shoulders and ears alot in > the near future. > > I just got done reading a good portion of the recent > posts, and I'd love to > reply to them all right now, but I just don't have > the energy at the moment. > I'll get to it tomorrow. I know I haven't been here > very long, and have not > been a very regular poster, but I do want to agree > with . Even when > I don't post, I do my best to read your posts, and > they keep me going, both > the happy and the sad ones, and make me feel as if I > am a part of something > really meaningful. > > Love you all, > > B > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 , You are right. All of that is intolerable. I'm glad that you found the courage to do what you did. I'm also glad that you have your family for support. We're here when you need us. Amy H--in Michigan Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT " Harmony breeds ignorance. It is the dissonant chords of life that lead us to wisdom. " ~me _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2002 Report Share Posted March 15, 2002 I am so sorry!!!!!! What a rough time you are having. I hope your lawyer gets everything possible out of your husband. Good for you for standing up for yourself and your kids! Tamara --- Roland and Bedell wrote: > Hi again, > > I need to make this quick right now. I'll write > details later. I just need > to get some of the generalities off my chest. > > My husband's treatment of my two oldest kids has > become intolerable lately. > He was constantly screaming at them, belittling > them, cursing at them, and > often shoving them around and slapping them. > > His treatment of Nicky lately has become > intolerable. I was informed last > week that I would have to cut back Nicky's services > and supplements because > he couldn't afford them anymore. His steadily > growing " Private " savings > account says otherwise. > > His treatment of me has grown intolerable lately. > Over the last 3 weeks I > have been informed that reading and posting to this > group was just being > " nosey " , and I should stay off the computer. I > signed on as " no mail " > originally because he thought my family and friends > send me more than enough > email as it is, and any messages from listservs or > groups are unnecessary > and tacky. I was not to spend more than 15 minutes > a day on the phone to > family or friends, and not to talk to them about > anything that was going on > in my life. I could go on, but I won't right now. > > To cut to the chase, Monday I filled a restraining > order and hired an > attorney. Evidently, he already has an attorney > too. I shouldn't be > surprised, but I am. It looks like it's going to > get messy, and right now, > you guys and my family are the only real support > system I have. Hope you > don't mind if I use your shoulders and ears alot in > the near future. > > I just got done reading a good portion of the recent > posts, and I'd love to > reply to them all right now, but I just don't have > the energy at the moment. > I'll get to it tomorrow. I know I haven't been here > very long, and have not > been a very regular poster, but I do want to agree > with . Even when > I don't post, I do my best to read your posts, and > they keep me going, both > the happy and the sad ones, and make me feel as if I > am a part of something > really meaningful. > > Love you all, > > B > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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