Newbie survey - my answers

[Guest guest]

Other than the REAL first name that you have now, if you could change

your name, what would you change it to?

Um… I actually like my name but I did pick Grace when I got confirmed

a few years ago.

What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?

Butter pecan

What is your favorite color?

Red

What part of the country do you live in? (ex. Northeast, west

coast,Northwest)

Northeast

Other than this group, how many people do you have that

understand what you are going through and support you?

My husband, my three good girlfriends, and my father

After dealing with the BP in your life, how do you deal/cope with

your feelings?

I normally talk it out with my dad and husband.

Do you feel sympathetic for the BP in your life?

I do. I believe in forgiveness and no one is perfect. I feel lucky to

have the strength I do to deal with this and avoid the same fate. I

do love her, and some where in there I know she loves me too.

Do you thing the BPD is a disorder that cannot be helped (do you

think they were just BORN with this affliction) or do you think it

is a conscious decision they made?

I do think they can get help. I'm pretty sure I was on the same path,

realized it very early on, and took measures to stop it. But I also

feel like they may reach a point where help won't help. I do not

think they are born this way.

Can an extroverted 'personality' change to an introverted one?

No, but they can learn to adjust their behavior.

What is your current status with the BP in your life?

We email almost every day about various things. I just ignore the bad

as much as I can when it comes up. The kicker, and what makes life

and people challenging, is sometimes she's great and a good support.

She's smart and funny and can be quite perceptive. I concentrate on

the good as much as I can.

Are you currently split white or black?

I have and always will be the no-good child, but some times are

better than others. Right now it's better.

After a confrontation with the BPD in your life, how do you feel

when the event is over (ex. angry, frustrated, guilty, sympathetic,

hopeless, helpless...you get the idea.

Hurt and angry.

What movie/show (other than the Wizard of Oz) do you think comes

the closest to resembling your relationship with the BPD in your

life?

O, that's a good one I'll have to think about.

What is something that we don't know and would never guess about

you?

I'm a classical singer. I was also a child actor.

What is your happiest memory?

Opening nights. My mother was always really happy then and I felt

loved which was not a frequent experience. O, and my wedding and

birth of my frist child, but I assumed you were referring to

childhood.

What celebrity do you find attractive but you know that it's a

'guilty pleasure'and that you probably shouldn't be attracted to

them(from Girlscout Cowboy)

Heath Ledger – what a loss!

If you were a flower, what would you be (from Girlscout Cowboy)