Re: This was a first..

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You're kidding me! She actually threw something at the door and was

going to call the cops? For what? fixing his pc? Holy cow!

>

> Nada and Fada have been behaving themselves lately...we were 99% NC

but

> because more things than need to be explained, the dynamix have

changed and

> we are now in a situation where a large group of my family has been

forced

> to spend time together....for as brief as spells as I can possibly

arrange.

> (Basically it is the fallout of her burning down my cousin's

restaurant,

> sending him into financial ruin and now he has been forced to move

out here

> and needs all hands on deck to help him out of Illiois)

>

> So my fada who knows absolutely nothing about computers but

maintains that

> he knows everything, asked me last night to take a look at his

computer, he

> had asked my husband to come fix it but it didn't meet my father's

> impossible standards. (Impossible mostly because he wants

perfection yet

> doesn't know what perfection is...all he knows is that whatever

anybody does

> is wrong.) Now here is the positive thing about fada...while he is

BPD, you

> can have an INTELLIGENT arguement with him and I have learned that

when he

> gets in his BPD mode and starts into me I simply treat him like a

child and

> it works...why? Because I am consistant with him.

>

> So I am fixing his computer and he is yelling and screaming at me

like a

> crazy person. I looked at him and said " you have until the count of

3 to be

> quiet and sit in that chair or I am not helping you...1....2.... "

Sure as

> the world he sat down and shut his trap. Well I started to fix his

computer

> and he started lighting into me again. I stopped and said " you

asked me to

> fix this, if you don't think I know what I am doing then perhaps

you should

> have someone else do it....is that what you want? " He sat, actually

pouted

> and said " no " . With that he started mouthing off again and I

merely said

> " this is your last warning, you will speak to me with respect, you

will not

> raise your voice to me and you will not argue with me. If I didn't

have to

> deal with your tantrums I could have this fixed in 3 clicks " . With

that,

> enters Nada (oh boy). 3 clicks, I did a simple system restore and

it was

> back to running the way he wanted. He nastily said " well, is it

fixed " ? I

> said, re-start it and you tell me. Yep, sure enough it was back

and running

> and he actually said " thank you " . As I was leaving he said " what

did you

> do " ? I said " A system restore " . He got mad and yelled " Well I

could have

> done that! " I said " then why didn't you " . As I reached for the

door nada

> stopped me in my tracks because I was laughing. She screamed at

me " Oh, I'm

> glad you think it's so funny....he's treated me like shit for a

week, and I

> don't think it's a bit funny. " I simply said yes...to me it is

funny....to

> watch very grown up people act the way he does is funny...because

his

> actions are completely ridiculous. " She threw something at the

door after I

> left and yelled to me that she was going to call the police.

>

> <Yes....is this the police? I'd like you to please come and arrest

my

> horrible daughter. She came to my house and had the nerve to have

an opinion

> that I did not give her permission to have.>

>

> I don't know if she did or not...lol....she probably did and they

probably

> laughed too!!

>

> --

> Kisses and Nibbles,

> Bunny

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