Dirty house

[Guest guest]

I have only been with this group for a week. I have heard posts describing

nada's that do not want the kitchen messed up and needing the perfect look for

the holidays. Well my NADA is the exact opposite. Our house was always filthy!

The refrigerator would contain ketchup, mustard, and dill pickle jars that had

expired five years earlier. At one point we had 2 refrigerators. I called them

refrigerator one and refrigerator two. My NADA claimed that the first

refrigerator was not big enough. The reality of the situation was that she

didn't want to clean either one of them. My dad hauled in refrigerator two,

and she started using that one until it became full and nasty as well. The

floor tile in the house has permanent stains from never getting cleaned. There

is a big black stain in the kitchen from where a bag of trash sat there so long

that the food that was inside of it, turned to liquid and oozed out all over the

floor.

I swear there is ebola virus growing in the bathroom. It only got cleaned

about twice per year.

The laundry is a never ending problem for my NADA. She has one load in the

washer and one in the dryer at all times. The laundry sometimes sets in the

washer so long that it actually sours. And there is laundry piled up all over

the house. Her closets and drawers are busting. There are baskets of clothes

piled up in the hall. There is laundry covering all the beds. Laundry covering

the couch so that there is no place to sit.

There were dirty dishes piled up everywhere. Pennies on every floor. Mold

on the walls. Cobwebs. Dead ladybugs in corners and light fixtures. You name

it. Needless to say, I was too embarrassed to have friends over after school.

As kids, when someone came to visit, my mother would take my brother and

myself and we would hide in the back of the house until the visitors went away.

So she was actually embarrassed of our mess. Once, relatives came from

California to visit. As we were hiding in the back of the house, they were

outside videotaping the flowers in our yard.

But yet, let my brother or I ask for a house cat or house dog and she would

respond, " No, animals in the house are nasty. "

Does anyone else have a BPD family member with problems such as these? This

must be the schizophrenic piece of the disease. My NADA's inablity to organize

her house parallels her inability to organize those odd thoughts and emotions in

her brain.