How to detach?

[Guest guest]

I have been NC with my nada since the beginning of September and while

I know it's the right thing to do, it drives me crazy. I am actually

NC with both of my parents since they are still married and I won't

talk to one without the other. My father confided a ton of stuff to

me, asked me what he should do, and then proceeded to do the opposite

of everything we talked about. He is also lying to nada and telling

her that we only talked about a car problem my husband and I were

having. He talked to me for hours about nada. He is the biggest

dishrag and that is bothering me much more than my nada somehow. I

always felt like my father was the sane parent and I have always had a

very close relationship with him. I had more in common with my father

than my mother growing up. We even restored a car together when I was

in high school and college. I called to tell him that I couldn't

continue a relationship with nada and he basically bid me farewell and

wished me luck. I couldn't believe how easily he made that decision.

It bothers me daily.

Nada is telling the extended family that she just has no idea why I

could be mad at her. It drives me crazy. Some of the family choose

to believe her no matter what. I don't understand. I have always

been a very rational, even tempered person so wouldn't they suspect

her in some way. Why do these BPs have such an ability to control

everyone?

I feel like I should write a letter to both of my parents and explain

everything, but I can't because my dishrag father is living a lie and

I got sucked into it. It's pointless to give nada any reasons for my

NC, because she will just make excuses or I misunderstood or am too

sensitive--all of the typical stuff that we all experience.

I just want to go on with my life and not think about my crazy

parents. I am also dealing with a lot of hormones right now because

it's early in my pregnancy and I'm extremely stressed since I have a

history of early miscarriages.

How do I just detach from it? I don't want to think about it. I need

to stop hoping that things will improve because I know better.

Thanks for reading.

le