Guest guest Posted November 27, 2001 Report Share Posted November 27, 2001 And many prayers back to you, Lilian! I pray Allan can improve and you get much better quickly also. Sending you love, healing thoughts and prayers, Lana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2002 Report Share Posted January 10, 2002 I am thousands behind on my e-mail but wanted you to know that Allan's cancer has spread to his brain and he has two tumours. He was admitted to hospital on Monday and an MRI scan was done in the afternoon. We got the results on Tuesday and the prognosis is that he has only weeks to live. One tumour is deep in the brain behind the eyebrows and the other is in the cerebellum. This one has caused his drastic deterioration from the 27th December to the 7th January by which time he was bouncing off walls, sleeping 20 hours of the 24 each day and when awake having his face in the sick bowl. His co-ordination is also gone and his mental capacity has diminished greatly along with his comprehension. Since being admitted to hospital on Monday he has been put back on steroids and his walking has improved. The girls have been called for and are flying up from London this afternoon. I am hoping that Allan is well enough to at least get a weekend pass from the hospital so that we can have some quality time together outside the hospital environment. The girls fly back to London on Tuesday afternoon and will not be recalled until near the end when I hope they can say their final goodbyes to their dad before he dies and they will stay until after the funeral. At that time their partners will also be able to come with them, but this time it will be the four of us together as a family for the last time. It is Joy's birthday on Monday so at some point during the weekend I hope we can all manage out for a birthday meal with her, but that depends on how well Allan is. I know many of you are remembering me in your prayers and I thank you for all your support during these past 6 months. You have given me strength and courage to face each day. Blessings, love and hugs, Lilian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Lilian, This is simply devastating news. I can only offer you prayers and hugs and hope that this weekend is filled with time to share, enjoy one another's company and just simply be a complete family again. I wish it were under better circumstances though. Jill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Oh Lilian I am so terribly sorry --what awful news! You and Allan have been through so much struggle and pain. I'm at least glad that you've had each other through it all. My prayer for you, is for grace --for support and easing of the challenges that remain for you on this journey. You are most definitely not alone. love Louise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Lilian, Lana put her feelings of sorrow and compassion so well that all I can do is echo them... I wish for Allan as gentle a passing as possible ... I wish for you and your family much comfort and love and know that your presence and unwavering commitment has been deeply appreciated... take good care of yourself now, Dear, Hugs, Cheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2002 Report Share Posted February 18, 2002 Dear Lilian, Keeping you and in my prayers. Please take care. Love, Sue Ginley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2002 Report Share Posted February 18, 2002 Oh, Lilian, I am so very sorry for you! This is such a very hard thing to go through. I went through this with my sister, but I can't imagine doing it with a spouse! My heart breaks for you. I am glad they are taking Allan to Hospice. They were so wonderful with my sister and all of us. They do everything they can possibly do to make sure the person is not in any pain. That's a huge relief for the family, just knowing that they're not in pain and that someone who's been trained in all of this is around to guide/take over, whatever. Even after my sis passed, they were wonderful. I hope your experience with them is the very best...for you and especially for Allan. Please know that you are in my prayers, and that I send you loving thoughts from across the ocean. You will be very blessed and have many stars in your crown from your loving care when it is your time to join Allan. Know that you are not alone, and if there's anything I can ever do, just say it and it's done. Love Lana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2002 Report Share Posted February 18, 2002 Take care of Allan and yourself! L, N __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2002 Report Share Posted February 19, 2002 sending prayers for you both, m'dear... Louise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2002 Report Share Posted February 28, 2002 don't worry about replying, my friend just know that we're here for you, with you with lots of love Louise > Allan Update > > > Allan was admitted to the Hospice on 19th February to see if they can > solve the problem of nausea and sickness. He is improved but they > have not solved the problem, it keep recurring. He was very > disappointed to learn that he cannot come home tomorrow as he had > hoped. He has really not settled there and I decided to approach the > problem from a different angle. I suggested I be admitted to the > Hospice on Friday p.m. and come home on Monday morning. He will be > taken by ambulance to the Beatson Oncology Unit for a follow up visit > to his radiotherapy and drug trial, and I shall meet him there. then > have another MRI and I have a car from Lanarkshire Cancer Care to > bring us home on Monday 6 p.m. > > As we have not been away together since our remarriage in October, it > will be an odd honeymoon, but then we are the odd couple!!!! > > We have a case conference this afternoon to arrange home care so they > better get their fingers out as we will need them to be in place for > Tuesday morning. > > Thank you all for your support and prayers during these last months. > A warm welcome to our new members, sorry I cannot reply to all the > e-mails but as our EDS family understands, there are times when being > a 'lurker' happens to us all. > > Blessings, love and hugs, > > Lilian > in Scotland > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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