Re: how lucky

[Guest guest]

AWWW! WARM FUZZIES!!!

>

> I so miss posting and visiting here regularly....and though the

people

> at Oz are compassionate and give good insights....they are not you

guys.

>

> I know the how hard it is to survive a bp parent- here I sit

doing

> that each day...but I swear to you, the partners of the bp show

such a

> pain too. No one's pain or hearts I am trying to judge here- it all

> hurts to the core of our souls...it so to amazing how different the

> pain is revealed.

>

> Even the whole Nc- thing is different, if you have a bp spouse

you

> get a divorce, a document society stamps their seal of approval on,

> however go nc with a parent- and their is no seal of

approval..except

> the one you give yourself- and those who love you and truly

understand

> what you have gone through.

>

> Where I see such a huge similiarity is this huge hope- they are

> going to change, things will get better- but when it is our parent

and

> we are no longer living with that parent, we can do it from afar.

When

> it is your partner you are living with- it is an everyday- in your

face

> situation.

>

> I also see people struggling to realize- they can't change them-

> even when the stakes are high, and children they share are

> involved..that is what just puts me over the top...I know how much

a bp

> parent can hurt their children--hello- here I am.

>

> I truly know though- this group and Oz- has truly been a life-

> saver- I know I am not alone...I know I can come here and receive

hope,

> empathy, compassion, respect and love.--and it is CONSISTENT!

>

> Something nada, nor husband could give me, but you all showed

we

> are all capable of giving that to ourselves and yes to bothers.

>

> So I just wanted to remind all of you- despite the soil you

> where raised in- you bloomed into some amazing human beings. How

lucky

> I am to have you in my life.

>

> malinda

>