Guest guest Posted July 25, 2008 Report Share Posted July 25, 2008 If you thought that they were unaware of the destructive affect they have by their behavior, this should dispell all doubts. They probably knew what was in those letters and didn't have the courage to open them. Take it for what it is worth and live your life as you see fit. Be Strong It has been awhile So it has been awhile since I have posted anything. Just to refresh your memory the last time I posted was when I sent not only my Mom but her 3 sisters (the enablers) each a letter by UPS. It pretty much summed up the whole I am the black sheep and I am through living my life like this. I ended it by saying that my mother needed help not to be babied. I sent the letters almost 3 weeks ago. I just received a phone call from UPS saying that my mother and my aunt (who lives with her) sent the letters back saying that they did not live at that address (which they do). Part of me wants to call and ask what they are so afraid of? A letter? I am so furios.. Why though? I knew that they would do something underhanded and seedy. But I am PISSED!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2008 Report Share Posted July 25, 2008 I don't blame you for being pissed. This is a game and you have been given a very undesirable role. There is nothing authentic about it, it's disgusting, and eff them, to be blunt. Eventually they will probably turn on each other with you out of the picture. Then when they eventually do you can pull the 'not at this address b.s.'. I am so sorry, I know it hurts to be ganged up on and defamed, I've been through it. It's so funny to being around my family and being made the bad guy and then being around when they get mad at each other and talk about each other behind the other's back. There are no firm allegiances, everyone is just insincere as can be. It's always 'lets make someone a black sheep' and direct our bile at them. But they really don't like each other either that much, though. These ladies sound like a bunch of idiots; now you know, at least, what they are capable of. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 26, 2008 Report Share Posted July 26, 2008 You've done all you can do -- to keep getting angry at them shows a hope that maybe they'll want to listen to your side and be fair. And we all know that most of the time, BPDs don't play fair. It's time to let them go -- you tried and they rebuffed your attempt to be heard. Sorry that happened -- it does hurt. Taking care of you involves moving ahead anyway, despite what they do. > > So it has been awhile since I have posted anything. Just to refresh > your memory the last time I posted was when I sent not only my Mom but > her 3 sisters (the enablers) each a letter by UPS. It pretty much > summed up the whole I am the black sheep and I am through living my > life like this. I ended it by saying that my mother needed help not to > be babied. I sent the letters almost 3 weeks ago. I just received a > phone call from UPS saying that my mother and my aunt (who lives with > her) sent the letters back saying that they did not live at that > address (which they do). Part of me wants to call and ask what they are > so afraid of? A letter? I am so furios. Why though? I knew that they > would do something underhanded and seedy. But I am PISSED!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2008 Report Share Posted July 27, 2008 To read your letter is to acknowledge there is a problem. Though, even if they had read it, they'd still deny they've done anything. That's the thing about being labeled the bad seed of the family. No one will even ackowledge the problem is real...they'll turn it back on you as being " crazy " or " deranged " or something. Why? Because, they like the status quo. You are there serving as target practice. Trust me. Sometimes, it is just easier to... what is it they say " let go and let God " handle them. > > So it has been awhile since I have posted anything. Just to refresh > your memory the last time I posted was when I sent not only my Mom but > her 3 sisters (the enablers) each a letter by UPS. It pretty much > summed up the whole I am the black sheep and I am through living my > life like this. I ended it by saying that my mother needed help not to > be babied. I sent the letters almost 3 weeks ago. I just received a > phone call from UPS saying that my mother and my aunt (who lives with > her) sent the letters back saying that they did not live at that > address (which they do). Part of me wants to call and ask what they are > so afraid of? A letter? I am so furios. Why though? I knew that they > would do something underhanded and seedy. But I am PISSED!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2008 Report Share Posted July 28, 2008 h.mize--when I read your post, I chuckled a little. I know, it's easier when it's not your family--I'd be pissed too, but just picturing the old crones involving UPS in their cover-up and denying that they live where they live in order to deny getting your letter so that they can ultimately deny their mistreatment of you . . .well, it's a good one. It's interesting that you have to ask yourself why you're pissed. If a " normal " person who was not raised in a BPD family had this kind of thing happen, they'd probably blow a fuse. I think being pissed is an " appropriate response " as my first therapist used to tell me. By the way, recently, I was relating a typical nada meltdown to my new therapist. I wasn't angry, because I'd become accustomed to it, but he reminded me, paused the conversation and just said--literally, " that really sucks. " And it's a good reminder. Because the fact that we can anticipate the madness and can come to expect it doesn't make it any more acceptable. You might never get them to face what you wrote in your letter or even discuss it with you, much less apologize or change their ways. You know that, right? It's good that you wrote the letter, it means you're sticking up for yourself and asserting yourself and who knows where that will lead? Maybe you just need a nice long break from all of them. If it were me, I'd refuse contact with them until they admitted receiving the letter at least. But then, I relish any break from my FOO. Trish > > So it has been awhile since I have posted anything. Just to refresh > your memory the last time I posted was when I sent not only my Mom but > her 3 sisters (the enablers) each a letter by UPS. It pretty much > summed up the whole I am the black sheep and I am through living my > life like this. I ended it by saying that my mother needed help not to > be babied. I sent the letters almost 3 weeks ago. I just received a > phone call from UPS saying that my mother and my aunt (who lives with > her) sent the letters back saying that they did not live at that > address (which they do). Part of me wants to call and ask what they are > so afraid of? A letter? I am so furios. Why though? I knew that they > would do something underhanded and seedy. But I am PISSED!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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