Guest guest Posted October 8, 2008 Report Share Posted October 8, 2008 Oh, yeah -- mine, too. Competitive about everything: looks, men, weight, career, money, homes, cars. She never owned a house in her life until I bought mine (almost immediately after I did, and after moving to the same town I had moved to, of course.) She bought the exact same make and model of my car. She always bragged about her " movie star body " (yeah, right) and often wistfully commented that unfortunately I was " built like my father " (who struggled with a lifelong weight problem). Probably the worst of it was career-competitiveness, though. I became a writer, which was (she decided after I chose this profession) apparently HER lifelong dream. I had some success writing screenplays -- too much for her to compete with -- so she opted for " the high road " and tried writing stage plays instead. She never had any success at it, and is remarkably lacking in talent -- but at 68 years is still waiting for HER BIG BREAK..... Ugghhhhh. Best, Shana Re: Competition... To: WTOAdultChildren1 > (Raises hand) Me too, my nada is competitive. > So many ego-damaging incidents I can't list them now. > Maybe later. I totally sympathize. > -Annie > > > > > > > > I told nada I was going to Weight Watchers...sounds rather > > innocent, > > > doesn't it. Which led her to ask if she could got too. I > know I > > have a > > > mouth and a mind...but I still said yes. The first thing she > > started > > > was - this will be great because we can compete against > each. No, > > not > > > we can support and help each other- compete! > > > > > > So I didn't answer her, so the night we went to the > actual WW > > > meeting, all she kept asking me was how much I weighed. I > weigh a > > lot, > > > and I need help with it and so does nada. I told nada it was > very > > > personal....and she kept saying. " Well I know I weigh more > then > > you, so > > > just tell me your weight " . She just kept insisting I finally > > said... " > > > Mom I tell no one my weight, and I am not going to compete > with > > you.I > > > am in competition with me- and no one else. " > > > > > > She of course got quiet, like I had said something > horrible > > to > > > her. I can't believe that a mother would want to compete > with her > > > child. This is such a re-occuring them with my nada. In the > past > > she > > > would even compete with me for attention from my father. > > Especially if > > > she was angry with me and wanted my father to agree and > support > > her > > > position. > > > > > > One thing is for sure..nothing really ever changes with > my > > nada > > > and me...and oh yes it is just so ridiculous....but it is a Bp. > > > > > > Anyone else have a competitive parent? > > > > > > Thanks for listening, > > > Malinda > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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