Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 Am I thinking wrong here or just picking up a wrong vibe because I feel that people are only trying to help or learn.We mean no harm Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 I just think what's going on here is that we get alot of things that are just a link and nothing ever comes up. The names aren't familiar and they're never signed or anything. I may be wrong but I think those are the ones that are trying to be eliminated. don't know. Margaret Re: Update Am I thinking wrong here or just picking up a wrong vibe because I feel that people are only trying to help or learn.We mean no harm Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 You are right Margaret. Here lately we have all sorts of wierdos posting links and either its for dating etc, "miracle cures", or when you click the page does not come up. Being cofounder of the group I am allowed to delete the posts and remove and or ban the person from the group. I would NEVER be mean to a breast cancer patient/survivor. I hope everyone knows that. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Re: Update Am I thinking wrong here or just picking up a wrong vibe because I feel that people are only trying to help or learn.We mean no harm Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 nne, that's what I figured and I think most of us know that. It just looks as if they're not looking for help or have questions, just a blank web page; or just one that won't come up. It's even more "suspicious" if we can call it that, that they don't sign they're name. hmmmm, I wonder! Have a good day Margaret Re: Update Am I thinking wrong here or just picking up a wrong vibe because I feel that people are only trying to help or learn.We mean no harm Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 Lorraine wrote . . . " I can just relate to it because it seems like there are a lot of people who are upset that some of us can handle the situation so well. It's like they think we're lying about it or something. I guess I just think of the old saying... " The road to hell is paved with good intentions. " I think that some people are trying to help or learn and then others just want to hear all the gory details because they're sick individuals. " = = = = That is exactly what I was getting at. It's not necessarily that they are *sick* individuals - it's just more like they are too damn nosy than really caring. They are the ones that always have a horror story about this person they know or heard about who had the most violent reaction (pick any reaction here) to chemo and they just have to tell you about it. And then they just can't accept that you aren't having the same reaction. This particular woman I told you about is one of the biggest *fakers* I've ever met. She puts up this tough exterior but let the least little pain hit her and she becomes the biggest invalid you'd ever want to meet - and, boy, can she slow-leak that pain for 2-3 times longer than it is really there. Her husband waits on her hand-and-foot just to shut her up. I know this for a fact cause he's told that to my Randy. Debbie K --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.532 / Virus Database: 326 - Release Date: 10/27/2003 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 We do know that nne; in fact, I think I can safely say that you are not even " mean " to those idiots who come in to try to take advantage of us or to post stuff that is porno or bad jokes. Doris > You are right Margaret. Here lately we have all sorts of wierdos posting links and either its for dating etc, " miracle cures " , or when you click the page does not come up. > Being cofounder of the group I am allowed to delete the posts and remove and or ban the person from the group. I would NEVER be mean to a breast cancer patient/survivor. I hope everyone knows that. > Hugs > nne > Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html > > Check out my breast cancer ornaments at: > http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.html > also check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at: > http://www.cancerclub.com > Re: Update > > > Am I thinking wrong here or just picking up a wrong vibe because I feel that people are only trying to help or learn.We mean no harm > Debbie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 Ladies Maybe I am naive,but I meant no harm.My opinion was just that pushing people away for whatever reason isn't good. Some people ask and really want to know,some ask just out of courtesy, and some just ask for whatever reason. My opinion is that you don't need to get aggravated at others for any reason. Example, for weeks now every time someone comes in contact with you they ask you about your health, you have to go through it again and again and again.Yes you get tired of it.Then I come along and ask you how you are,well because you have done this over and over and over again you are frustrated and I feel that being projected at me,yet it isn't my fault.Thats what I'm trying to say, I understand you being aggravated , and frustrated ,or just private as you may be but its not good for you to allow any of that frustration into your life-you have enough to deal with already-and most of us mean no harm in asking how you are. I'm sorry if I offended anyone,I didn't mean to ,I'm just trying to give a different perspective to you,and praying that with all you are going through already that you don't allow any negatives into your lives--negativity only hurts ourself Hug Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 I'm not offended...I like it when people give their point of view...gives me something to think about. Doris > > > Ladies > > Maybe I am naive,but I meant no harm.My opinion was just that pushing people away for whatever reason isn't good. Some people ask and really want to know,some ask just out of courtesy, and some just ask for whatever reason. My opinion is that you don't need to get aggravated at others for any reason. > > Example, for weeks now every time someone comes in contact with you they ask you about your health, you have to go through it again and again and again.Yes you get tired of it.Then I come along and ask you how you are,well because you have done this over and over and over again you are frustrated and I feel that being projected at me,yet it isn't my fault.Thats what I'm trying to say, I understand you being aggravated , and frustrated ,or just private as you may be but its not good for you to allow any of that frustration into your life-you have enough to deal with already-and most of us mean no harm in asking how you are. > > I'm sorry if I offended anyone,I didn't mean to ,I'm just trying to give a different perspective to you,and praying that with all you are going through already that you don't allow any negatives into your lives--negativity only hurts ourself > > Hug > > Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2003 Report Share Posted October 30, 2003 Again Im sorry I think this all went heywire, but I never thought anyone meant me.I am just saying in general and shareing my opinion Hugs Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2003 Report Share Posted November 12, 2003 Ronda, We will miss you while you are gone. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Update Hello All: I thought it was time I give you an update on myself. Last time I wrote I asked for prayer due to fracturing my collar bone. Well, on Monday I went to the doctor and it is healing nicely but it will still take time. The person who said that I need to be wrapped in bubble wrap is correct. Due to the chemotherapy that I have gone through since February of this year it has weaken my bones and I rolled over in bed and it caused a fracture. I am in a sling for the next 6 weeks which is not fun at all. On December 10, 2003, I will be going through EMG. I am still having pain down my arm from my surgery and my hand and two fingers are numb all the time. My surgeon wouldn't see me on this matter so my family doctor is doing so test. She is certain that it is from my first surgery in May have this year. I have lost some use in my left hand so she want to find out what nerves are pinch so they can go in and fix it for me. My doctor said I am too young to be having this problem and if it isn't fixed it can lead into other problems so off to the hospital I go for testing. I hear it is very painful but Betty is going with me to hold my hand I know that may sound childish but I hate pain. I am so lucky to have a friend like Betty. I don't think you will hear much from me for the next couple of months it is the busiest season of the year for me. I am not to be back at work lifting at all but it is kettle season for The Salvation Army so I am mainly driving and I will have my employee's do all the lifting. Driving is no problem at all. The other part of my job that I love is when we assist people with gifts for their children. It is a joy to see the thankfulness on their faces when they receive two gifts and a couple of stocking stuffers for each kid from infant to 14 and they also receive a food basket. Judy here is another idea if you need help for Christmas but you should sign up now our last day is 21st of November at least where I am each place does it differently. I won't be allowed to do much but I can watch and great and talk to people and share the joy of Christmas and the love of Jesus Christ. It sad that I can't do much right now but my health is the most important thing right now. Next year I hope to be cancer free and to be able to help our more. Well, I should close for now typing on handed is hard and I need to go rest talk to you all soon. I hope each of you have a Happy Thanksgiving, I am thankful for each of and thank God for allowing you to be apart of my life. May God Bless each of you. I will try to get on before Christmas so I can wish you each a Merry Christmas until then God Bless each of you. Hugs, Ronda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2003 Report Share Posted November 12, 2003 Ronda you have a Merry Christmas and a wonderful Thanksgiving...we will miss you and pray that you heal and good luch on going back to work if only in a small way (you may think small) but I'm sure everyone will be very happy to have you back...write when you can.......Angel Huggs and Prayers moochie wrote: Ronda, We will miss you while you are gone. You will be in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Update Hello All: I thought it was time I give you an update on myself. Last time I wrote I asked for prayer due to fracturing my collar bone. Well, on Monday I went to the doctor and it is healing nicely but it will still take time. The person who said that I need to be wrapped in bubble wrap is correct. Due to the chemotherapy that I have gone through since February of this year it has weaken my bones and I rolled over in bed and it caused a fracture. I am in a sling for the next 6 weeks which is not fun at all. On December 10, 2003, I will be going through EMG. I am still having pain down my arm from my surgery and my hand and two fingers are numb all the time. My surgeon wouldn't see me on this matter so my family doctor is doing so test. She is certain that it is from my first surgery in May have this year. I have lost some use in my left hand so she want to find out what nerves are pinch so they can go in and fix it for me. My doctor said I am too young to be having this problem and if it isn't fixed it can lead into other problems so off to the hospital I go for testing. I hear it is very painful but Betty is going with me to hold my hand I know that may sound childish but I hate pain. I am so lucky to have a friend like Betty. I don't think you will hear much from me for the next couple of months it is the busiest season of the year for me. I am not to be back at work lifting at all but it is kettle season for The Salvation Army so I am mainly driving and I will have my employee's do all the lifting. Driving is no problem at all. The other part of my job that I love is when we assist people with gifts for their children. It is a joy to see the thankfulness on their faces when they receive two gifts and a couple of stocking stuffers for each kid from infant to 14 and they also receive a food basket. Judy here is another idea if you need help for Christmas but you should sign up now our last day is 21st of November at least where I am each place does it differently. I won't be allowed to do much but I can watch and great and talk to people and share the joy of Christmas and the love of Jesus Christ. It sad that I can't do much right now but my health is the most important thing right now. Next year I hope to be cancer free and to be able to help our more. Well, I should close for now typing on handed is hard and I need to go rest talk to you all soon. I hope each of you have a Happy Thanksgiving, I am thankful for each of and thank God for allowing you to be apart of my life. May God Bless each of you. I will try to get on before Christmas so I can wish you each a Merry Christmas until then God Bless each of you. Hugs, Ronda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2003 Report Share Posted November 13, 2003 >ronda prayers are with you girl and what you said jesus christ is the main thing and he will protect you and keep you from harm and in the new yr will be a beyttter year for you because you will be going into CANCER FREE YEAH FOR YOU and jesus will watch over you and we all here are all praying for you and sending our angels to watch over our sister why she is in need so praise the lord to take care of you cheryl Hello All: > > I thought it was time I give you an update on myself. Last time I wrote I > asked for prayer due to fracturing my collar bone. Well, on Monday I went to > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2004 Report Share Posted January 6, 2004 Ronda, Please please please try to take it easy. Is there anyone that could step in for you and go to the meetings and report back to you?? You really need to save your energy. I would go with the biopsy just to be on the safe side. You are in my prayers as well as Betty. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Update Hello Everyone:I got my first treatment on Friday and boy was it strong. When they said that they would be doing an aggressive treatment I really didn't think it would be this hard. I am doing better today I don't seem to be as tired. I am mainly going to work in the morning and than going home in the afternoon. Except this weeks schedule is a little difficult so I am pushing myself a little. Tomorrow we have what we call Advisory Board this is a group of community people who sit on a board to make decision for the further her in my town for the S. A. We serve them lunch and it is a meeting I have to attend monthly but after I clean up I will go home to rest a couple hours before having a youth leaders meeting in the evening. Wednesday schedule is worst and Thursday is like Wednesday. But, Friday is pretty clear so I will be able to rest.I went to the surgeon today for a check up. I see him every other month and he found another lump and I have to go through a biopsy on Monday. I didn't even know it was! When he was checking me he found it and asked me if I knew this lump was there and I said no it is so tiny. He said lets get a biopsy of it and if it's something let get rid of it but he really thinks with the strong chemo I am on it will take care of it so he really doesn't want to put my body through any more than it has to he left the decision up to me. I agree with him and I opt to wait on the biopsy since I am taking an aggressive treatment I pray it will take care of it as well. What do you think should I go for the biopsy?Well, when I woke up this afternoon my pillow was full of hair. My Oncologist thought it would take 4-5 days with the aggressive treatment before I lose my hair and he was on the date it has been four day exactly. I just wanted to check in with you all and let you know I am doing all right. I am really tired and weak but otherwise I am trying to keep a good spirit. I am trying to listen to my body but also I am trying to keep up with my responsibilities. The good think is that I can do all the paper work here at home. This time of year it is a lot of paper work after Christmas reports. I hope each of you are doing well. Congratulation to those who got good reports I am so happy for you and for those who hit the 5 year mark I am overjoyed for you as well. I need to let you go for now I am tired and need to go lay down so I can have my energy for tomorrow. Thank you for all the support you have given me and my friend Betty. Betty is a blessing to me and I know she is worried about me and loves me dearly. Thank God for friends and a wonderful group like this that we can talk to and let our feelings out. God Bless each one of you.Love,Ronda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2004 Report Share Posted January 7, 2004 Georgia: Thanks for the suggestion it sounds like a great one. I am off to the doctor I have hit a 101 fever. I hope it isn't anything but a cold but of course as we all know it sets us back when we are in treatment. I hope it doesn't set me back to much. Talk with you guys soon. Prayers and Blessings coming your way, Ronda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2004 Report Share Posted January 7, 2004 Ronda, I am sorry to hear you aren't feeling well. I am glad you are going to the dr I know my onc would say anything over 100 to be sure and contact him. You are in my prayers. Hugs nne Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/breastcancerpatients.html Check out my breast cancer ornaments at:http://www.geocities.com/chucky5741/bcornament.htmlalso check out my other ornaments and lots of nice gifts at:http://www.cancerclub.com Re: Update Georgia:Thanks for the suggestion it sounds like a great one. I am off to the doctor I have hit a 101 fever. I hope it isn't anything but a cold but of course as we all know it sets us back when we are in treatment. I hope it doesn't set me back to much.Talk with you guys soon.Prayers and Blessings coming your way,Ronda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2009 Report Share Posted October 3, 2009 Though this year so far has been a hard one for us in many ways it has been a good one too. As always it seems I am dealing with more health issues, but the good part is we have learned what is the cause of things (Sjogrens syndrome) and so are being able to treat and I feel so much better! Plus I think just knowing what it is that has been wrong with me helps so much! My dad has been going down hill with terminal lung cancer. This has been so hard to deal with, hard to see a man who was always so strong who can hardly walk with a walker. But I have been dealing well as can be expected with this. It is hard but I am doing OK. We lost our dog too a couple of months ago just two weeks after loosing our cockatiel. It is hard to loose those beloved pets. But this too I have dealt with. I still get a few teary moments when I see another pug or a favorite toy of hers (our other dogs still plays with them) but I am handling it, not something that would have happened in the past. During all this I have continued to decrease my Paxil and am down to what will be the final decrease before I am totally off of it! I am currently doing an every other day of the last 5%. This has gone quite well. I have been learning to have emotions again and realizing what is normal emotions as well as what is not. If I find I am feeling more anxious or tearful I know it means to look at what is going on in my life. Am I eating correctly? Sleeping well, having too many activities, not taking time for me, have I not been talking nice to myself etc. I use it as a personal evaluation now and do not get all fearful and bent out of shape. I do struggle with being quite a bit more emotional the week before and a few days into my monthly but I also know this is not unusual when going through what I fondly call Mental-pause. I know it too will pass in a day or two and I just take some extra me time, like a nice hot soak in the tub. So I guess I am saying I have learned some great coping skills, learned more about myself, am learning to feel again and to know when those feeling are getting out of hand and to take steps to a better more fulfilled me. Kimi ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ " I do not ask that Thou should give me some high or noble task. Give me little hands to fold in mine. Give me little children to point Thy way, over the strange, sweet path that leads to You. Give me little voices to teach to pray. Give me shining eyes Thy face to see. The only crown I ask to wear is this, that I may teach my children. I do not ask that I may stand among the wise, the worthy, or the great; I only ask that softly, hand in hand my children and I may enter at the gate. " -Anonymous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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