Alone--has anyone built a pseudo-family?

[Guest guest]

Hey everyone. Have you ever noticed that just when you thought you

had dealt with and were " over " something, that it sneaks up on you?

I've been feeling kind of sad for days without really knowing why.

Today, I sat down and really delved into it and realized that I'm

feeling sad because recently it has really hit home that my family is

unreliable (duh!) as a source of help, support, love and they always

will me. I think I've kind of been operating under this idea that

even though my parents are crazy that my brothers might turn out ok

and I could build a relationship with them, but now I realize it won't

happen.

I've also moved so many times in the past 10 years that I don't have

frequent contact with any of my old friends and I'm really

alone--aside from my husband (thank god for him).

After I told my last therapist about some death threats I'd received

from a FOO member and the lack of reaction from the rest of my FOO, he

recommended that I look for " surrogates " or people outside my family I

could rely on and who could support me. Any ideas as to how one

accomplishes something like that? Especially, any ideas for someone

who tends to work way too much and move a lot?

Maybe my husband and I just need to settle in someplace so that I can

develop more friendships. I've always liked to travel and move, but

I'm feeling pretty rootless right now.

Trish