My daughter won't speak to me

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My mother is a classic BPD. She has never fostered a relationship with

her grandchildren. She is 85 and declining mentally and physically. My

children live out of state and I am the sole caregiver. It is a big

load to handle all her needs. I have had 7 leg surgeries in the past 2

years and moved her to 2 locations. My children know that their

grandmother is having issues with aging but they offer absolutely no

assistance. It has reached the point that they don't call either one

of us. I don't complain about their not calling or about their

grandmother. I think they are just too busy with their (selfish) lives

to call and check on us. It hurts my feelings. I have tried to call

and email my (age 32) daughter. She is obviously unhappy with me but

honestly, I have no idea why. My husband advises me to just wait it

out. it is so hard. I miss the kids terribly. My mother has the

grandchildren in her will and I can see them show up in a hurry for

that! Now I know for sure that they will not take care of me!