Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Do you think that your Aunt will really cut you out of her life? Even if she did say that to your nada, wouldn't she be just saying it to appease her? From your post it sounds like she knows exactly what your nada is all about and is in the same boat as you so to speak. Have faith! She has gone NC for her own reasons as well and now that both of you are NC your nada can't prevent you from seeing her and vice versa. > > I went NC 1 month ago. My aunt also takes a lot of abuse from nada > and refuses to return her calls--doesn't want to get beat on any > longer. The enabler (fada) even called her two weeks ago to tell > her " we need to talk " (aka: The sick wife wants to emotionally beat > on you and you need to take it) > > My aunt has enjoyed more peace than I do because she lives 1 hour > away. I told her they were " coming for her " to lock her doors, it > was just a matter of time. Me going NC would cause stir the pot--we > knew it. > > My cousin just called and said the sick things showed up at my aunt's > house and got info out of her teenage son (and probably got him to > talk crap about me) before she got home from work (aren't they sooo > smart?) and then she walked into the house and is " taking her > beating " (that is what my aunt and I always say--we have to take our > beating and get it over with) right now as I type this. > > My guess is that they won't leave her home until she agrees that I am > a piece of garbage and that she and her DD's (who are like sisters to > me) stop talking to me. She's probably agreeing to that right now. > > I wonder if she is winning her oscar, like she usually does after she > emotionally beats me or my aunt to a pulp, crying, has her literally > standing up against a wall (literally) touching her face. EWWWW she > is so gross she makes me sick. > > Needed to vent. Really stressed out that she will turn the last of > the family that speaks to me against me. I'm close to this aunt and > her girls and this would be devestating. But I knew it was only a > matter of time before it happened so I guess I need to accept it... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 11, 2008 Report Share Posted November 11, 2008 Oh man do I know that sinking feeling! It is almost like you can't get enough air because you know disaster is about to happen. I can't tell you how sorry I am that you are going through that! Hopefully your aunt doesn't cave to the pressure, but BPD people just have such an uncanny knack of what buttons to push! I have no words of wisdom here, just my truly sincere sympathies! > > I went NC 1 month ago. My aunt also takes a lot of abuse from nada > and refuses to return her calls--doesn't want to get beat on any > longer. The enabler (fada) even called her two weeks ago to tell > her " we need to talk " (aka: The sick wife wants to emotionally beat > on you and you need to take it) > > My aunt has enjoyed more peace than I do because she lives 1 hour > away. I told her they were " coming for her " to lock her doors, it > was just a matter of time. Me going NC would cause stir the pot-- we > knew it. > > My cousin just called and said the sick things showed up at my aunt's > house and got info out of her teenage son (and probably got him to > talk crap about me) before she got home from work (aren't they sooo > smart?) and then she walked into the house and is " taking her > beating " (that is what my aunt and I always say--we have to take our > beating and get it over with) right now as I type this. > > My guess is that they won't leave her home until she agrees that I am > a piece of garbage and that she and her DD's (who are like sisters to > me) stop talking to me. She's probably agreeing to that right now. > > I wonder if she is winning her oscar, like she usually does after she > emotionally beats me or my aunt to a pulp, crying, has her literally > standing up against a wall (literally) touching her face. EWWWW she > is so gross she makes me sick. > > Needed to vent. Really stressed out that she will turn the last of > the family that speaks to me against me. I'm close to this aunt and > her girls and this would be devestating. But I knew it was only a > matter of time before it happened so I guess I need to accept it... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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