RE: in the event of stress...

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

you are so right. My emotions are very young and I need to learn how

to handle them. First to learn, as you said, that they don't kill me

and that NOTHING IS NEEDED to get rid of them...Yes, I have been

quick in trying to numb myself...

I learnt in my life that there is (???) medication for everything,

for a headache, for a cold, for a pain, including emotional pain.

When I was a child and I had a cold my father (he was a doctor)

treated me with antibiotics...He used to use lots of meds, including

psychotropic medication himself...We, my brother and i, sometimes

would get some meds for sleeping...

No wonder I am quick in looking for " something that will wipe out " my

sometimes painful feelings...

Yes, I am going to learn...Thank you .

Ikam

>

> In my resent stressful time I eventually used product containing

> codeine to calm me down.

> For the future, are there any products I could use in such moments?

> To describe the moment: it is feeling emotionally overwhelmed,

mostly

> due to the mind working over-time. Especially, when I go to bed

(that

> is still the case) I straight away start thinking about my work! And

> of course I am active! And sometimes anxious, like recently. When it

> happens just one night it is manageable. The problem starts when it

> is every night and same emotions happen during the day. Then I want

> to run away, hide in my home, see nobody...But still I go to work...

>

> I will be working towards not having moments like this, but I know

> they will happen. I imagine that they will get weaker and weaker.

But

> for the time being I feel I need something in case it happens again.

>

> I tried to use more magnesium, but it did not calm me down enough. I

> also used Calms Forte in evening...

>

> Is there anything I could help myself with? Or I just need to learn

> how to manage my mind and emotions?

> Ikam

>

>

> ** Ikam, knowing you now for a while, I would recommend working

on letting yourself sit with discomfort and be comfortable with that

discomfort. People who have been treated as if they " need "

psychotropic drugs have been given the message that something is

wrong with you if you are unhappy or uncomfortable. These people

freak out because they think there is something wrong with them when

they feel these ways. They seek to take something to rid themselves

of the eelings. The reality is that it is perfectly normal to feel

these ways t times. These feelings won't kill us. What is not

normal is to seek to get rid of all feelings except happiness.

>

> Your emotions are very young because they have been put to sleep

for many years. You'll never learn how to manage them if you keep

chasing them away with drugs. You don't have to steep in them. You

can allow them to be and go on with your day. Work, read, watch a

movie. You don't have to ay attention to bad feelings. Once you

become more adept at handling and understanding your feelings you

will find that they are actually tools that that help to let you know

that there is something you need to address in your life.

>

> Regards,

>

>

[Guest guest]

-----Original Message-----

In my resent stressful time I eventually used product containing

codeine to calm me down.

For the future, are there any products I could use in such moments?

To describe the moment: it is feeling emotionally overwhelmed, mostly

due to the mind working over-time. Especially, when I go to bed (that

is still the case) I straight away start thinking about my work! And

of course I am active! And sometimes anxious, like recently. When it

happens just one night it is manageable. The problem starts when it

is every night and same emotions happen during the day. Then I want

to run away, hide in my home, see nobody...But still I go to work...

<>

Ikam

** Ikam, knowing you

now for a while, I would recommend working on letting yourself sit with

discomfort and be comfortable with that discomfort. People who have been

treated as if they " need " psychotropic drugs have been given the

message that something is wrong with you if you are unhappy or

uncomfortable. These people freak out because they think there is

something wrong with them when they feel these ways. They seek to take

something to rid themselves of the eelings. The reality is that it is perfectly

normal to feel these ways t times. These feelings won't kill us.

What is not normal is to seek to get rid of all feelings except happiness.

Your emotions are very

young because they have been put to sleep for many years. You'll never learn

how to manage them if you keep chasing them away with drugs. You don't have to

steep in them. You can allow them to be and go on with your day. Work,

read, watch a movie. You don't have to ay attention to bad

feelings. Once you become more adept at handling and understanding your

feelings you will find that they are actually tools that that help to let you

know that there is something you need to address in your life.

Regards,

------------------------------------

I can't agree more with what

said here, Ikam. Where you are now, I was about 9 months ago. It DOES get

better. For me, I actually wanted to go to work because it was a distraction;

it kept me from focusing on what I was (over)feeling. When I had nothing to do

but think about how I felt, it just made it worse. Distract yourself. I found

physical things best, tho I could not do them for long. I cleaned a lot, did

some filing, did some craft things I had. At night, I found the best thing was

focusing on the diaphragm breathing exercises. I usually had to keep reminding

myself what I was doing, as my thoughts would fly off in ten million different

directions, but eventually I could keep doing it long enough that I dropped

off. The key is perseverance.

And those times when you give up, say you

can't do this any more, that it's not helping... let yourself. I don’t

know how many times I did that, and tried again later and succeeded.

*hugs*!

susan

[Guest guest]

,

thank you for your answer. It is good to hear from somebody who has

gone through a similar experience.

I am usually very good with distracting myself during the day. There

are so many things I like doing! But nights seem to bring all the

thoughts and emotions I try to distract myself from. I guess I need

to convince myself that they will pass away, like last night.

Yes, you are right the key is perseverance. And I am back on track

today...

Ikam

>

> ** Ikam, knowing you now for a while, I would recommend working

on

> letting yourself sit with discomfort and be comfortable with that

> discomfort. People who have been treated as if they " need "

psychotropic

> drugs have been given the message that something is wrong with you

if you

> are unhappy or uncomfortable. These people freak out because they

think

> there is something wrong with them when they feel these ways. They

seek to

> take something to rid themselves of the eelings. The reality is

that it is

> perfectly normal to feel these ways t times. These feelings won't

kill us.

> What is not normal is to seek to get rid of all feelings except

happiness.

>

>

>

> Your emotions are very young because they have been put to sleep

for many

> years. You'll never learn how to manage them if you keep chasing

them away

> with drugs. You don't have to steep in them. You can allow them to

be and

> go on with your day. Work, read, watch a movie. You don't have to

ay

> attention to bad feelings. Once you become more adept at handling

and

> understanding your feelings you will find that they are actually

tools that

> that help to let you know that there is something you need to

address in

> your life.

>

>

>

> Regards,

>

>

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

>

> I can't agree more with what said here, Ikam. Where you

are now, I

> was about 9 months ago. It DOES get better. For me, I actually

wanted to go

> to work because it was a distraction; it kept me from focusing on

what I was

> (over)feeling. When I had nothing to do but think about how I felt,

it just

> made it worse. Distract yourself. I found physical things best, tho

I could

> not do them for long. I cleaned a lot, did some filing, did some

craft

> things I had. At night, I found the best thing was focusing on the

diaphragm

> breathing exercises. I usually had to keep reminding myself what I

was

> doing, as my thoughts would fly off in ten million different

directions, but

> eventually I could keep doing it long enough that I dropped off.

The key is

> perseverance.

>

> And those times when you give up, say you can't do this any more,

that it's

> not helping... let yourself. I don't know how many times I did

that, and

> tried again later and succeeded.

>

>

>

> *hugs*!

>

> susan

>