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[Guest guest]

Does anyone else see something wrong about posting someones personal

e-mail in a public forum without their permission? I always thought

this was akin to taping a personal phone conversations and allowing

others to listen. While I'm not taking sides on this issue - as I

haven't looked into it deeply enough to form a well informed opinion, I

do know that I would be really bummed if someone posted some of my

e-mail publicly without asking first. Do we have any policies on this?

(Krista?) Are we actually even a 'public' forum?

Again, for the record, I am not approving the removal of Krista's

little one's memorial. While I reserve judgement on herself

(although from what I've read - I'm not impressed), I condemn the

action. Very hurt or very sad people sometimes do very inconsiderate

things. Very mean and selfish people do this as well. I can't say

which category is in. If she is in the latter, I'm concerned

that we are adding fuel to her fire by responding to her at all. We

know in our heart of hearts that the decisions we made were right for

us, then she (and everyone else with similar opinions) is simply not a

threat. Just someone making noise. Attention seeking. I suspect this

is the case because she seems to have no interest in reading our

e-mails, but expects that we thoroughly digest hers. She then goes on

to assume that what she has said is so important that we would be

compelled to respond, which she asks us not to do. Enough of my

armchair psych...

That being said, we do have the right, and perhaps the obligation, to

defend things that are sacred to us. If she is only going to read the

first sentences of our e-mails, lets make them count:

" Dear ,

Removing a beloved's memorial is thoughtless at best, and heartless at

worst - regardless of the politics behind the decision. "

Anyway, I know that this approach is different than a lot of group

members here. Please do not take it as a personal offence! Kudo's for

speaking your mind! Just another view on this unfortunate situation...

Becca